Separation,what's the effect?
February 5, 2007 4:41am CST
Does it really affect your kids when a couple separates? Or it really depends how you explain t to your children why you are separating?
• United States
6 Feb 07
It really depends on how old the child(ren) is. My son's father and I separated when he was 2 years old, so I never saw any kind of behavioral or emotional change. Not to say that it doesn't affect him. He is 6 now and his father lives in Maryland and I in North Carolina. He goes to stay with his father every summer and towards the end of his visit he tends to get a little home sick, as is the case when he's away from his father during the school year. When I did make the decision that it was time to explain to him why mommy and daddy don't live together, I simply told him that mommy and daddy are still friends and that he is the glue that keeps our friendship together. He seemed to find a little humor in that.
5 Feb 07
I guess, that effects your kids for sure. Even if the separation is peaceful. Imagine yourself being a kid. My husband´s parents got separated when he was about 11 years old. Even though the separation was peaceful and civilized, the says that it has forever changed his life and effected his little brother´s emotional behaviour. On the other hand, living in a family where parents don´t love each other, cheat, or fight might be even more hurtful for kids. So, finally the choice is your depending on a situation.