What if your younger sister settles down before you do?

Philippines
February 10, 2007 9:12am CST
I have two sisters. Our youngest had her baby 3 years ago. The sister who is one year younger than me has a relationship that I'm very sure would lead to marriage any time soon. Everybody is pressuring me to get settled down as well just because I'm the eldest!!! Have you ever had this dilemma?
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• Oman
11 Feb 07
even in India it can be like that. But luckily i dont have any sisters, only a brother and like me he is in no hurry to get married. i wouldnt have a problem if my younger sister got married earlier than me because i will get married when im ready to get married and if shes ready earlier than me then good for her, but im sure my parents and the rest of the family members would have a lot to say about that ;)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
Well we are just lucky that we still live in a world that is not as strict as before :P
• United States
11 Feb 07
i Dont have any sister but i have brothers and my lil brothers are 12 and my older bro is 17 and i am goin to be the first one to be married i can see it now my oldest bro is to focused on him self to even have a girlfriend and my lil brothers are so much in to games and computers that it is there love life
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
NO way! 12 ? WOW!
@kate1356 (697)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I have one sister and I am younger than her. My sister however always felt pressure to get married first. I am part Vietnamese (on my mother's side of the family). Most of my asian cousins get married very early.. like when they are 20. Whenever I would visit my asian cousins that was always the first thing they would ask my sister. "Do you have a boyfriend? When are you going to get married?" They would ask me too but they would really bug her about it... especially when she hit 30. It really bothered her. She eventually got married (at 34). Now my cousins bug me about getting married. I find it very annoying but I have just learned to ignore them. I don't feel any pressure to get married.
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
I'm Filipino and we have the same sentiments! I live in the city and when I go home to our province it's like they measure your success with how your love life is going! And it doesn't help that I have two gorgeous sisters who are taken! :(
• United States
10 Feb 07
I'm the oldest girl, and the second oldest sibling. I was the first to get married and now I'm the first to get pregnant. I have sister who is my age and she has a semi-serious boyfriend. I personally doubt that he will actually ever make a committment and marry her, but if she had gotten married before me I don't think I'd have felt any pressure to hurry up and get married. Marriage lasts forever, its not worth it to rush into it and make a mistake. Don't worry about whether or not your sister gets married first, focus on what is best for YOU. You have to live your life, not your sister.
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
I'm actually not worried until my mom starts asking me to date my childhood friend because my sisters are all getting serious!!! haha :)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
I'm the youngest so i cant relate with the eldest part... but reg I can relate on the settling down part...Filipinos they think that way as if you will run out of guys if you don't find a bf soon, that is what the elders are thinking... But for me am not being pressured by my mom... But for some relatives they are telling me to have a bf... As if getting a bf is as easy as buying something from a 24 hours convenience store... But what they forgot is there are few good men, for that kind of relationship.. hehe... Marriage now is not a priority unlike in the old days...
@ashcas (55)
• United States
13 Feb 07
People will never be happy with what you are doing compared to your sisters or anyone really. First it is are you going to go to college? then when are you going to graduate? when are you going to get a serious b/f? then when are you going to get married? then when are you going to have kids? I am the oldest (just me and my sister) I got married first but she had a baby first. Even with most people that we know knowing that my husband and I have been trying for years to have children they still say things like "I thought you would have had kids first?" or "when are you going to give your neice a little cousin?" My advice....Don't get in a big hurry marriage will wait. Just ignore everyone. lol easier said than done :-)