Married Life
By zynijh
@zynijh (44)
Philippines
February 8, 2007 12:35am CST
I do always tell to myself that i won't be sorry for the decision i had...to marry at an early age...that i will try my best to keep the marriage and be with my kids until they can stand at their own....it is hard for me to admit that i failed and still keep trying to save the marriage because of the kids...it is really hard to decide whether...to choose between me and my kids...me...i feel exhausted being the only one bearing the problems..that i would still want to be happy and in peace for the rest of my life..there is a feeling of emptiness for sometimes...so helpless for no one can turn to during those hard times...or my kids...because i don't want them to grow with me alone...want them to live normally with their mom and dad....but if things will pursue this way...i would rather choose to be alone...i know time will come that my kids will surely understand the matter...i know that marriage life is full of laughters and tears...but i guess it's different when you are alone in tears....
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3 responses
@Lush_heidi (994)
• United States
8 Feb 07
I send you many hugs and a welcome to mylot. I am so sorry your having a rough time. Try to keep in mind, that staying in marriage for kids, doesnt usually work, as kids pick up on tension and unhappiness. I think they would want you happy, perhaps you could go to counseling alone or talk to a clergy member you trust. Think things out, and take your time, Life is too short to not be happy. I applaud you for trying and doing well at a young age. You deserve smiles and not tears my friend. Know I care,and am here if you need me.*hugs*
@jenalyn (675)
• United States
8 Feb 07
Marriage is very hard. You should not stay married for your children, because in the long run it hurts them more than helps them. If you stay married it should be because you want to be married. It isn't fair to anyone involved if you are in the marriage because ou feel you have to be. It makes life even harder and any disagreements are worse if you are just there because you have to be. That is no way to live. No one that loves you would want you to suffer for their benefit. Actually when you suffer, everyone around does too, because you are unhappy and can not be yourself when you are unhappy.
So your children aren't getting to live with 2 happily married parents. They are living with unhappily married parents, and that can't be healthy. Believe me, I have been one of the children in a family like that. I would have rather had happy parents that were apart than to have unhappy parents that stayed together.
@simran1430 (1790)
• India
8 Feb 07
well marrying at an early age when one is not mature enough to handles the vagarities of life is tough thing and problematic because married life is completely different , it makes the world upside down and so marrying at an age where one cannot handle a whole home is not good , i must say , one should wait to understand the world and till 25 do not marry .
