keep or call off the punishment?

@milagre (1272)
Portugal
February 5, 2007 8:05am CST
My daughter 15yrs is at her punishing week, she skiped 2 classes, so i said she couldnt get out the whole week, including weekend (which is the hardest part). The problem is that she received an invitation to attend a party, next saturday, at one of the most influent family's house in my country (she recently met and kept contact with one of this family's daughter). As sometimes these contacts stay for life and sometimes they are important, should i keep the punishment or should i let her go?
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@XxAngelxX (2832)
• Canada
5 Feb 07
I have always tried very hard to keep my word to my children, even when it comes to punishment. I feel if you go back on a punishment , the children will learn that there are certain things they can get away with and that you don't mean what you say. As hard as it may be to do, I think you should stick with the punishment. She did something wrong and has to learn there are consequences for misbehaving.
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• United States
5 Feb 07
i would let her go to the party since it is one of the country's most influential people. i would keep the punishment until then and resume punishment after she is home from the party. that way she can go to the party and maybe even have a good contact for her. but she will also have the punishment for the rest of the week and when she gets home. she'll learn from this since you aren't calling the entire punishment off.
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
6 Feb 07
I think, if i go back with my word and to let her go, for this once, i will change the saturday punishement for a domestic hard work, after all i need some good cleaningas in the house. Txs
@nw1911guy (1134)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Well, due to the fact I think it might also be considered an insult to the family if your daughter wasn't allowed to go, I would make an exception for this one event. You're punishing her in the here and now, not the future and that is one that sounds as though it could have potential future ramifications.
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
6 Feb 07
Didnt think about it could be consider an insult. You might be right, i will have to think about it better, but i really dont like to go back with my word. Maybe if i give her some domestic hard work at home in a change, but still dont know. Txs
@AyaMiami (96)
• United States
5 Feb 07
I think I would keep the punishment. If the person who invited her to the party is a real friend, they will understand, and still be her friend even if she's not at the party. Skipping class is pretty bad and you should stick to the punishment you've set out. Don't send out the message that you can get out of trouble if you have something exciting to do.
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
6 Feb 07
I think you're right, but someone said in this discussion that the family might consider an insult if she doesnt go. For one side i think i shouldnt take my word back, but in the other side im a bit worry about the insult suggestion. txs