February 14, 2007 3:01am CST
I'm not a jealous type person,but when I've learned that my husband deceived me thats the start of our unpeaceful relationship i keep on nagging, sometimes i sneak to him & always doubting later i realized that this is unhealthy for a married couple so we sat down & talked & promised to start a new ...altho it's hard for me to bring back the trust but im trying to let go those negative feelings just to patch up everything.But sometimes in my loneliness i ask myself am i not beautiful? where am i lacking?And i cried...that' insecurity. Is'nt it? Can there be someone to share experiences same as mine?
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7 Feb 08
Hello there, your post was raised one year ago. I don't know your relationship with your husband has been improved or not and your insecure is better or not. For your age, I don't know this is your first marriage or not. But no matter what, you and your husband should have been together for quite a long time and know each other well. Therefore, you shouldn't have any worries or insecure with your husband if you know him well. To recover from the insecure, you are the one should rebuild the confident by pay a bit of extra attention on your own appearance; make up and take part in more outdoor activities.
23 Feb 07
I think i know of some person who felt like that... i think you need to be more around person who has a positive outlook towards life,,, you have to understand and realise your own importance,,, you cannot let someone else rate you for your beauty or intelligence,,, i think the best that you can do is that you can try to go out a little.,,, not just for the sake of hanging out,,, just to enjoy,,, stop feeling too homely or sickly.,.. try to look at life more positively and try to read some books on GREAT MINDS of the era... if you dont like reading... you can try to go for some movies with your partner ,,, and hangout a little while go for some vacations and start demanding what you want and start telling what you dont like
14 Feb 07
It defintely sounds like insecurity. I've never been in that situation, but I was involved with a guy who was very distant all the time and that relationship hurt a lot until I broke it off with him. Don't start doubting yourself just because your partner did the wrong thing and wants to lay the guilt at your door. They had a choice and chose to do something wrong and that is nothing to do with you. Yes it's difficult to trust someone again, but he has to understand that he has to earn your trust back again. What is he doing to get your trust again? If he's not doing anything then you need to do some more talking. As you say sneaking and nagging aren't going to get you anywhere except make both of you unhappy. Best of luck sorting the situation out.
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14 Feb 07
I think that whenever someone we love leaves us with doubt in their faithfulness to us, we tend to question ourselves. That is definitely insecurity you are starting to feel. It has happened to me before too. That feeling of betrayal can really mess with your self confidence. Please don't let it get to you. I don't know what your husband did to deceive you but only you know in your heart if it is forgivable..and if it is then you have to let go of your insecurity or it will destroy the chance to move forward in your marriage. Best wishes