heartbreak support

if you still want to work things out with him inspite of the fact that you get annoyed by his ways then i would suggest that you psyche him out by doing what he is doing to you now, do not call him,give him also the silent treatment and you will see what i mean. his ego is inflated because he knows you will be crawling to him.what if he is your husband already, living together in one roof forever, can you live him? sorry to be so direct about this because a lot of women fal into this trap that us men employ to make us feel superior.

1)When you need to gripe, go to a quiet place, perhaps in the woods, and just let it out there. Do whatever you need to do, write about it, then tear it up or burn it, etc... but leave it out there. People who are abused shouldn't be doing this, bc they need to confront their abuses; you're not being abused, rather, you need to put aside old defences for now... 2)Self affirm to remain cheeful, at least for some of the time. Paste accurate praises about yourself (not egoistic) all over your home so you see and repeat them daily. 3)Make a list of the issues you want to discuss with him (not bash him up with). Here are some headings: things impt to me, things impt to him, things he doesn't think is impt, things we both could arrive at some discussion about, etc... then, when you're done with that list, make another one, one he sees, with new or the same headings, so that he just might be positive to sit down and discuss with you (again, not pout over or bash/gripe about). 4)Always use "I" statement. Never say, "You always ....!" Say how you feel, for eg, about sitting down to discuss things..."I like it when we sit down to discuss mutual things impt to us ... I'm aware of some of my unpleasant behavior, I will try to reduce it and I hope you'll help me by not reacting bc this is more about me than it is about you ..." 5)When you have both sat down to discuss some of the things on the list, be patient. Success in 1 issue is better than trying to finish talking about all the issues. It's an exercise to communicate in an adult manner, few of us have the privilege or time to do so, but it is worth all the money you can make! This is a solid foundation to build all relationships, and i am still learning how to do it with my partner. 6)When success is found in resolving 1 issue, stop there and reward yourself and him. Go for dinner or a drink. Enjoy the time, don't bring up the issues again in that time. A reward is to be enjoyed. But do ask for later discussions to be opened re the list again, at appropriate times convenient to both. :)

Bit difficult to responde on this one because we do not know what your "habit" is and if it is that bad fir your fiancee to take it this far, maybe you both need time to be alone and think about the situation. i wish you a good outcome