Do you think this is wrong?

United States
February 7, 2007 12:35pm CST
My son is actually a really good kid but he's been acting out a lot lately. My son's father passed away before I had him and I met someone else when my son was five months old. We dated for a long time and we decided to have another baby. While I was pregnant with our child we broke up. After a while I started dating again and my kids both love the person I'm with now. My daughters father only comes around once in a while now and when he does he wants nothing to do with my son. My son has called him daddy for six years now and I think he might feel neglected because the person he always thought of as his dad no longer wants anything to do with him. Do you think it's wrong to treat a six year old this way?
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I think its wrong for a an adult to treat a child who has loved him from the time he was little to abandon him that way. But, the only thing you can do is to talk with the father of the litle girl and see if something can be worked out so your son doesnt feel so bad. if not then do your best to make your son feel good. Give him lots of hugs and tell him you love him. That is about all you can do for him now.
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@XxAngelxX (2832)
• Canada
7 Feb 07
I think it is definitely wrong of him to treat your son this way. It's very cruel and this probably has a lot to do with why your son is acting out. He probably cannot understand why his daddy is suddenly ignoring him :(. I don't really know what you can do to remedy this situation other than try and reassure your son that you will always be there for him and you will never turn your back on him.
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@jillbeth (2711)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Absolutely! He is showing no consideration at all for the poor boy's feelings. I imagine he does feel neglected and that's why he's acting out. Sounds like he is neglecting his daughter also, but you can't change him or make him care if he doesn't. I hope your new boyfriend will accept and love them both as his own, maybe with time the children's hurt feelings will heal. It might not hurt to considering family counseling to help them deal with their feelings.