My Ex bf begging for forgiveness on valentines day.

@cheenlly (3483)
Philippines
February 15, 2007 8:54am CST
Yes my damn coward cheater ex boyfriend asking and begging forgiveness for what he done to me. I received a text message from him yesterday valentines day asking for forgiveness. Its been 1 year since we broke up because he cheated on me. In the text message it says Mami, I hope you already forgive me for hurting you and for the mistake i have done to you. im begging you. im sorry-dadi. i was really shocked and it was the first text i received since we broke up and i cnat really help but to cry because i remember the pain. Yes i admit im really having a hard time to move on because i love him very much but its really painful. The wounds that he created doesnt heal yet and i think it will be forever. He ruined my life. After all he had the nerve to say that. Until the pain is still in my heart he will never deserve my forgiveness. I was thinking maybe he is not happy now and they are break-up with the girl. What do you think why he say that? Do you think he is not happy now or he already had the bad karma. Im happy now and was starting to pick up the peices again with someone new and now what he's up to? What will you do in my situation?
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5 responses
@cherriemae (3374)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
I know that guy. He's not worth dying for because he's not that kind of person who can give you happiness. Instead, it makes your life mesirable. I think, he's only playing with you, that he's thinking that you will still love him. Just ignore him and grow up girl. Dont stick your life with such damn coward cheater ex boyfriend..Theres alot of them making us cry and depressed..hahaha I know you had already moved on and making bad things into good..Keep it up girl!
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@cheenlly (3483)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
thanks girl, yes i have move on and no way sticking on that damn cheater guy. i have already closed that chapter of my life.
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
15 Feb 07
I really wouldn't recommend you to leave your current one for the old cheater. Once a cheater stays a cheater. If you leave the current one, you will be the cheater, since as you said things are working well between you two. But that's just me. Some people change, sure, but how do you know he does and who can tell the future anyway? You were hurt before, if you think you can handle another hurt and can hurt your current love, by all means take him back.
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@cheenlly (3483)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
i think i couldnt handle hurt again since the last one was the worst ever. Thanks and your definitely right, once a cheater always a cheater.
@wmg2006 (5383)
• United States
15 Feb 07
This is a shock to say the least. I would be very suspicious of him waiting one year and then contacting you. Maybe he did break up with the other girl and is hoping to get back with the one he knows is the best. Hind sight is always better than fore sight. Since it did not happen to me, it is easy for me to tell you to leave it alone and go on with your life. But if it had happened to me I may not be so quick to say this to you. Only you know for sure how he makes you feel today and how he made you feel in the past. There are so many things you can do with this situation. You can try to re-kindle the love, you can try to just be friends, you can totally ignore the fact he even sent you the message, you can move on and never look back. But only you know what will work for you and your heart. Good Luck with whatever decision you make.
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@cheenlly (3483)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
thanks, if you just only knew what i have been through and how it really hurts me. He has no idea how painful it is and he so selfish to let me remember everything in just one text. yes your right i have many things that i can do in this situation but i have to be strong, i couldnt say i could never look back because it will never be deleted the pain on my heart that he caused me. Im pretty sure i will not re-kindle the love and pretty sure that i couldnt be a friend to him. Only time can tell when can i forgive him. Thanks for very comforting advice.
@kushal24 (200)
• India
15 Feb 07
i know you might think thati am boring and pholosophical,but still here me out.i am reading a book by PAUL COEHLO-THE ZAHIR.in the book he says that it if you hate a person then the hate would cause the pain forever but if you forgive a person then the pain will subside.so you should forgive him and then if you dont want to keep any contact then dont keep it.forgive him it costs nothing
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@cheenlly (3483)
• Philippines
15 Feb 07
i also understand you and i'll appreciate that. maybe its not yet time to forgive him since the pain is still there. maybe in time and only time can tell when is that. when the wound is will be heal. I will not force myself as for now, im sure its very understandable but i still hope in due time i can find through myself to forgive him. thanks
@maddysmommy (16235)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I think you have already answered your question. You said that you are "happy now and was starting to pick up the peices again with someone new". You went through a lot with your ex and i know you are still angry and may possibly still have feelings for him, but i say leave him be. He had his chance with you, he ruined it by going with someone else, and now his life is going sour and wants you back? I say No, but that is just my opinion.
@cheenlly (3483)
• Philippines
15 Feb 07
yes i understand what you mean. i am really angry because maybe i still have the feelings but the trust is broken already and i just cant help but cry because it refreshes the pain again. It just only i have many question that dont have answer when we broke up and my heart was now full of anger for him but i can say no way of getting back. i have learned enough and i will make it sure not to happen again on the present. thanks for your nice opinion.