He is My Everything... My All! (Girl Please... Get A GRIP!)

United States
February 17, 2007 5:12pm CST
Don't you think that it's unfair to put that much pressure on a man? My gf's whole world revolves around her man and outside of him she really doesn't have (and doesn't want) much of a life. Her day revolves around checking up on him (Is he where he said he's going to be? and half the time i think he just makes up stuff so that he can get away from her for a while)... He tells her that he feels suffocated by her need to be with him at all times. Do you think that this behavior is healthy? I'm a firm believer that a couple needs space and interests outside of each other. Do you agree or disagree with me & why?
6 responses
• United States
18 Feb 07
It's unfair to ANYONE that is the subject of someone's obsession. It sounds as if your gf has insecurity issues--my husband was the same way and is one of the reasons I divorced him. She needs counseling or else she'll always end up chasing away everyone.
@marciascott (25557)
• United States
19 Feb 07
She difinetaly will chase him away if she keeps that up!
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• United States
19 Feb 07
I definately agree with you two
@marciascott (25557)
• United States
19 Feb 07
sound like she is in love, and maybe it doesn't love her as much, tell her to take a break from hin, and start seeing other people just be friends not having a serious relationship. then she will know what the deal is. even if she loves him take abreak from him, she will see results. and thats a fact if he really cares about her.
• United States
19 Feb 07
I don't think that she would know how to take a break from him. it's the most pathetic thing that i've ever seen. i mean i LOVE my man... but i need time and space from him sometimes. and i respect his space too, and i think that's why we get along so well
@lullabell (436)
• United States
18 Feb 07
Yep i'm with you guys too. She will end up lonely. Her life needs to be her own so that she has one to "share" with him. by excluding all other activities and people from her life she will not have any thing that was herself when they met left to share with him.
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• United States
19 Feb 07
and that's exactly what I keep telling her. i can just see him leaving and then she would have nothing. it just infuriates me
@estarga (1188)
• United States
19 Feb 07
It sounds like she is either codependent or insecure. I feel for her either situation. She has got to realize that everyone needs some time away from their SO. If that man loves her she needs to settle down and step back. If it is meant to be it will be if not then there is nothing that she can do to stop it and if anything she is making a break-up happen a whole lot sooner. She needs to get a life and quickly or it wil be all down hill when and if he leaves.
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@mzbubblie (3840)
• United States
19 Feb 07
I totally AGREE wit you....I was in a marriage where he soffocated me, after a while it gets old, I couldn't take it anymore...I tried to talk to him for about a year or so... I've found when people (some people) are clingy like that, they are in need of not only your all attention, but they have low self esteem and insecurities.. not saying your friend is like that, but that's what I gathered through my experience... It isn't healthy at all because it could lead to what happened with my married a break up...It wears not only wear each other out, but arguments, and wanting to push away from that person tends to happen... No matter if you are married or in a relationship, each person needs space..there is no if's and's or but's about it.. Thank you for responding..
@mememama (3077)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I agree that a couple needs space. If you spend that much time together, well it'll get boring and you need to keep some mystery about you to keep it interesting. Plus, if she keeps obsessing over him, she'll lose her friends-what will she do if they break up? She'll have no one. I've seen this happen before. She should listen to him, that she's suffocating him, otherwise he'll probably dump her. I've been with my husband for over 6 years and we like to do things apart sometimes, that's healthy!
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