I don't have eyes behind my head, and neither on the sides of it

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I have a situation. I teach hula, have my own hula halau, and the age range of my keiki class is varied with those ages ranging from 4 up to 17. Today it was brought to my attention that one of the older haumana was picking on another one of the younger ones, and by picking on her I mean that she was not just telling the younger one to shut up, but also using her hands on the child. I did not know this. It was just told to me that this had happened. I know that the problem stems from the child's mother having a mental tug of war with this older kid, but to have latent aggression when it seems that all is well and fine is not only wrong, it bugs the hell outta me.I am usually on top of things such as this. I cannot lose the older but am not willing to let go of the younger student. I have two options- tell the older one to leave or move her to another class so as not to lose my haumana. And no, there is no need to call police or get into a discussion about who is right and wrong and how bad a parent I am. None of this is going to happen and none of this is true other than the fact that this happened and now I must fix it. Other than asking the older kid to leave...well, suggestions?