Can you make a woman happy?

United States
February 6, 2007 2:56pm CST
Is it really important to get up and throw away the soda can right now? Does the trash have to go out this moment? Why is it so important that your woman wants you to stop everything right now to move a bag from here to there. It doesn't seem to me like there is a right or wrong in this case. It seems like a personal choice. If a woman wants the trash taken out this moment why don't they take it out? I don't want my wife to get up in the middle of her show to go wipe the table and do the laundry. It seems so one sided. I don't ask my wife to do anything specific for me. It seems absurd that I am considered selfish if I don't just jump up when the master tells me to. So can you make a woman happy? Does it seem to anyone else like no matter how much happiness there is, no matter how much blessing is delivered to your home their is always a reason to be upset, to be disappointed, the need to do more? My wife insists that there is more to do. I must also see the importance of cleaning and organzing and sraightening right now this minute before the world ends. Can you make a woman happy?
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
6 Feb 07
Sounds to me like neither you nor your lady is happy. You two need to sit and talk and decide what is imporant to each of you. Since I am only hearing your side of it I cannot judge what is right or wrong. Communication is the key. Sit down and both of you listen and dont blame one another. Just tell the other person how you feel and how it makes you feel. Once you both have talked it over then maybe both of you will be happy.
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• United States
7 Feb 07
i completely agree with you about communication. i have had a couple of failed relationships, and i realized later on that communication was the problem. my girl that i am with now has helped me with that, she is a very good communicator. she doesn't ask for much at all, and i find it is very easy to please her, if i just listen to what she says. not the nod-your-head-and-think-about-football listening, but comprehending listening. it works wonders.
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@tomfade (134)
• Norway
7 Feb 07
hello fellow man. To me this is a quite familiar subject in my household. There is no miracle solution. They way I dealt with it was better communications, just to point out that It,s not really a big deal, that I understand how she wants it to be. Also to point out that we a different in many ways. There,s many things that annoy me that she does and many things I do that annoys her. We both made a list of these things, and tried to come up with an solution. It was not an easy discussion, but it paid off. We tried to meet in the middle, that we should both try to do things that usually takes a minute, just to spear the other the frustration of it not being done. Ofcourse there are still flaws from both parts, but generally we get along better. I really don,t like to do all the things she wants me to do, but I think that I would rather spend very little time doing them, than to have her nagging about it, so in the end it pays off. She is more relaxed and satisfied. But as a man I can tell you that keeping a woman happy all the time is probably the most difficult task there is, It just can,t be done. But the happier she is, the better off I am. Surprisingly enough she tries to do the things that bother me as well. But the main difference is that even If things bother me, it is not the same form of irritation as she has, I tend to be more relaxed and "careless" about the little things in life, Hopefully she can be as well. Good luck to you superdude!
• United States
7 Feb 07
Dear superdupercoolkat :-) I am sure your wife didn't complain when she had to make lunch or dinner so that you have a warm meal in front of you when come back from work. I am sure she does it without being asked to do so. So, if I were you, I would make my minimal contribution to household without complaining and make it a habit of it. That's at least you can do and is not too much to ask, trust me. A little bit consideration is all she needs. Good luck!
@simplysue (631)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I don't mean this to be harsh so please don't take it that way. Maybe you should consider the possilbe reason for you never asking your wife to do anything specific for you is because she has all ready done it herself? Perhaps she is feeling that because she takes good care of her responsibilities in your home that it really annoys her that she has to ask you to do these things in the first place? I'm not sure how men view things in general but I can say that my husband doesn't need to be asked to take out the trash or to pick up after himself. He automatically does these "little things" to make my life easier. I have to say that I deeply appreciate every "little thing" he does. :)
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• United States
6 Feb 07
From my past experiences, it is really hard to make a women happy. You have to devote countless hours and time with them. Meaingful time where they are the center. I to do not understand why the garbage has to be thrown out on the minute. Why can't you wait until after your show is over to do it? Not like the house will catch on fire and burn down if you don't. Women just tend to me organizers and want everything in tip top shape, men, we can live in a messy life style and do great.
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@uath13 (8207)
• United States
6 Feb 07
OMG! Does my wife have a twin sister? She totally stresses when something isn't done right away. I try to tell her " We're at home , we can make our own schedule " but that never works. If you ever manage to find a solution ( besides jumping up and running about like they've took a whip to you ) let me know, maybe it'll work on your wifes twin.
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@flubula (40)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Without trying to illicit negative responses from women on purpose I will offer my own personal incite and opinion. 1. Many Woman have patience issues and don't like to wait for anything. 2. If you can't figure out why shes bugging you about something that seems meaningless, then she is most likely still pissed at you about something else unrelated that you did, oh maybe a year earlier. Now that something that she is actually mad at is more critical than the garbage, but she won't tell you what it is, because it should be obvious to you already ;-)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Yes I know I am responding to my own comment, but I would like to take a moment to marvel at several of the other responses that seem to have a very narrow view of marriage and seem to be of the opionion that "Wife" like a job title has specific trade requirements. A bricklayer lays brick, a Wife cooks her husband meals and cleans. Ironically no where in the original post does it say that this mans wife cooks or cleans for him. I grew up in a household where my mother worked in the insurance industry and my father took time from teaching to raise one of my sisters and did all the cooking and cleaning. Frankly I think any woman who thinks that she should cook or clean without "being asked to" is oppressing herself more than any man can. Be liberated. Ask your husband to cook. A lot of guys are great cooks waiting to happen, and if he doesn't feel like meeting you half way on responsibilities.. cook a meal for one, and then eat it in front of him and remind him of the little red hen. No work no share. :-D
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@adi1942 (48)
• India
7 Feb 07
yes i can make a woman happy ..but let her come first..
• China
7 Feb 07
haha,where are you from? Can you tell us?
@Rittings (673)
8 Feb 07
I have to say, I was attracted to this discussion for all the wrong reasons. I was expecting to find a bunch of testosterone filled answers with no real truth or substance... That's until I actually read the flesh of the discussion... But I would like to think that I can make my wife happy, and women in general seem to like me as a person, and I don't believe I upset anyone, let alone women in specific. I can understand where you are coming from though. But you must understand that we can all be picky and a bit pedantic, it's not just a female trait. It all depends on the individual.. Good question though, thanks... I think. hehe.
@NucknFutz (180)
• United States
7 Feb 07
All women are different...I cant say i have a wife..but my mother sounds exactly like what youre describing. She has to have things accomplished that very minute. She posseses no patience, and at the least, tact. Shes harsh..and cruel. Seldom is she fair..but i have no other solution than to comply, and do what she asks. =S
@boojoi (7)
• Russian Federation
7 Feb 07
i don't think to make happy a woman ... hehe ... if a woman always unhappy .. i'll marry with a new girl ... young .. pretty ..
@tipik93 (89)
• Czech Republic
7 Feb 07
My mum is always happy :)
@pagli84 (1850)
• Netherlands
7 Feb 07
i think what i want as a woman is to feel like im cared for. i want to know that im respected. i want to know that im loved. i want to know that my significant other understands me or at least will listen to me when i have a problem. i want to feel safe and comfortable. i want to feel like i can trust the other person. i guess its all a matter of communication in one form or another, either verbally or physically or emotionally.
• India
7 Feb 07
I cannot and i dont want to. Woman are such a bore we cant live things our way they are such crap i had a relation twice and i've sailed that stupid boat of being with a woman in life n i hate it i love to b single but now stuck with a girl.
@ygkchaitu (388)
• India
7 Feb 07
If there is any thing in this world which could have many answers just like the number of tangents to a circle infinite number then it would be making a woman happy. Woman in the sense should be dealt differntly depending on the relation that you hold with her.
@asystar (19)
• Malaysia
7 Feb 07
Look like your wife attitude seemless like mine too. Most everything she want must be done right now. It'll disturb me. But for me woman can be change with two kind of communication. The first one is by soft communication like when you want to close with some girl. If you good then the girl will be yours. You should make her in a good mood then you can tell her about your problem but must make her clearly understand. The second communication is by rough way. You should angry and show how bad you been disturbed. She will be upset or down. Take a time then appologize with her then tell her why you angry. Her heart will be touched and cheer her up. That what i'm practice. If you talk like normal communication, I don't think she will hear you.
• United States
7 Feb 07
You can make your woman happy by pitching in around the house. Why not take out the trash after dinner so that she does not have to sit and ask you to do it before your show? Why does she have to ask you to do it? Your not a child. Make her happy and do your part. Take out the trash and wipe off the table on your own, that way she does not have to ask you to do it. You said you don't ask her to do anything. That is most likley because she does things without you having to ask her to do it. I'm so tired of lazy men crying that their wives (the masters) are asking so much of them when they can easily do things on their own. Sometimes it's the little things that make women ther happiest. Why not try it? Tonight, after dinner, clean up your mess, put your dishes in the sink and rinse them off, wipe off the table and take out the trash. Watch how happy she is that she does not have to beg you to get off of your but to do something that she knows your grown up enough to do all by yourself without her asking. :) I can bet she will be very happy.
@justreal (2367)
• Canada
7 Feb 07
Love her for what she is and show her and make her feel that you do love her. Be affectionate to her, give her the attention that she needs. Make time with her for romance and intimacy.
• United States
7 Feb 07
When the trash needs to be taken out, I pull it out of the can, tie it up and set it in front of the back door. That way, whoever goes out first will remember it. If you are bickering over little stuff like that, I would think there may be deeper issues present to work on.
• India
7 Feb 07
Well this is one of the most difficult work in the world to keep a women happy and then I try my level best