Of partners and Ex's

Philippines
February 12, 2007 1:46am CST
For me it's always been a no-no to maintain ANY form of contact whatsoever with former boyfriends or girlfriends. What for? I might trust my partner but I can never trust the other person. For all I know, she might still be harboring some unresolved feelings, har har. Do you agree that all ex's must disappear from the face of the earth? Hey, if I were an ex, in fairness to all parties involved, I would keep my distance.
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@teyang (136)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
yup i agree to that, actually it's my hubby who made that rule . . i can be out with some guy friends, i can communicate with highschool or college friends, i can accept gifts from guy friends but not with my EX . . and i also apply that rule to him . .
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• Philippines
21 Feb 07
Yeah, I totally agree with you and your husband. It's important that there's a clear rule between you on what's ok and what's not.
@yaneeps (122)
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
i was fine with hubby having contacts with his ex's and keeping their gifts, until i learned from marriage seminar that those keepsakes represent soul ties with the ex's. although we were thinking that it was past and over with, there is nothing wrong if we throw (or give) away all those gifts. and besides, hubby does not communicate with them because he says they dont have anything to talk about.
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
Hey, I like that term...soul ties. That got me thinking, there are, indeed, a lot of stuff that may tie us to certain souls, be it old friends, siblings, parents. Thanks for your comment!
@leahmae (105)
• Australia
21 Feb 07
yeah, i think what's been in the past, should be left in the past. an ex would always invoke some sort of feeling within you so it's better just to keep our distance from them.
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@latq901 (21)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
I was an ex and my partner was too. I trust myself, and I trust my partner too, so I don't mind if he still communicates with his ex's. Though, I must agree with you, it's their ex's we don't trust. So I always keep this in mind and heart- if our love for each other is not strong enough to keep us from temptation, then I'm sure our love and fear of the Lord is.
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@trionyxx1 (139)
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
i can relate with that (as if!). "cut and cut cleanly" -- that's my motto heheh. i guess i'm just not comfortable having loose ends
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@cefaz_21 (2597)
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
but what if my husband's only ex is a dear friend of mine? who came all the way from a far place just to attend our wedding? I'm not so sure we could closed our door to her. And for my ex-it's ok with hubby to stay friends with him and his family as i became so closed with them. I don't see anything wrong with that just make sure you know how you feel and you're secure about it.
@selina0625 (1383)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
Yeah I agree with you.Bitter?! No of course not hehehe.It's just that I believe that the past should be buried in the past.And I also agree with you that we can trust our partners but not the ex's.It' better to avoid circumstances that will lead to something....
@ethanmama (1746)
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
My husband hates his ex and keeps away! I always thought that like it or not, she's a part of his life and while I do not want them close again, a certain civility is OK and a must, since you've both moved on with your lives. As for me, my husband is my first and only boyfriend so I don't have any exes to think of. LOL