WHY ARE MORE MARRIED WOMAN FALLING FOR EXTRAMARRITAL AFFAIRS?

@543210 (162)
India
October 11, 2006 11:19am CST
THEY ARE SOMEHOW UNHAPPY WITH THEIR MARRIED LIFE AND SINCE THESE DAYS THEY ARE ALSO EARNING MEMBERS SO THEY FIND IT EASY TO MOVE OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP.ITS MORE ABOUT PSCHYOLOGY AND CHEMISTRY BEING MORE COMPATIBLE IN THE OTHER RELATIONSHIP.EVEN SOME FIND IT AN EGO BOOST ,THAT THOUGH THEY ARE MARRIED STILL THAY HAVE THAT MUCH POWER TO ENTICE ANOTHER MAN.WELL WHAT DO YOU THINK? IS IT RIGHT ,DO WOMAN ALSO HAVE RIGHT AS MEN TO MOVE OUT OF AN UNHAPPY RELATIONSHIP.PLEASE SEND ME your FEEDBACK .
10 responses
@vengeance (262)
• India
11 Oct 06
DID U MEAN EXTRA TERRESTRIAL! LOL......... MAN THATS GONNA BE FUN! UNHAPPY RELATIONSHIPS .... ISNT IT FUN TO FIND NEW THINGS!LOL
@Victoria7 (1242)
• Spain
11 Oct 06
Who´s talking about extra terrestrials?!!
@543210 (162)
• India
11 Oct 06
there is nothing funny i m sure you are not in touch with current discussions by personalities on news channel shows ,this was the topic last week by TIMESNOW channel......how can people find sch a seious discussion funny thats absolutely strange
@543210 (162)
• India
11 Oct 06
i mean how can you find a topic like this funny ,i m sure u dont watch news channel n stuff for the discussion,there was a tv celebrity invited named Harsh chayya for this topic along with a marketing consultant from the ordinary crowd by TIMESNOW channel.......really strange of you
@Victoria7 (1242)
• Spain
11 Oct 06
Hello, is your "caps" key stuck? You might want to try pressing it once or til the green light goes out! How do you know more married women are having affairs, maybe it´s just publicised more? The penalty for having an affair 40 years ago was total ostracization, you were deemed a social outcast if discovered, now it´s perceived as being no big deal. And if you divorce you get 50% of what was his. So if you don´t love the man, it seems you have nothing to lose. (I am not saying this is my personal feeling, just what is popular now). I guess values are changing in this modern world, be it for better or for worse.
@543210 (162)
• India
11 Oct 06
well Victoria my capskey was purposely on to hidhlight my view point,well you are absolutely right as per yor comments but do you favor it personally or consider it wrong taking into account the children of the first marriage being victims to this decision of their mother???
@543210 (162)
• India
11 Oct 06
sorry highlight*
@Victoria7 (1242)
• Spain
11 Oct 06
Ha ha - at least you elicited a response by "cyber shouting"... personally I feel that if a woman has an affair something is missing in her relationship or marriage or she is after some kind of thrill. My point was that it´s easier to get away with it nowadays, although if you get found out and lose your partner obviously the pain runs as deep. How are the children victims? They might be 20 years old and living overseas. If the mother is THAT unhappy in her relationship surely it´s better to meet someone and be happy with him than have a miserable relationship with their father? I know I am generalising and that every scenario is different. But if the woman is genuinely unhappy with her partner I think she has a right to seek love elsewhere (and should terminate things with her partner so he can seek someone more suited to him).
@AndreaM76 (1164)
• United States
13 Oct 06
I've not personally done this but if a man is treating his spouse poorly or ignoring her needs and desires it is very easy when a woman is vulnerable to fall into another mans' arms if approached. I've seen it over and over in people I know ant any age. As a women I too understand how it feels to be treated nicely and not treated like a piece of funiture in the home.
@543210 (162)
• India
13 Oct 06
wow AndreaM76 thts gr8 hats off to you, good job done .I m reeally proud t find ur response being a woman myself.God bless you.
@543210 (162)
• India
13 Oct 06
sorry AndreaM76 i thot u experienced it but thnks for ur ideas and thnks for ur response
• United States
11 Oct 06
Because they can't find happiness within themselves. They are trying to fulfill a void in their life. In the bible it says that one reason for divorce is fornication in a relationship.
@543210 (162)
• India
11 Oct 06
thts gr8 sheila never heard this reference before........thnks for ur response
13 Oct 06
I agree there.
• France
11 Oct 06
There are lot of factors which keep people together. I think as woman are becoming more and more independent they also have realized their potential. As a human being why should one suffer more than other? Do you think woman have right to suffer more than man. I think "No"...And so if woman is not comfortable finally with the guy she is with..she has right to move out..It has nothing to do with job itself. It is about the global understanding among the 2 people.
@543210 (162)
• India
11 Oct 06
thnks for ur response gajjugajju2000 bt dont you the financial security provided by the jobs makes them pretty confident to take care of themselves and even their children(if any).
• France
11 Oct 06
Yes thats true but ask a woman she would still like to be with her partner given that the partner is more understanding. Most of the time we forogt that we need to lower our ego for the other person. It is very imp to be sure of the other person..which is love..if you are sure about that other factors will boil down and this has to be understood by both. Relationship which works see this effect automatically
13 Oct 06
Marriage is a long haul, if you’re in for the short journey you better not fasten your seat-belt. Over many years I’m sure problems will arise, it’s only natural. It’s how those problems are dealt that relates to how securely you fastened your seat-belt. If there is something missing, people; woman or man, may look outside the relationship for the cure. Woman now days have more power than ever, they can be independent financially without needing support of a man, they’re not treated as ‘whor es’ for leaving a relationship like in years gone by and more freedom on both sides. I personally feel working within the relationship to repair the holes is better than jumping ship, the ship you jump to will have the same equal amount of holes you have to patch up.
@543210 (162)
• India
13 Oct 06
well that is also a way of thinking n probably better if it works out but then individual freedom shud be the word of the day.
• United States
11 Oct 06
Well, the media is not helping. You see it on movies all the time...and the other thing that women see on movies is "perfect men" that really don't exist. Many women are more insecure about love than men are. Women look beyond what the man does for them. They need to be assured, and reassured that their man is going to stick by them forever. All the media out there is adding to the idea in the woman's head that there must be a perfect man out there...one that can sweep me off my feet and constantly tell me that he loves me. So, woman decides...I deserve to be happy, and since my husband isn't making me completely happy, then I am going to find that perfect man to make me happy. Then, once the woman meets that man, the feeling they get in their heart is one of euphoria, even if they have just met that "perfect man", and don't know anything about them. Woman is addicted to that "euphoric" love feeling...otherwise known as the butterfly feeling. Now that the woman who has cheated has found that feeling, they want to continue with it...and they may very well keep cheating. Now, the woman's marriage is in extreme danger, because she, unknowingly, has set unrealistic standards that her marriage has to compete with. Get it? Now, the woman has screwed up the marriage, and is fooling herself into a perfect life that has now only been made worse. But the TV and movies say it is okay... Sorry, Long explaination, but that is what I've learned, and I tried to explain it in the shortest way possible.
@543210 (162)
• India
12 Oct 06
jessesauer hats off a very gud understanding on the topic u r right ,the media today is playing a crucial role
• Philippines
11 Oct 06
Women give high value to their relationships much more their family. However, alot of men are just too selfish and are only concerned of themselves. They don't consider that in a relationship, it has to be a two-way process. Some women fall for extramarital affairs because they want to belong. They want to feel important. When men marries a woman, usually the romance ends there. They forget that it's a continuous process, that they shouldn't stop pleasing their wife. Alot of men also are womanizers. Women today are becoming more independent and career oriented. When they find out that their husband has extramarital affair, they think it's not wise to be a martyr to a philandering husband. So, they find happiness and contentment somewhere else.
@543210 (162)
• India
11 Oct 06
well thats pretty nice to hav all the participants in favour of this topic ,woman should hav free will in the absolute sense
• United States
11 Oct 06
Well, the media is not helping. You see it on movies all the time...and the other thing that women see on movies is "perfect men" that really don't exist. Many women are more insecure about love than men are. Women look beyond what the man does for them. They need to be assured, and reassured that their man is going to stick by them forever. All the media out there is adding to the idea in the woman's head that there must be a perfect man out there...one that can sweep me off my feet and constantly tell me that he loves me. So, woman decides...I deserve to be happy, and since my husband isn't making me completely happy, then I am going to find that perfect man to make me happy. Then, once the woman meets that man, the feeling they get in their heart is one of euphoria, even if they have just met that "perfect man", and don't know anything about them. Woman is addicted to that "euphoric" love feeling...otherwise known as the butterfly feeling. Now that the woman who has cheated has found that feeling, they want to continue with it...and they may very well keep cheating. Now, the woman's marriage is in extreme danger, because she, unknowingly, has set unrealistic standards that her marriage has to compete with. Get it? Now, the woman has screwed up the marriage, and is fooling herself into a perfect life that has now only been made worse. But the TV and movies say it is okay... Sorry, Long explaination, but that is what I've learned, and I tried to explain it in the shortest way possible.
• India
11 Oct 06
because of their thirst to life