is it ok for a guy to hit a girl..as a joke?

@pagli84 (1850)
Netherlands
February 17, 2007 9:56am CST
i dont mind playful little taps but when strength is involved and the hit hurts, is it ok even if the guy meant it as a joke? is hitting EVER really a joke? i decided to give my ex another chance last night...stupid idea. everything was going great until a bit ago when we were sitting on my bed joking...and then he 'jokingly' slapped me but it was really hard and hurt. i got angry and told him to stop...and then he did it again. and then he grabbed my hair and pulled my head back despite me yelling at him to stop. when i finally got free, i told him to get the hell out of here after which he proceeded to get angry and tell me that i should go seek help because im not right in the head. did i overreact because he was just trying to be 'playful' or is he wrong in this matter??
2 responses
@nrnotrare (631)
• United States
17 Feb 07
Hello pagli84..... Hitting someone, anyone, is classed as an assault and is a criminal offense, have him arrested. Kick his butt out. Leave him, make him leave, do whatever you need to, to get away from him. Tom
@pagli84 (1850)
• Netherlands
18 Feb 07
i dont want to deal with the police matters, but i did kick him out...and i have no intention of contacting him ever again. i do, however, want to email him some information about abuse and maybe a number to get help, because i really think he has a problem. he was actually the one to tell me never to contact him again. i hate how the one who is in the wrong always finds some way to blame the victim. this isnt the first time he's 'playfully' hurt me before, but i always assumed he was just doing it as a joke and didn't realize what he was doing...and i shouldnt react too much, although i was always annoyed when he did it.
• United States
18 Feb 07
Hello pagli84..... I would advise against contacting him, for any reason. It could seem to him that you are still interested in him. You are better off without him, or anyone that mistreats you. My wife and I will celebrate our 28th anniversay next week, I cannot imagine hurting her in any way. People who use physical force, hitting, are not expressing love. You deserve better. Tom
@livvy092002 (1003)
• Philippines
17 Feb 07
From your story, i can say that his hiiting you the first time may be a joke but his hitting you the second time and so on despite you telling him to stop, is not a joke anymore. You did not overreact and you did what is right. You shouldnt let him do that to you again.. I think he's the one who's not right in the head.
@pagli84 (1850)
• Netherlands
17 Feb 07
thanks for your support. i told him that he is the one with a problem because he thinks its okay to do this to someone else. of course, he didnt bother listening to me and kept repeating that im the one who's not right in the head.