Would you rather cry in a room where no one can see you? Why?

Philippines
February 13, 2007 2:39pm CST
I would prefer crying in a room where no one can see me. When I'm alone, I can burst out my tears without any hesitation. I can cry out loud and have time to think things over. When I do that, it would somehow relieve me and ease the pain that I have inside. Do you have the same preference as I do? Or would you rather cry and lean on someone's shoulder?
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@hartnsoul (558)
• Philippines
14 Feb 07
Yes, I do prefer crying in a room where no one can bother me. Silence allows me to think and contemplate on the sad thing that happened to me. When I'm hurt and crying I pray to God and the solemnity of my room gives me peace. :)
• Philippines
14 Feb 07
Exactly! Solemnity is such a perfect word that could ever describe when I'm crying alone in my room.
• Canada
13 Feb 07
I would rather be by myself . I don't like anyone seeing me cry and it always makes me feel foolish when I am in a room that someone can see me . Like you said in a room we can let it all out without any hesitation and not worry what other's are thinking about us and why we are reacting the way we are .
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
I agree. I also don't want people to say something or comment me on anything when I cry. When i'm alone, that is the best way that I can speak to myself. It's true that when there's other people who see you cry, they might be thinking how foolish you are and they might also misunderstood you.
@palpalsky (900)
• United States
16 Mar 07
well iam very introvert person from my heart ..so i guess i will not cry infront of anybodody ..however it generally never happens ..my emotions always flow and i cant contol my tears.
@babyhar (1335)
• Canada
16 Mar 07
There are very few people that I feel rather comfortable crying around. For the most part even when I do feel rather comfortable crying in-front of someone.. I do at the same time would much rather cry in private without anyone being able to see me. The reason for this is because sometimes I just would much rather cry in the comfort of my own room or even my own home.. I sometimes feel that people judge you when you are crying.. I also feel that I do indeed tend to get rather embarrassed when someone see's me crying & is watching me cry right in-front of them. I feel when I am crying very hard & am just truly upset about things.. I don't have to worry about whether or not I may look silly by doing this.. I don't have to worry about someone looking at me with concerned eyes or even laughing in my face if they end up seeing me cry.. I just find I can cry without worrying what anyone else is thinking.. And without having to worry at the same time if I cry for along period of time what anyone else may think or start saying.. At the same time even though I do prefer a large majority of the time to cry in privacy. I do like having someone whom I can lean on when I end up crying.. It's always nice having someone whom can put there arms around you & comfort you by either holding you or even hugging you.. It's comforting also to know that someone truly does care about your feelings, as well as your well-being if they are willing to hold you & comfort you in anyway possible.. I find when you cry in private you don't really have someone you can express yourself to.. At least when you cry in-front of someone you trust.. And someone you know who won't judge you.. You know that you can express your feelings to them.. Sometimes being able to tell someone else that something is wrong that.. You begin to feel a sense of relief, but also a sense of comfort.. I know that one I cry in-front of someone whom I love.. And they show a form of concern it makes me feel like I truly do have someone I can turn to in time of need.. But also at the same time someone whom truly does care about me.. In conclusion.. I would honestly say that I am a mix between the two.. I find that a large majority of the time I would much rather cry in private.. Where no one can see me.. No one can judge me.. I can cry as long & as hard as I want without worrying whether or not someone may be judging me.. At the same time though when you cry in private sometimes.. All you want is for someone to hold you & comfort you with a hug or even a few words of wisdom.. Sometimes just having someone to lean on to when you are truly upset & crying.. Makes you feel a lot better.. And sometimes even makes you see things a lot clearer as well at the same time.. Sometimes when you are upset about something in particular.. All you need is someone just to be there for you.. Instead of crying on your own without anyone right beside you willing to comfort you & care for you at the same time! . . Thanks for allowing me to share! xx
@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
14 Feb 07
i am not the kind of person who leans on someone else's shoulder when crying. when i am depressed or when i feel bad about something or someone, i cry alone where noone can hear me nor can see me. i had always been like this ever since. whenever my boyfriend and i have such a little argument and i need to cry, i don't let my brothers and mom see that i am crying. i don't want them being affected much about the situation. well, we don't really argue much. there are times that i cry because i miss him a lot (he lives in another country). and yet, i hide my tears from my mom and brothers. i feel safer when crying alone. i feel relaxed to cry. noone's telling me to hush and stop crying. i can be who i am and i can cry everything out when alone.
• Australia
14 Feb 07
I do too i think this is so you can reflect and not have to worry about someone going its ok its ok i know how you feel. who really knows how someone else feels everyone is different and feels things differently