What is truly a perversion? Abortion. What are the real issues here?

@saralee1 (1983)
United States
February 5, 2007 2:17pm CST
I only knew two people my entire life, who had abortions. One, was a lady in her 40's who already had two mouths to feed as a single mother, and another was my crazy and wild friend in High School. neither one of them were capable of taking on this burden of another child. both of them were single, and barely surviving, trying to make ends meet. So, is abortion truly an alternative? what are your thoughts?
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@lauriefnp (5112)
• United States
5 Feb 07
I believe in and support a woman's right to choose abortion as an alternative. I don't approve of people who have repeated abortions as a form of birth control; I think that is sick and wrong. If a woman makes a huge mistake and ends up pregnant, she should have the right to choose keeping the baby vs. giving it up for adoption vs. abortion. There are pros and cons to all choices, and anyone can see that one choice does NOT necessarily work for all. If a woman has an abortion, she should have the sense of responsibility and moral integrity to be sure that she chooses and consistently uses a reliable form of birth control in the future. In the case of these women, let's consider the teenager first. If she chose to keep the baby, she would have had a very difficult time finishing school and making something of her life. If she gave the baby up for adoption, she would have all of the emotional issues of the pregnancy and then giving the baby up to strangers to deal with. She chose abortion, which has its own issues to deal with, but it was probably a good choice for her. In the case of a middle-aged woman, you have to consider her health first of all, and then the health of her baby because of her age. These are major issues to be considered. I do believe that abortion should continue to be an option. I think that there are times when it is truly the best option.
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@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
5 Feb 07
yes, I certainly agree. Although I am all for Pro Life, and for me personally, I doubt I would not choose abortion, there are conditions where to have a baby at any given time would be extremely harmful. there is 9 months of your life, that you cannot goto school, or provide shelter for your family. and in the case ofthe teenage daughter, the mother was familiar with the quality of life her daughter and child would have. If anyone knows what heroin can do to a child, I am sure you'd agree.
@loved1 (5337)
• United States
5 Feb 07
I think there is almost always another choice. Why couldn't they have given their babies up for adoption? Why didn't they go to the free clinic and get some birth control? I know accidents happen but abortion would not be on my list of possible solutions.
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@loved1 (5337)
• United States
6 Feb 07
It is never a good situation when you have to consider abortion. Although I have never had one myself, I have accompanied a friend when she had one. I cried the whole time I sat in the waiting room. All these years later she is still haunted by the memory of it.
@Marie2473 (8521)
• Sweden
5 Feb 07
i belive that u should be able to choose and that the choise should be ava ilable to you and the father. How ever I do not agree when people not use protection and use abortion as a birth-control...
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@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
5 Feb 07
I thnk I know what you are talking about here. Even though I hve not personally known stories of women who use abortion as a form of birth control, I know it happens! I really does send shivers up my spine, and I think of people like Charles Manson or something!
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
Unwanted pregnancies should be a thing of the past by now considering the very varied methods of contraception available for everyone. It is one reality that we cannot stop people from getting into the exercise of love making when it is not proper but, at least, getting them pregnant can be put to a halt. Abortion is such a bad thing to be resorted to. There are so many complications there aside from its being such a big sin. Please, for those who go make love just for the sake of it, take precautions so you will never ever get pregnant.
@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Hey, I totally agree, truly I do! a life is a precious thing, shouldn't be wasted. It is sad when people find themselves in complicated situations such as these. Not all of them are sinners, but it seems they all pay the terrible price of knowing what they did, in order to survive. I only wish I had the opportunity to have kids, but probably won't. Life justdoesn't work the way you wantit, it has to have it's interesting twists!
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@Zebrochka (333)
• Brazil
8 Feb 07
I am not going to depefend those who do abortions or those who are totally against it. My point is, I strongly believe that is every one's personal choice. If you are Christian (or whatever other religion that could be) and you believe in God, and you agree that it is a sin - then it is wrong for you to do it, and it is a sin. On the other hand, the Christian religion doesn't rule my world, so I believe in my right to do whatever I consider to be right to my body and to whatever is a part of it, as long it is a part of it. I do also recognize the 100% responsibility that is going to sit on my shoulders for doing whatever I do.
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@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
8 Feb 07
Ah yes! tolerance to others beliefs. and, to others opinions as well. You can still not agree with abortion, and not do it, and yet understand why others may choose to do so. I know without a doubt if I was pregnant I would carry it to term, but I have also been blessed with the ability to be able to raise my child in an environment safe from harm.
@crickethear (1420)
• United States
6 Feb 07
My idea of what perversion truly is, is someone whose thinking is dark, and or perverted. Like child molestors. They to me are the definition of perversion. Someone who like to hurt other people, and animals is also perversion. Abortion in my opinion is necessary in situations. It shouldn't be used as means of birth control, but if a woman is raped, or her health is in jeopardy, or some other extenuating circumstance, then I see nothing wrong with it. It is between them and God.
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@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
7 Feb 07
well, you are right! this is a decision between the mother and GOD. and, the boyfriend/husband or significant other as well (minus scrupulous people) ultimately, it should be up to the woman, using her best judgement, and weighing all of her options. I always have great respect for families who supporttheir daughters through these hard decisions, because back in my mothers days, they simply through the child out to the wolves. very sad indeed!
@jbhull81 (53)
• United States
6 Feb 07
to me abortion should only accure fro a few reasons one being rape i think it can be an option the other if the chil in question would not be able to have a prosporouse growth in life parents that dont care or for one reason or another wouldnt be able to take care of said child but at the same time just not being able to care for them is border line because there is adoption
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@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
7 Feb 07
adoption however, is only an option if the mother doesn't have to work, or goto school during her pregnancy. If she has to support herself, and works, oh, at a factory or something where she has to be on her feet all day, it just isn't fair to the mother, because of complications. have to take all of this into consideration!
@hariharbhat (1314)
• India
6 Feb 07
It is better to go for abortion,under the circumstances you have told.It is not advisable to put yourself in great difficulties by giving birth when you could not meet two ends. It is better to repent for the cautions not exercised or for the acts which the society has no approval.
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@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
6 Feb 07
This is a very liberal way of thinking, hariharbhat, you know, alot of people would disagree with you,who are pro-life. However, the Pro-choice people would definately agree with you, being more compassionate towards the persons situations!
• United States
5 Feb 07
ok i personally wouldnt ever have one. but its fee choice. i think if they arent capable of taking care of a child then let them make the desion. would you rather them try to care for the child taking state taxes ect.. as for adoption.. what if they werent mentaly capable of carring a child.. or physically?
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@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Yes, it is the mother's choice. When I personally know someone, I know their situation, and I hope for the best! they are already in a very stressful time and certainly do not need me dictating how to live their life. However, I always look for a way to preserve that life, if there maybe any alternatives, and they have asked me. My third friend was actually a teacher of mine(the one who had the affair) I was very touched that she would talk to me about the situation. It worked out well for her, but it made me realize we need to be more in touch, and sensitive to our friends and their choices.