Strong family bonds: a great responsibility, my country's culture...
February 7, 2007 6:51am CST
I'm now have my own family and struggling enough to raise my children well. But then my parents in the province need my assistance so from time to time I give them financial help. My wife family in their province also suffering from poor livelihood and I also for sometime give them if there's still left from my own family budget. Well I'm not rich considering just an ordinary employee in a call center. But I'm not complaining I just stating the family bond culture here in our country where the most heavy earner got the responsibility of his family and extended family. Its deep rooted in our history. How about your culture regarding family bonds?
7 Feb 07
yes you are right we are the same just that im lucky now because none of my relatives or my hubby's relative still in touch w/ me .i do only have my own kids that from time to time ask help because they are grown up now but, the other ones who got married early and imagine the youngest of all is still in my custody.it's ok coz they know how much i can offer..not only to include number one in our culture but it is a hard habit to break...
7 Feb 07
Well only time can tell when this culture would break down. I'm not saying its bad, of course helping our relatives is a good deed. But to that extent of taking it as responsibility, sometimes it turns out as burden especially when your budget is just enough for your own family. But the reality is clear like you said: Its a a hard habit to break. By the way thanks for sharing.
12 Feb 07
i'm also from Philippines. I live in a hand-to-mouth subsistence, but I know my family, though they don't talk about it, is needing some help. I send back home some money to help them budget what's left from their meager salary which are divided by the loan sharks way before it reaches my mother's hands. My father has just gotten a small-time stable job but it isn't enough what with all the ever-increasing prices of goods. Since I'm single, i can afford to give in to my siblings' cheap wishes. As for your case, it's doubly hard to take on marriage and family in your call center salary. Saving up some for rainy days is better than giving away all that you've worked hard for.
13 Feb 07
Thanks for such concern and good advice. I'm trying to save but I can't afford not to help them. Right now I'm thinking to find another job that would make my financial capacity more flexible to accommodate our needs. By then I will able to save some for future. Thanks again.
7 Feb 07
first of all hats off to you for starting a sensible discussion..as i was really irrated with idiotic discussions..around here....yeah i totally agree with you ..thats why our country has the most sensable peoples...we love our parents,relatives,,etc..and we do have time to care them...and share with their sorrows and happiness..thts indian culutre
9 Feb 07
Thank for your good comments. Maybe you did not notice I'm a Filipino not Indian but then it doesn't matter maybe we have the same culture since we are both from Asia continent. Its great that we have this culture to nourish and pass it on to next generation. Thanks again.