When my child is upset with me

@Dolcerina (3380)
Hungary
February 18, 2007 11:04am CST
That is not easy. They are little human so we must accept if they are upset. But how do they dare to be upset with us?!!! :D Willyou be upset too? We need to be patient with them. But when I have to repeat my request 100 times, that is really exhausting. Morning: He does not want to get up so he gets upset with me, because I want else than he wants. After he doesn't want to dress up,so he gets upset with me, because I want else than he wants. He doesn't want to have breakfast, so he gets upset with me, because I want else than he wants. He doesn't want to brush his teeth,so he gets upset with me, because I want else than he wants. He doesn't want to take his coat and shoes on, so he gets upset with me, because I want else than he wants. In the evening: He doesn't want to put his toys away, so he gets upset with me, because I want else than he wants. He doesn't want to take a shower, so he gets upset with me, because I want else than he wants. He doesn't want to brush his teeth,so he gets upset with me, because I want else than he wants. And these are only the regular normal daily fights. And there are so many!!! And I have to smile each occasion, and explain to him, that he should. Or I smile, and say to him, OK than you stay at home, or OK than tommmorow you may not play with your toys, etc. It is really exhausting sometimes. phhu! I wonder what age will he finish the fighting? Have you got experiences with children. ANyway I know, I am sure, that my son is much much wellbehaved than other children I hear about. Everybody praise him for his kindness. And I smile, "Yes,he is a very good boy" I wonder what age will he finish the fighting? Have you got experiences with children?
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@adidas7878 (2013)
• United States
19 Feb 07
hello friend, dont worry about it too much kids, because kids will always be kids, maybe you should have your boyfriend help with your kids, he will get out of that pretty soon, maybe you can reward him or something after each thing he does, or save them up and take him to some place fun. that should help if he know there is a reward at the end .
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@Dolcerina (3380)
• Hungary
19 Feb 07
NOOOO, it never helps... And I do not want him to be good only for the reward. It doesn't work, anyway. I think that getting up in the morning, or washing the teeth are not so special requests I should reward...
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• United States
19 Feb 07
but think of this way, everything has it a reward if you havent notice yet, it may be small but it does has a reward, your job for exsample, why do you work it? it has a reward at the end good or bad, it will get pay dont you? that is reward for going to work you may not see it as a reward, because all the things you have to put up with. but hey it is a reward
@Dolcerina (3380)
• Hungary
19 Feb 07
But I am not rewarded, and I have never been rewarded for getting up, or taking my shoes on. These are not works, these must be done every day to live our life.
@royal52gens (5379)
• United States
18 Feb 07
Ummm, let me guess....he's five. Am I right? The old mother's saying is: The terrible two's the tantrum three's the fearsome four's the fighting five's (yours??) the sassy six's the snotty seven's the eager eight's the naughty nine's the trying ten's. I think the saying might go even further but I have raised 4 children and am now working on 3 grandchildren. I have seen every one of them go through these stages of life. Currently, I have two rebelling teenage girls who only love their daddy and keep saying the dreaded words, "I hate you, mom". When they are 25, they will change their minds about that one. I can wait them out. When they were 11, 12 and 13 years of age, they were going through puberty and I have a lot of gray hair to prove I made it through that phase. 14, 15, 16 years of age they will rebel a lot and when they are 17, 18 years of age they will think they know it all. There is another saying: Teenagers think they know it all, so quick, hire them while they still remember it. hehehe So hang in there, honey. Raising children is going to be the biggest adventure of your life. In between the headaches, fights and arguments, you will also find your greatest joys.
@Dolcerina (3380)
• Hungary
18 Feb 07
:DD I like your comment. He is alredy 7 in may. And yes, he is sassy, maybe snotty (?) So it seems in each of his year he become "nicer" and "nicer". He does not change but receives one + "nice" property.
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