Its my FIRST DATE
February 9, 2007 3:49am CST
People i would be going on my first date this 14th feb, im a NEWBIE to this dating and stuff. I a little nervous as i dont know the Do's n Dont's of dating... PLZ help people i want to make the best date for her, PLZ help!!!
10 Feb 07
Dating can be tough and first dates can be painful. Here is some tips to start a date: Meet your date out and drive yourself.If you want to bail out early, you won't be trapped. Also when you have your own car. If things work out, you won't have any worries about inviting your date in or not.This helps protect you from your own impulses, bec. what's worst then "will she/he respect me in the morning" is " How much will I hate myself when I wake up?". Keep the date simple. You're nervous enough without making a big show, plus you don't want to lock yourself in to an evening you won't enjoy. Men, end the date first. You will make yourself stand out. Wear clothing that you are comfortable and confident in. Be specific about where you are going. This will make the date more comfortable and will prevent her from wearing a cocktail dress when you are taking her bowling. Ask about your date. Each of us knows we are the most interesting subject, But the most interesting conversationalists are people who ask about others. Great light topics are work,hobbies, sports. Easy on the perfume, you want to knock his socks off, but you don't want to knock her out. Dont forget to use mouthwash before you go out. Dont order sloppy food.Keep the conversation light, Be attentive and last have fun and be yourself. Goodluck!
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9 Feb 07
Be yourself. Its okay to be nervous as your date will probably be nervous. If the other person is a genuine person interested in YOU then they will expect you to be nervous. They will want to meet the person that they have been talking to all this time. In this day and age it is okay to go Dutch, in that you share equal costs, but discuss this before she/he orders the most expensive meal in the restaraunt. Normally one or the other will say "How do you want to work out the bill/cost" something simple. Honestly if your date is genuine she/he will be expecting to pay for some part of the evening. If they don't pay for anything they are probably not as genuine as you thought. When I went out with a gentleman friend, we discussed costs after we had chatted and got to know each other. I just took out my purse and offered to pay and he said "No," he explained that "it was customery for him to pay for Lunch and Dinner, and I paid for the Beverages e.g. coffee" he was extremely generous but I felt a little awkward. He also ordered for me and made assumptions that I would not be able to eat what he was eating, because I had not eaten most of my lunch. So I ended up feeling like a little girl, out with her father rather than equals. He was very kind though, an extreme gentleman. It was an experience. Something else that the date should be interested in is Listening to their partner, even if you find it totally boring. I was trying to explain a little of the History of my Town, he was clearly not interested and in the end I gave up trying. Best of luck! above all be YOURSELF.