should i get back to her?
February 6, 2007 1:46pm CST
i had a friend which i lost ties around 2 years ago. she used to call me almost 5 times a day and we had a lot of stuffs common. she used to understand me like no one else. we always used to have a great time. we couldnt think a single moment without eachother. everyone sayd we are like twins. we used to fight each and everyday but she used to love me like crazy and i still love her like crazy tooo from our early times. though we were best frnds. never thought to be her boy friend. i mean i wasnt thinking like that. she used to say everything about her and i told my secrets too....everything was cool until we havent had any contact for a week. i screwd up with my exams and, i was too busy and couldnt give her a call. i didnt know she's got a date coz we didnt have any conversation for a week as she didnt call me up too. she knew i was having exam and might not manage to call her up. but i didnt think she would stop calling me. so i was wondering what was up. when i was done with my exam i called her up and asked why she didnt call me up. we had a normal conversation and everything was fine but i felt like she was hiding something from me and i was wondering what was that! a few days later i felt like she is having a date and asked her if my guess was right, she kept silent for few moments and said she was dating with a guy from last week while i was busy with my exam. i didnt have any problem with her boy friend and it was good for her as she used to feel sad about having no bf. but i got pissd of as she didnt tell me and asked, why didnt u tell me? she kept silent again and said, i though you wont appreciate. i was wondering why wouldnt i! and told her i had no problem but indeed she pissed me off keeping it a secret. then i started to call her like i did it be4. but she started to call me less everyday. after a month she started to call me once in a week and it was weired, i mean i wasnt happy with that. i shouted on her and said if she can call me everyday i will be with her or i will not be there anymore, all of a sudden she said i wont stop u if u want to break the friendship and i was wondering what was up! i said okay im done with this boolshit and i dont want u to call me never in my life and i wont call u up. i thought she will call me up coz we did this before and she used to call me up everytime i stopped talking to her. i have been waiting for her call. i know i being a jerk i didnt call her from that time but she could call me. now 2 years has gone by, she didnt call me for once and i still love her like crazy, still miss her everyday and whenever my phone rings i hear her voice like she's for real. i dont wanna call her up but i miss her a lot. we have lots of picture togather and few days back i found one in my desk, she was hugging me and kissing me in my check and i was smiling like a dumb! we took that picture after we had a fight. that was a sweet mamory. until now i miss her like crazy and sometimes feel like i should call her up at least for once for god shake just to say 'hi'. what should i do? do you think getting back to her is the best idea? its really bugging me.
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6 Feb 07
If you still have her number, give her a call. If she doesn't want to speak to you, I'm sure she'll let you know. If she's willing to re-start the friendship, then that's great...But, you'll never know what's going to happen unless you give it a shot. If you do get in touch, you should definitely apologize to her for the way things ended. It sounds like you could've handled things a bit better, from what you said in your post...Granted, she could've handled things differently as well, but she was probably annoyed with you for yelling/getting mad at her because she went a week or whatever without calling you...Sounds more like a jealous BF than a best friend. Good luck.
7 Feb 07
o comon man dont call me a jelous boy friend! hell no! i mean may b u r right and may b i am wrong but how do u know? i have never felt like that way. i just miss her a lot. okay may b that was my fault and i could have handled things better but anyway u gave me a good point of view. and thnx for the advice. i need to know if others think the same and ill wait for a few more responses and ill do what majority says. lets see what is up with her!
11 Feb 07
i agree with you.If you still have her number, give her a call!me too facing some problem with my love!and by apologizing you don't loose any thing,but you can gain something,your love!sometime you have to do things to last your love.say a sorry and love her more than you did in past.i am sure she will excuse you!i can understand her feeling.and sure she too loves you!
12 Feb 07
thnx for your response nadia. i know i love her and i think she still remembers me. well honestly enough i dont think she loves me. she had that boy friend and i think she's still with him and prosibilities are they got married. and i was wondering if i go back to her whether that would be a mess to her life. also i doubt she still has the place for me. and why would i go back to her coz im just a friend to her and she doesnt need any friend any more coz she have her bf?