My 2 yr old daughter is hardly eating anything!!!

United States
February 6, 2007 2:06pm CST
I need some help please... My daughter turned 2 in November. I never really had a problem with her sitting down to eat but lately, she doesn't want to eat much of anything. Her doctor says this is normal but it concerns me. I have 4 other children (12,15,18 and 20). I don't remember them refusing to eat!
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
6 Feb 07
It is normal, some children go through those stages. She will eat when she is hungry. Make sure she has plenty of choices and dont force her to eat. You wont win. Just set the plate down in front of her and let her eat. Even if its only a bite or two. When she is done take her plate away and dont give her anything else to eat until the next meal. She will eat. I went through the same thing with my son when he was two. He is now 21 and a fine young man. Healthy in every way.
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• United States
7 Feb 07
She doesn't really snack thru out the day. I just try to offer her something every two hous and most times she refuses.
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@mbarryton (1872)
• United States
6 Feb 07
my son who is 7 still goes thru that. i dont think its really to much to worry about. if his doctor says its normal i wouldnt worry to much about it. when she gets hungry trust me shell eat
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• United States
7 Feb 07
It's crazy, I wish my older kids would eat less and the baby eat more. LOL
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@apky12 (769)
• United States
6 Feb 07
I would recommend going out and buying Pediasure for her. I had to do that with my first son b/c he wasn't gaining enough weight and didn't eat that much. It has a lot of vitamins in it and if she doesn't eat anything she's still getting calories and nutrition. He liked the chocolate the best. It was a phase because my son eats a lot now.
• United States
6 Feb 07
My daughter had a descent appetite and it seem like one day she woke up and said I'm on a diet or something. Thanks for suggesting Pedisure. I'm surprised my doctor didn't suggest it. I get some tonight!
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• United States
7 Feb 07
I think diffrent drinks will make her hungry like milk or something
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• United States
7 Feb 07
I have been giving her apple juice and gatorade. I usually give her milk in the morning and the evening about an hour before bed. She drinks plenty of water.
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• United States
6 Feb 07
I have a baby also but she eats for now because she is only 3 months old, But I also have a 18 month old baby sister. Her on the other hand is just starting to refuse table food now also. She'll drink some of her bottle but the she and then push it away. The Ped. told my mom also this is normal. All chrildren are diffrent and they'll eat when they're hungry enough!! Who ever recommended Pediasure knows what they're talking about, but dont exspect her to eat when drinking the pedisure because that decreases there appitite. The pediasure is a filler but has all the nutrients they need. Hopefully all goes we'll and she will eat for you soon!!! Keep up the Good Work!!
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• United States
6 Feb 07
Thanks, it makes me feel a whole lot better to know this is common problem with kids. I just want to make sure she stays healthy. Cute baby!
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• United States
17 Feb 07
Yes, it's amazing what a little bit of great advice from everyone can accomplish. Her tests came back fine, so it wasn't anything medical which is a very big relief. Thanks for your concern.
• United States
17 Feb 07
Thanks!! Hope all is well with the little one!
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• Netherlands
6 Feb 07
Every one is different, so don't be alarmed just because you haven't come accross this before. My 4 year old son cycles between eating fine and barely eating at all. He will always eat a little something, but often only one or two bites. Our bodies tell us when we need something, and your daughter may just be very good at listening to her body. It isn't our physiology that tells us to eat three times every day, it's culture. If she is hungry, she will eat, and if her body needs something, she will let you know. I would make sure that everything offered to her is high in nutritional value, so when she does eat she is getting the most out of it that she can. And as long as she is still drinking and not rapidly loosing weight (more than average for an active 2 year old), try to relax and be happy that she is able to recognize the difference between needing food and wanting it. Of course, mom always knows best, you know your child and we don't, but that is my experience - I hope it helps.
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• United States
7 Feb 07
That's what I am hoping. It' almost like she gets bored with food. One day she will eat something and the next day she will be like eeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwww gross.
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• United States
7 Feb 07
just give her the small stuff and work her to the big stuff.just like u did when she was small
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@aafor2 (25)
• Canada
7 Feb 07
have u tried deworming her? if u have, then u will need to force her to eat because she needs all the food she can take now for good development.
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• United States
8 Feb 07
No, I doubt very much that she has worms. I would assume with worms she would be hungry. I don't know because I have never known anyone to have worms.
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
well, you can try feeding her, do it as a play to her, say ahh and put food in her mouth in a playful manner, i am sure she will enjoy and eat at the same time, and most of all eat together as she will learn to eat good food from you..goodluck
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• United States
7 Feb 07
Thanks, I have tried the games while eating, but she has had no interest. I will keep trying though, maybe one day she will find it entertaining and take a bite.
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I have a two year old little boy, and it seems he eats in spurts.. He'll eat really well for a couple of months, then all of a sudden I can barely get him to take a bite. I remember after he had just turned 2, that he went for about 3-4 weeks, barely eating anything. I got really concerned of course, but my doc told me to just wait it out..and sure enough, he got his appetite back. So it's problably very normal, and as long as the doc. isn't worried.. I would try not to worry. Good luck!
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• United States
8 Feb 07
Hopefully, the same thing is going on with my daughter. It just seems so strange, as a parent you can't help but to worry. Thanks
@Tetchie (2932)
• Australia
7 Feb 07
Here's a suggestion if you're open minded. Her loss of appetite may be energetic, not physical. If you are able, spend some quality time with her. Your twelve year old may want to help too if she/he is not yet fully into puberty! If she is affectionate, get her to lie down and place your hand on her belly. It will relax her in large measure, that's a side effect. Just let her have the experience. The belly in essence is a mix of qualities. Primarily it is a sook and can get upset at the oddest things which can effect diet. Your own hand and what you emit from it can have a healing effect in itself. Moreso it will heat her belly and rearrangements can take place. At worst it should be a lovely experience for her. Send message if you like.
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• United States
7 Feb 07
Sounds interesting and I will give it a try. I don't see any harm in it. Maybe she just needs to relax! She's like a little fireball of energy.
@kirokiro (95)
• Malaysia
7 Feb 07
I had the same situation. In my case, mine is only at 2month old. He just doesn't want to drink milk or anything except water. I was alarm as my baby sitter had never face such problem before , she told me your son is different. I brought him to doc, and he told me not to worry, it might be colic problem, stomach ache, teething...etc... So until now he is already 10 month old. He is still refuse to eat much. His weight gain is good. Probably every child has different manner. If she gain weight well.. let her be. As your child is already 2 years old. Maybe you can try telling her that eating will make her grow taller, and become a beautiful lady someday. If she told you she is on diet. You must check your conversation between adults in the house. 1) Did you or your family member usually complainof getting too fat? Or indicate that you want to go on diet? 2) Did she doesn't like a certain food that you usually gave? Bring her to a shelter home for a visit and let her see people with little food and how they feel. Teach her to appreciate food. She will be alright. 2 yrs old is the time for MANY MANY questions.
• United States
7 Feb 07
No one here really talks about dieting and I'm not sure she would really understand that concept at 2 years old. Maybe if she was a little closer to 3 she might.
• Australia
7 Feb 07
My step daughter was like that , it must be a girl thing !! most girl go through that stage of their life where they bearly eat much !!
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• United States
7 Feb 07
I didn't realize how many people have had this problem and I'm glad to know it's only a phase.
@essilem (286)
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
I have a two year son too, he can be quite picky, but whenever he sees me eat and i offer him some he is most usually willing to take a bite, but given a plate of his own he would not touch his food. I suggest you go through the chore of feeding your little one until his appetite pick up again. goodluck!
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• United States
8 Feb 07
That's interesting, maybe if I didn't make her a plate she would eat off of mine. Good suggestion, thanks!
• China
7 Feb 07
Hello,I'm sorry,I hope that self can have helped you very much,but I also a child.Not have exprienced although I am already 20-year-old,from a family,given birth to children ,I can only loylty's pray for you and your child,wish that your whole family is happy everyday.
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• United States
7 Feb 07
Thank you for your concern and your prayers.
@stelyano (22)
• Romania
7 Feb 07
Try to give her to eat in the morning and at dinner , maybe she doesn`t like the usualy food , try to give her something else , something like vegetables soupe wich is very good . Hope she will be able to eat again like always !
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• United States
8 Feb 07
She used to enjoy vegetable soup, now hse refuses to eat it. Thanks..
@zuri25 (2125)
• United States
6 Feb 07
I had the exact same problem when my daughter turned two years old. She was always a pretty good eater as a baby and then she suddenly didn't want anything I put in front of her. I didn't panic though because I knew it was a normal kid thing. My daughter is about to turn three years old and I still have difficulty getting her to sit down and eat a meal. Sometimes she will eat anything I give her, other times she refuses to eat anything except scrambled eggs. So I give her scrambled eggs. I know it's worrysome and frustrating, but keep in mind, she will eat when she is hungry enough. Perhaps try supplementing with Pediasure or Nutripals just so she gets something in her stumach. Encourage her to eat, but don't try to force her because then she really won't eat anything. Also, try keeping portions low becuase then eating won't seem so daunting to her. She can always have seconds!
• United States
7 Feb 07
Thanks, I remember my daughter eating a grill cheese sandwich everyday for about 2 weeks. Now, she won't LOL.
@gotcho0O (1257)
• United States
6 Feb 07
I don't know much about this thing because I'm not a parent yet. But you know what? I think there's solutions to this like foods which gives babies or kids an appetite to eat healthy yummies.
• United States
7 Feb 07
I never heard of any food that increases one's appetite. I know there's medication to help with eating. That's something I want to avoid.
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@dmajkc (196)
• United States
6 Feb 07
It could be anything. Is she sick with a cold or the flu? If she is sometimes the cold medicines affect the taste buds so that food doesn't taste the same. If she is not sick, it's probably nothing. At that age she may be asserting her independence to where she has control over what/when she eats. Or it could be she is more interested in playing than eating. If she is not losing weight, and it only happens occasionally I wouldn't worry. If she is, take her in to the Doctor before you start pumping her w/Pediasure. The reason is that the drink was designed to replace electrolytes lost during an illness/surgery/malnutrition.
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• United States
7 Feb 07
no, she isn't sick. The doctor did order some blood work and a stool sample. Better to be safe.
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• United States
6 Feb 07
You really should listen to your doctor, as long as she is progressing on her growth chart and isn't developmentally behind you really shouldn't worry about her eating. With my daughter eating was her little way of asserting her power, there are two things a child this young can control what goes in and where it comes out (so to speak). One thing I did for her at my doctors suggestion was to set up a snack tray. On the tray were healthy food choices then when it was time to eat she could eat what the family was eating or could choose from the tray this way she was able to decide on her own what to eat, this made a big difference, no more fighting at meal time. More and more she choose to eat with the family and now we have no problems.
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• United States
7 Feb 07
Great idea, I do a crazy plate thru out the day and see if she will pick from it. I usally get her to help me. She likes washing the fruit.
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• Grand Junction, Colorado
6 Feb 07
I too have experienced this along with many friends, it is quite normal. I was told the same thing by the peditrician, not to worry. So long as your child isn't showing signs of significant weight loss and is drinking fluids then you shouldn't be alarmed, however if you have noticed any of the above mentioned or pain in the abdomen I would immediately head back to the dr or hospital. One other thing, leaving snacks that are healthy around the house such as cherrio's can be away to get in small amounts of food. Or this could be the reason that she doesn't eat as she does get these things throughout the day? With so many people in the house is it possible that she gets food from them? Then you offer and she isn't hungary as she has already eaten. Just a thought. Again not to worry, most times it truly is normal. Good luck to you here at mylot!
• United States
7 Feb 07
My daughter and I are usually home by ourselves in the morning. Everyone else is usally at work or school. I will pay closer attention to what's going on in the evening.
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@Carrie26 (1587)
• United States
6 Feb 07
You're not alone! My son has his days as well and he turned 2 in May. Some days he hardly eats anything. This worried me sick at first. Other days he'll eat fine. He's healthy and still drinks his fluids, and his weight is normal, so I'm not as worried as I used to be, although I do stress about it sometimes.
• United States
7 Feb 07
oh, I agree. It is very stressful that's for sure.
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