What should I do - I lost lots of good friends should I write them a letter?
15 Feb 07
I think it's normal, friends go and come. You are a very sensitive girl, you always remember your friends of the past. To me it's possible that someone special deserves your thoughts and letters, you should write one if you think that person was very important to you, it doesn't matter if he/she will answer or not. I happened, in the past, to write or to call some of my past friends, but I have to say that it was a flop initiative. Only one girl I went about with 25 years ago respondend to my letters and now we go out together from time to time. You are very young, so my advice is to know new people, new friends, but if you feel the need to write to an old friend, well, do it, why not?
15 Feb 07
Good friends are really hard to find. As much as possible, cherish every moment that you are together. Show them that they are of great value to you. First, you should assess yourself. Are you a good friend for them? Did I show them the true meaning of pure friendship? If the reasons why they are gone now are purely beacuse of career move or anything not connected with your friendship, then it is fine. But if you are the reason why they are gone, maybe beacuse of your attitude or behavior towards them, then maybe you should have some improvement as a person. Learn all the things that mistakes have brought you in the past. Value things that friendship has brought you, even it is as small as a pea. Finding new friends every now and then is a healthy attitude. It doesn't mean that if you find new friends, you are not contented with your current circle of friends. It is just that you want to expand your horizon. It is also a god way to improve your personality. IF you are able to adopt to different kinds of people and have them as friends, then maybe that is the time that you can say that you are a better person. Cause for me, the friends that you have defines who you really are as a person. It is fine to write them letters even they will not answer it back. As long as you showed them that you still remember them and still value the friendship you've shared for quite some time, is what really counts. As a friend, you have done your part. If they didn't have time to reply, it doesn't mean they forgot you. Just think that while they are reading that letter, You're sure that they remember you, right? Enclose your number so that they may have a contact with you. You'll never know, one day, they'll just give you a call. Friends are treasures, so it does not go out of value.
15 Feb 07
Before writing a letter or calling anybody, please think that why such a thing has happened. Talk to yourself. Ask yourself. Nobody can find or point out their own fault easily. It's this discussion with their conscience, that makes them think and find out their own flaws. Why your old friends chose to move away from you? Have you ever thought that you may be the reason. Perhaps there can be other reasons also. May be you didn't keep a smooth contact, or may be your friends got too busy to maintain the old relations. If you first find out the probable reasons, and then make a move about reconstructing the friendship, then you will be able to try, not to give the relation another chance of damage.