Is honesty more trouble than it is worth?

@shelagh77 (3643)
February 13, 2007 4:13am CST
When I was interviewed by the Vicar regarding my wedding, my husband to be honestly stated that he had no faith but was marrying in Church because I did have faith. In spite of the fact that I was a Sunday School teacher at that Church and played the piano for all their services the Vicar refused to marry us. We were then turned down by the Vicar in the Church where I was Christened because one Vicar had turned us down. We were eventually married by a Vicar who didn't really care very much as long as he got the funds in to keep his Church repaired and for some wierd, unknown reason our wedding sermon seemed to consist mainly of a long tale about his jet lag. Honestly, you couldn't make it up! All this because my husband to be was honest. Do you think that honesty is always worth the trouble?
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
13 Feb 07
well your first viscar should have done it for he would have on his mind oh a stray sheep we can work into the fold! and yes hoesty is best policy for if ya lie ya have to keep lieing and sooner or later ya get caught in the web of lies
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@shelagh77 (3643)
15 Feb 07
Well I admire him for telling the truth. A lie here would not have done any harm as he would not have seen the vicar again apart from at the Christening lol. That is why is was so infuriating. The Vicar KNEW his views but he had to wait until six weeks before the wedding to make a big fuss and dance. I try not to tell lies, not from fear of being caught out but because I got a rotten, hyperactive conscience that will keep me awake all night if I do anything too bad.
@mfpsassy (2827)
• United States
24 Feb 07
I bet that made your other half have even more faith huh?
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@mfpsassy (2827)
• United States
24 Feb 07
My hubby says he would have said the same thing as yours
@shelagh77 (3643)
27 Feb 07
Well, he has never had any faith at all and he says it has never done him any harm. I can easily live with people with no faith, it is the people with faith who are so zealous they want to control every move and word that drive me insane!
@gabs8513 (48764)
• United Kingdom
14 Feb 07
Well going by the last 12 months yes I do. I tell the truth and I have to fight. Others tell lies and they get it no Problems. If I would have lied over the last few Months I would probably not have had the Problems that I did have.
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@shelagh77 (3643)
15 Feb 07
I know. It makes you soooooooooooo cross doesn't it! The time taken up by all the fighting your way through the maze in an honest was is to tiring too. Anyways, you WON! Not that there was EVER any doubt!
@merkava (1226)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
Honesty is still the best policy even though it hurts and sounds offensive most of the time. It has the same concept of wrong and right. Why is it hard to do right deeds? Simple, being bad is easy, comes more naturally and is convenient. Honesty should however be put into a tasteful manner and not in a vulgar fashion. Example: you have a beautiful date that has awesome "assets." You can admiringly but vulgarly say "I think you have nice jugs" and get slapped on the face or you can say "I don't mean to sound so forward but I can't help but admire that you have nice curves on top." That may or may not give you a slap on the face but it's sure sounds better than the 1st reply.
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@shelagh77 (3643)
15 Feb 07
Yes, it is a lot easier to lie and it is very difficult to watch known serial liars progress very happily through life whilst one is tangled in the mire of honesty. However, I find my conscience troubles me if I tell a direct lie so I can spend a very long time working out an answer which is not a lie but doesn't actually answer the question. I agree totally that total honesty on a date in the way you describe is not advisable, particularly "jugs" I can imagine that would get you very deep into trouble lol. It is nice to see someone who takes the time and trouble to compliment his Guest. Thank you very much for your comments.