Do you understand your sister/s?

Philippines
February 9, 2007 9:31pm CST
I have two sisters...I am older than both of them. And I am so proud for them. They are both graduates of a reputable university in our country, and though we don't see each other now as often as before, we still keep in touch. The older one, I consider her as my best friend... we understand each other. The younger one, I sometimes consider her as a daughter as she is a generation younger than me, and I presume she still has so many things to know and discover. :) How are you doing with your sisters, if any?
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• United States
10 Feb 07
I have 2 sisters also. And we get along pretty well. When we were younger, we annoyed each other a lot, because we are all so alike. But, we were always close. Now, we are all married and more mature. I consider myself to be the mediator between all of us, I like to have close relationships with all my family members, as they are more than just our flesh and blood, they are our "link to our past, present , and future" (I mentioned something similar on another person's discussion). I live in another state than my sisters, but we communicate almost all the time, online or on the phone, and we visit each other. We have so many memories and things to share, there is nothing like a close relationship with your sisters. It is a blessing, and we should accept it with grace. Sometimes, we get angry with each other, but should always remember to forgive each other and be kind, because of the bonds that we share. Thank you for reminding me of how lucky I am (sometimes, with all the negative things we have going on, we can forget all the positive). ;)
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
I consider my sisters as my extensions :) and yes... I'm very lucky to have them...we should...always :)
• United States
10 Feb 07
Yeah me too...and one of my sisters and I, look very similar, but my hubby doesn't like people comparing us, because he likes me to be unique (aka, only his), so it is funny when people do...because he insists that we are not similar.
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• Philippines
7 May 07
our better-half knows who we are, even if we are mixed with a thousand look-alikes... i believe so :)
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
yes, i have a sister. younger than me she is good to me. she help the household choir, she listen what i said so we close together...
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• Philippines
10 Feb 07
you must really love each other :) thanks for responding my friend.
• United States
11 Feb 07
There were 3 girls in my family. I'm oldest but the youngest, 5 years younger, and I do things together. We help each other out in time of need or just get together and go eat or shopping. I don't see as much of other one but she is there for me when I need her. That is the important thing about being sisters. We are supportive of each other.
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• Philippines
7 May 07
It's quite refreshing to talk about our relationship with our loved ones, isn't it?
@Anniedup (3652)
• Richards Bay, South Africa
5 May 07
It is wonderful to see in this day and age that siblings get on, and have respect for one another. I have two brothers, one is an Architect and the other one is a IT specialist with his own company. I am older then both of them. The one that is an Architect, is married to a Thai girl, they have a little girl. The baby brother is also married for 14 years, with no children. I love them too bits and they spoil me rotten.
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• Philippines
7 May 07
thanks for your response annie dear. i'm sure they love you so much :)
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• United States
10 Feb 07
I have two younger sisters. But one is handicappted and doesnt speak or stuff. Okay my other sister who is 3 years younger than me, today we are best friends. But sometimes I dont get her as well. She acts like my mom sometimes with her moods. And she swears in ways I dont think a christian should swear (or at all but thats another story). However I love her and we were not the best of friends growing up. We fought like mad and stuff. But around our teens when I was like 14 or 15 and she was around 12 we began to hang out as friends more. Suddenly we realized we had stuff in common. Today we hang out ALL the time. We go to church together, look for jobs, theme parks, movies. Today she is like my only best friend. I will MISS her badly once we dont hang out anymore. Once we both move out, especially if we dont live by each other close enough. It will be a sad thing. I dont care to think much today about loosing my best friend anytime soon. Even if I know its a fact I will someday have to face :(( Love ya sis!
• Philippines
7 May 07
touching lines from a sister. thanks for sharing, my friend.
@pagli84 (1850)
• Netherlands
10 Feb 07
i used to not get along with my sister when i was younger. we are 6 years apart and had completely different lives growing up. my sister was raised alone by my mom when she had just come to the country and was struggling to surive. i was a bit luckier because my mom remarried when i was 10, so i had the luxury of a father figure as well as a more secure financial situation. i think in many ways my sister resents that. but over the past couple of years we have gotten a lot closer. ive recently opened up to her about a lot of things, and she's done the same with me. i can talk to her about almost anything which is nice. unfortunately, she lives in the US and i live in europe, so its hard to communicate as often as we'd like...
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• Philippines
7 May 07
every good relationship starts from trust. If we start trusting somebody, especially our relatives, chances are, we can be given the same favor.
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
Nice to know that you are close with your sisters... Me i got five sisters, i'm the youngest that makes us six... I call the eldest ate, second is diche, third is sanse, fourth is dete, fifth ate rizza...I'm proud for all of them, we have different fields of expertise, an we have different personalities...When i was young i'm closest to my ate we share the same room, literally close..;) but from younger years to now i guess i am closest to the one next to me...maybe because we don't have generation gap..;)
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• Philippines
7 May 07
It's nice to know that we still use this practice in calling our sisters here the philippines. i've always thought that any older sister is called "ate"... generation gap... yes... i believe that this oftentimes is the cause of barrier among sisters. And most often than not, older sisters of say ten years beyond tend to prefer being the mother image instead of a sister to their younger siblings.
• United States
10 Feb 07
I have one sister, three years younger. I have to say that while we were growing up we didn't much like one another, we were so different, and just far apart in age to have nothing in common, yet not far enough apart to gain any objective perspective. I didn't much like her until her late teens/early 20s. Now, she's 39 and I'm 42, and she's one of my favorite people. As children, she was immature and had a temper, whereas I was pretty passive and easy-going. But now we have shared interests, like our kids, and we both enjoy reading.
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• Philippines
7 May 07
teens... teens... we were there once... but now we're mature enough to understand and we now know who truly loves us. For sure other people may like us... but i believe that it is our immediate relatives who would fight for us with their lives, if need be.
• Nigeria
10 Feb 07
definitely i do i have been living with them for the past 20 years or more so i definitely do have a binding relationship with my two sisters they are more than friends to me..
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• Philippines
7 May 07
thanks fot this response. sometimes, i get to thinking that if indeed people learn to love each other as siblings, the world would be a very beautiful place to live in :)
@Lyrica (127)
• Canada
10 Feb 07
I have a twin sister and an older brother. My twin and I are extremely close, and we've always been. When we were younger however, we always fought. They weren't big fights, but there were hurt feelings and misunderstandings. But you learn to forgive that. I think my relationship with my sister has taught me a lot of things about other people and how to respect their feelings. And all those fights have shaped me into being a better person especially when it comes to dealing with other people and their emotions - and learning to apologize when I'm wrong. We go to different universities now, but we always keep in touch.
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• Philippines
14 Feb 07
That must be great.. having a twin sister whom you get along well with. Thanks for responding :)
@davaoguy (319)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I have two younger sisters myself. Although we have differences, I think that we are all okay. As long as we all respect each other then there will be no problems. If I do not agree with what they are doing, I just air my ideas and it is up for them to decide what's right for them. I am against on imposing my opinion to them. I think this is also the best way of treating people. Respect and understanding should be the key.
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• Philippines
14 Feb 07
That's right. thanks to you :)
• India
10 Feb 07
i have a twin sister.....who gels along vid me......she understands me n i understand hr....evn though we r quite different in r choices....
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• Philippines
7 May 07
and this is what things should be, aren't they? For who should understand us more than our immediate relatives?
• India
10 Feb 07
i have no sisters......
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• Philippines
7 May 07
should you have any, my friend, how do you intend to treat her?
• Belgium
10 Feb 07
I have one sister. When we were small, she bossed me around constantly. When she wanted to play, she forced me to play with her, even if I didn't want to. But when I wanted to play, and asked her to play with me she would just ignore me. These days I have a better relation with her, but she still thinks she's my mother at times.
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• Philippines
14 Feb 07
Elder sisters tend to act like that :)
@uhevelyn (219)
• Japan
10 Feb 07
I have two sisters ,I'm the older and were just like friends and we understand each other.We love each other.
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• Philippines
14 Feb 07
Glad to know that :)
• India
10 Feb 07
most of the times i do but needs some patience
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• Philippines
12 Feb 07
well... same here, patience is all we need... after all they're dear to us. If we could deal patiently with others, there's no reason why we could not do it with our close relatives :) have a nice day :)
@Sawsen (795)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I have two sisters as well. When we were younger, we rarely got along. Nowadays, we're all married so we all try to communicate better. I think communication is important when it comes to family, so it's nice to talk to them on a daily basis. We're much closer than we used to be, so I'm really thankful for that.
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• Philippines
12 Feb 07
You're right... communication is the key to maintain good relationship :)
@predia (17)
• Japan
10 Feb 07
Hi. I have a younger sister and brother, born many years apart. We live separately right now, but sometimes I go out with my sister, like friends. I am worried about their future, because they don't belong to particular companies, just having a part time job. But it's their life...so I'm gonna watch over them from the distance..
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• Philippines
10 Feb 07
That's being a good sister to them. Thanks for joining :)
• Malaysia
10 Feb 07
I only have a sister and she is 4 years older than me. I don't dare to say that I understand her 100%, but yes, I do understand her sometimes. I can't really go along with her, but when she talks to me about something, I can guess what she wants to say or her motive of saying that. Maybe because we are real sisters, or maybe we have the same logic thinking.
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• Philippines
10 Feb 07
Glad to know that you get along well with your sister. Who else would understand us more than our blood relative, isn't it?
@momknows (284)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I have an older sister who is in about the same shape as I am, not good, not bad. I have a younger sister who I basically raised that needs alot of help. She feels everyone owes her everything (maybe that comes from me raising her and not my mother). It bothers me to see her making the same mistakes I made. I warned her when she was younger, but....... We no longer speak. I feel really bad about it, but I must get on with life..........
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
We tend to make a prodigy, and that's exactly what happened to your younger sister. She eventually became the little "you", and indeed, it really hurts to see someone so dear to us make mistakes that we ourselves have come to regret doing it. Let's just hope that your sister would realize her mistake soonest, before making history repeat itself.
• Malta
10 Feb 07
I am the same identical situation as you are. The only difference is that I see my sisters almost everyday. I am the oldest one of 5 children. One of them is only 2 years younger than I am. We started going well together after she got married. I had already gotten married before her. But when we were children we were definitely opposites. Now we are good friends and I often find myself wanting to help her out with her 2 children. The younger one is 13 years younger and a generation younger as well. I try to give her my opinions from the best of my knowledge. I often consider her as a daughter as well. She has a similar charachter to mine and I get along well with her.
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• Philippines
10 Feb 07
It is interesting to note that us older sisters tend to be all-knowing when it comes to the welfare of our siblings. Maybe, this is what we are made for. To look after them when the need arises.