Living Spaces and Attitudes!

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@byfaithonly (10716)
United States
February 17, 2007 2:55pm CST
My question now is do your surroundings effect your attitude? Does a messy house or apartment make you feel depressed, unorganized, or non-productive? When your living space is neat and clean to you feel happy and positive?I know that’s how it is with me which accounts for my bedroom being the neatest room in the house. I can’t sleep in “mess” plus with my laptop now I do most of my writing in that room and I can’t seem to concentrate if the room is unorganized. Now the kitchen, my least favorite place in the house is a mess and seems to get worse by the minute. The worse it gets the more I avoid it. The more I avoid it the messier it gets (drop dirty dishes and run in most cases).
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@CRiley27 (984)
• United States
17 Feb 07
If my house is a mess I turn into a monster. I can;t go to bed with dishes in the sink or "stuff" laying around. I have to come home to a clean house. When my house is clean, I do feel more relaxed and comfortable, contented is the word I am looking for. I get the same way after going grocery shopping. It's a nice feeling knowing I have alot of food in the house. :) (Yes, I should be in therapy LOL) I can not stand a dirty house, even other people's homes. We may not have alot of money, but it's one thing to be poor,and another to be dirty. LOL
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@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
17 Feb 07
Yes, my house isn't dirty but it is messy, like my son's snowboard in the dinning room where he dropped it when he came in, my empty Diet Pepsi bottle laying on the stove because I was too lazy to take it to the garage, stuff like that. Now I have a girlfriend that her house is filthy. One time my power was out but hers wasn't so she invited the kids and I to come there and stay warm. 2 older ones went to friends so was just the 2 younger ones but we were going to sleep in the living room and it took me 6 hours to clean it before I could set down - cereal on the floor, sofa and chairs all covered with dirty cloths, dirty dishes all over the place. I cleaned it all up but went over a week later and you wouldn't have known I did anything.
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@mjgarcia (725)
• United States
17 Feb 07
When things are messy I feel guilty about the mess but at the same time I try to avoid doing the work. I have noticed that the cleaner my kitchen is - the more I want to cook. My husband gripes about the clutter, but he doesn't recognize that he's a big share of the problem. When he blames me for it, I feel guilty because I don't always have the time to do the work.
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@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
17 Feb 07
LOL it must be a "guy" thing. Yesterday before I cleaned I went through the livingroom and realized not one thing in there that was out of place was mine. Dishes, cloths, blankets, CDs, and more all belonged to my son but he didn't see anything as "his mess".
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
17 Feb 07
oh yes ! it surely does...I cannot be comfortable when my house is too messy..I have to admit however i may have more time than most...I am a hair dresser by trade,which i am not retired but at the time being i am taking time off for awhile..My husband is a vietnam vet,age 60 and he is not working because he is retired from the military and he helps me a lot,and i do not have any small children..I just throw those dishes in the dishwaher,and do a little here and there and he takes out the garbage,and vaccums for me,so that helps...I have a dog,cat and a parrot which mostly my husband takes care of so we share the load and things stay pretty neat.Thank god for a good husband...
@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
17 Feb 07
Oh you lucky lady: a man that helps, no young children, and a dishwasher. Your life is my dream come true, wanna trade?
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@Sasselle (698)
• Australia
17 Feb 07
I find that it does - but mainly when i'm in a foul mood or depressed.If i'm in an ok mood, i just see past the clutter and things - or i can see the positive in having it like that. The most messiest room is usually either my sons bedroom [he is only 3 and hasn't understood that we don't just get ALL the toys out and chuck them on the floor] or the dining room as I have my computer there and i want to use the table as a desk .... but i also have no storage cupboards in the house yet so i have a zillion unpacked boxes with items that don't have a home yet. I hope the "no mess fairy" visits your house soon to magically clean up for you!
@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
17 Feb 07
LOL - I don't discuss my son's room, it's upstairs and I only go up there maybe once or twice a month, close the door and try to forget it. Fairy must have been to my house, it is spotless, at least this moment, son is gone and I'm in bedroom on computer :)
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@jwin2003 (242)
• United States
17 Feb 07
i messy room makes me feel lasy and stressed out. a clean room helps me think clearly and keeps me motivated to accomplish things.
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@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
17 Feb 07
LOL, I spent half the day and late into the night yesterday cleaning house - I feel so much better and actually enjoy walking through my house today.
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• United States
17 Feb 07
mine sure does depress me since my landlord wants to sell it and I cant afford a down payment so since i only have a years lease i know im going to have to move next sept i love it but i feel i have no roots!
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@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
17 Feb 07
OH dear we're in the same boat. My landlord is also selling my home, I had a 2 year lease. I've been saving a bit at a time hoping to buy eventually but lost my main job just before Christmas so had to dip into the savings. I don't want to move, I love the house, location, and everything. Plus I hate moving. I will keep you in my prayers if you don't mind.
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• United States
18 Feb 07
and I will you ! we could both use a mirracle !
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@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
18 Feb 07
Thank you and Amen, I did have a little miracle yesterday. Wed. the landlord stopped by and told me the realitor had 3 people who wanted to look at the house Saturday. Well, I cleaned up the house so it was presentable but didn't make plans to leave like I normally would. Early in the morning it started snowing, again, and I decided I would pray it would snow so hard no one would want to go out looking at houses. I prayed this but added I didn't want it to snow so hard that anyone would get hurt or anything. It continued to snow and guess what - no one showed up to look at the house. Praise the Lord - if the house doesn't sell maybe they will be willing to work a good deal with me.
• United States
18 Feb 07
oh Faith, you and I are sisters!! lol Now that my OCD is under control I am not such a "freaked out " woman when things get cluttered. I am sure my "cluttered" would be considered to be NEAT by otheres. I have no big storage area, so everything has a place or it goes!! I am slowly cleaning out makeup that I haven't used. When I come home and I see UGh i hate it!!! Have to pick up!!! I'd like to think this discussion could be a support network for those that want a less mesy house!! What do you think, Faith and everyone else?/?
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• United States
18 Feb 07
my own comment!! what a hoot!!!! Right now as my sheets are washing, my bathrooms need cleaning, SERIOSLY!! and I sometimes wish my OCD would pop up its head for a couple hours!!
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• United States
18 Feb 07
OH gosh you hit the nail on the head. I have such trouble when the house is messy. I can't even think straight. Problem is I have fibromyalgia and it is so hard for me to expend energy to clean when I have so little and my special needs son needs so much of it. My hubby works crazy hours and while he helps it is no where near what I would like. My teen daughters do their best to help out but it is never as clean as I get it. (they all tend to move messes rather than actually put them away) *sigh*
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@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
18 Feb 07
Yep, no one cleans like "Mom" cleans. When all the kids were at home each was responsible for their own belongings and their own bedrooms. They would "clean" and when they left the house I would go behind and clean again. You do have your hands full though - I have no excuse except old or lazy.
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@villageanne (8579)
• United States
17 Feb 07
Yes, your surrondings do affect your mood and attitude. I dont think you always feel happy when your space is clean but it does help. I have been sick alot lately and unable to do much bending. I also get tired real easy as a result of my illness. My house is a mess and I hate it. I feel like I am a mess as a result of my surrondings. I cant explain it but it is true. I find that the messier a room gets the less I want to be in that room
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@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I know what you mean, a few weeks ago I was down with pnomonia for 3 weeks, my house was horrid and I know if I asked someone from church to help they would have gladly but I was ashamed to have anyone come over. Stuck between a rock and a hard place.
@kortni (26)
• Canada
17 Feb 07
Ohhhhh yes. I'll admit it, i can get quite messy, and lack motivation to clean. But when i get really depressed about the mess, i clean! and i get happy :D My kitchen is a disaster zone right now.. and it is on the verge of making me unhappy.. I know while living under my parents roof, i was always depressed and angsty. As soon as i moved out, my whole world seemed to open up. I am more happy then ever..
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@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I know I was happier when I had my own place too. My kitchen is clean now but I just went out and see my son left a dirty glass on the counter - I washed it, just so proud of myself.
@greengal (4288)
• United States
18 Feb 07
I think my surroundings affect me to a certain extent too. Considering the neatness freak I am, my house cannot be a dump, everything has to be in order. My hubby doesn't put stuff back where I want them and I'm always itching to set things right..lol!Dirty, unorganized houses put me off and I can't stay in them for long. Even while visiting friends and family, I happen to 'assess' the scene by instinct..hehe! I sure can't live with a mess.
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@nehakalley4 (1919)
• United States
18 Feb 07
Yea I feel very depressed if my surroundings are not clean and it takes only minutes to clean uo but I sometimes feel very lazy to clean it. But when I am done I feel much better and confident and it makes me toconcentrate on what I am doing. It is also that the working place should also be clean to make us concentrate on our surroundings.
• United States
18 Feb 07
So, if you feel unmotivated, hoew do you get going??? Sometimes I just start doing whatever chore I am putting off. Not like me at all to procrastinate!!!
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@psmanian (40)
• India
18 Feb 07
Yes Surely surroundings effect your attitude and quality of work. That is why Japanese are very particular about "5S" ( Hope, You will be knowing 5S, If no try in the net). 5S is being practised by lot of manufacturing Industries. The quality of the final product is the reflection of maintenance of cleanliness in the shop floor.
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@cjthedog64 (1554)
• United States
18 Feb 07
I'm like you. When everything is messy, I tend to focus on the mess and that it needs to get cleaned up. When things are neat and tidy, I am able to relax and focus on myself and my family. That's why I like to follow the Flylady's ideas. It's so much easier to do a little bit everyday than to be overwhelmed by the monstrosity of it all.
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@Dzbfree (94)
• United States
18 Feb 07
Yes, I think your surroundings have a lot to do with your attitude. I try to keep my livingroom nice because when I come in the door from work, it is so depressing to walk into a mess. I've learned to work on one room at a time, so I can see a change. I used to run all over the house, doing little things here and there, and at the end of the day I was exhausted and the house didn't look much better. Try dividing your kitchen into different areas, and plan to attack just one of them each day, for instance, clean off the countertop or mop the floor. Trying to do it all at once is overwhelming and makes you just want to forget it.
@charms88 (7546)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
I am a very neat person and can't tolerste mess even dust. I used to think that I'm weird or something coz I really can't stand the mess in my sight. Back then while I'm still working, I woke up real late that I quickly get dress and flew to my office. I wasn't able to clean my apartment. Can you imagine...the whole day at my office, I was like not feeling good. I kept thinking that my apartment was dirty. Maybe its just a part of me. Even with mu husband, I have to keep reminding him to put things in order. LOL...
• United States
18 Feb 07
My surroundings absolutely affect my attitude. I find that when things are messy or cluttered, I can not concentrate. I feel great after a day of organizing my home!
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18 Feb 07
Hi,I am the same as you as far as the clean .neat and tidy my surroundings are,I feel clean fresh and relaxed myself .and it doesn't mater how tired i am .when i walk in to my house as in it's clean state. i feel the tiredness leaving my body i feel fresh . How ever i cannot just ignore the rest of the house it has to be same all over .that is why me and my g/friend clean the areas we mess up, as we go along .it's easier to keep things under control . that is not to say we never leave any cleaning for next day happens many times .but it gets done next day .
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@freesoul (3024)
• Egypt
18 Feb 07
I can make my own mess and live comfortable with it :) I still know where everything is and can get around easily but I'm not comfortable if I didn't create the mess myself lol. My place is always a mess and it feels "like home" where i can be comfortable and not worried about what others thinks a bout it:) it's not that bad (at least in my eyes:) anyway when I'm not living alone I don't have much problems in adjusting to more 'neat' place :)
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