How is life being single??

Philippines
February 19, 2007 1:30am CST
I'm thinking about being single about the rest of my life. And i want to ask if being single is ok? I know we have friends and stuffs that would make us busy and occupied. But what's in it for us, singles, at the end of the day when we are at home and not being with someone that we could talk to and share your life with. Its a sad thought but I know persons that are still happy though they are single. What are the things that keeps you up and make your day worth living being single?? What is it like being single for the rest of your life. Would you prefer to be single too??
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@ghurl5384 (121)
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
i don't think being single is lonely. it just depends on how you live your life. i have a cousin, she's now 40 yrs old, and still single. i don't think she'll ever marry, but i can see that she's not lonely. she have lots of friends, and since she has no obligations, her income will go all to herself. she often travels abroad and just tour around different places. so i guess being single is not that bad at all. it'll all depend on you.
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• Philippines
19 Feb 07
Having a time of your own and enjoying the fruits of labor not worrying about anything at all. Hmmm... that's not bad either. Thanks for your response.
• India
20 Feb 07
I totally agaree with you. But your life partner can be one with whom you can share almost everything that you can share with your friends.
@nishanity (1652)
• India
19 Feb 07
welll... i guess it would be ablast to be single while u r young...at 21 years i am having fun by being single... i am not answerable to anyone and tht feeling is great... and i dont wanna change anythng od it... but i also happen to be sensible... the problem of being single arises when he reach middle-age...seeing all our married pal might at tht age make us sad.. and at the time we reach old age, we will be all alone and no one wants to be with a old person... but if we were married we wud have had a spouse to spend the rest of our lives with and never be alone!
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• Philippines
19 Feb 07
i still young but i cant see myself single for the rest of my life.. huh.. i want to have a family and someone who will be there up to my last breathe.. I want to be comforted and have someone to listen to. But for teenagers somehow i prefer to be single at once or a little period of confusing relationships.. I want to be alone and enjoy life. I want to live sometimes without gf who will follow yor stuffs and hang outs.. huh! I somehow hate commitments...
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• Australia
19 Feb 07
I like the freedom of being single, but I get really lonely sometimes. It's a never ending battle with me. I'm usually independent but if I don't have someone around me I feel inadequate. It may not be a partner and could just be a friend. I'm ok being single as long as I have heaps of friends. But as you grow older it is the expectation to get married and its hard when you see all your friends couple off. Which is where I am at the moment.
@ygkchaitu (388)
• India
19 Feb 07
I feel being single is different from being lonely. So if you are open minded person and accept short term relationships then it is fine. But people who thrive for long term relationships cannot stay single as they might feel lonely even having a lot of friends around. So choose your paths well thought.
• Nigeria
19 Feb 07
I despise being single. All my family and friends are in relationships, getting married, having kids. It makes me so sick to my stomach. Every time I hear somebody I know is getting married or got pregnant, I sit in my apartment and get really depressed. I am a hopeless romantic, and I know my dream girl is out there somewhere, but it is discouraging being alone. It is starting to get worse, because Christmas is coming, and I have no one to spend it with, and of course New Year's.
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• Nepal
19 Feb 07
I think single life is more comfortable for the people. Coz he can do anything for his responsible life.
• India
19 Feb 07
i m sorry my dear wht i dont agree with u ,as i per my thinking is concern ,living a single life means to me ,a life without any purpose as we all know u shud have someone who loves u and care for u ,yeah it is right tht u cn face many prob in relation bt problems r also the part of life ,so if wana live a gud u shud have aleast someone there fr u
• Romania
19 Feb 07
I've never thought that i would become so addicted to someone...i mean the way i am now...i even had a time when i was starting to believe that having a happy couple life is just one more fairy tale because as we all know, life isn't always a straight line,especially concerning our love life.now me and my boyfriend are seriously thinking of getting married as soon as possible because we can no longer take this border that still keeps us apart. love can be more than beautiful my friends!we just have to let it come into our lives when the time is just right! :)
• United States
19 Feb 07
I don't won't to be single... my aunt has been single for decades... she doesn't want to cook for a man, or clean up after them... I think it is because a man malested her daughter (her husband)
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
I'm sorry to hear that. I think your Aunt's bad experience in her relationship made her decide to be single. It's really a tough thing to go through since her husband was involved. I hope she does well. Thank you for responding.
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
i am sorry to here that. i think it really hurts if the one involved is the one you love the most. it's just really tough to decide which party to side on. but i guess your aunt chose the right thing to live as a single to protect her daughter.
@juoanna (362)
• Portugal
26 Feb 07
well if i answer I never want to get married, does that answer to your question? I love being single;)
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
^_^ Brief post but straight to the point. Thanks for posting juoanna.
@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
26 Feb 07
I am single and i have been single for over three years and i do not mind it all to be completely honest. I have two beautiful little girls and i keep my niece and they occupy my time just fine. I do want to meet the man that i will decide to marry someday but who knows when that will happen but in the meantime i am perfectly fine being single!
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
Me too been single for 8 years. But its alright, sometimes you just have to accept things the way they are. If having a partner for life is not for me then let it be. Its just a matter of adjusting and learning to cope up with the circumstances with it. Others bravely endure the moments of loneliness and others discover the beautiful wonders of being single. Thanks for posting ronita ^_^
@babyjane (1395)
• Philippines
22 Feb 07
Being single for the rest of your life? Kinda unbelievable. But being single is cool not worrying about obligation.
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
Why not? ^_^ there are advantages and disadvantages on both sides of the picture, being married and being single. As what they have posted, they gave me a good reason to stay single. I think i'm going to be alright staying single.
@d_eagle (100)
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
i think being happy is a choice and not a state in life. being happy is being contented with where and what you have. i tought ill be a single coz i wanted to. i havent had a relationship and dont have any bad experiences, i just like where i am, having my own time. im happy with my friends, and family and didnt feel the need to have someone. now that i have a partner, i cannot say that im happier or less happy, is just that im contented with him. im happy without him, and still happy having him. my point is that, if you let yourself to look on things that you dont have, that will make you feel lacking and lonely. being single is not bad or lonely.
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
That's why I wrote this topic. It's because for so long now I haven't had any relationship at all and seeing myself being single for the rest of my life is what comes to my mind. But since you guys opened up my mind, Me, being single is not bad after all.
• India
20 Feb 07
In one word.. it is BLISS. enjoy as much a su can when u r single, as for most of us it will be only the first 20-27 years that they are going to be single. Then, you would be caught in the webs of familyhodd whether you like it or not. So peopel say loudly and proudly "I AM STILL SINGLE" :-)
• India
20 Feb 07
is it necessary to burn yourself to set a example for others to prove that fire is harmful?
@chaime (1153)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
I'm not single, so I may not be the best person to say this, but here's my take on singlehood. Singlehood is a choice, a choice one makes not to be with a partner. It will also be your choice if you will feel down or lonely when you are home alone. Sometimes, honestly speaking, I love my husband to pieces but sometimes, just sometimes, I wish I was alone. I realize most of us would want to share our lives with another. But it doesn't necessarily mean having someone beside you in bed. You can be single but not alone or lonely. As you said you have friends. The only gauge you have to consider is yourself. Are you happy, content with the life you made? then it's ok. You might find other ways to fulfill yourself rather than have a partner. I mean get involved with community work, volunteer for a worthy cause. Or pursue a life long dream. Something like that. Some people call it blessed singleness.. think about it... they don't call it blessed for no reason. I guess some people are not meant to be with someone else I know many people who's lives are complete even though they are single. It's a choice they make and they're happy with it. They have their family, friends, work and other stuff that make their lives worth living
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
If you'd ask me I'm in between this feelings of making a choice or waiting for fate to decide. Its really crazy. Maybe waiting for someone made me tired of believing that i am meant for someone or somebody out there. Bad Luck or maybe I'm just too picky?? Thanks for your opinion. You gave me options I never thought of that are doable being single.
• United States
19 Feb 07
I would NEVER want to be single forever. Sure I love alone time, but not FOREVER alone. Hello! I want a husband, and children. I hate being single at times. Well not now. Now I am just not in the ability to have a boyfriend anyways. I need to get my career going and figure out stuff. But within a good year or so I will be ready! And then I want a boyfriend, turn into husband. I want it ALL. And it will and must include marriage! :))
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
Hope your plans turn out ok. It does feel great to have someone to walk along with through the rest of our lives. I had a relationship once but it didn't work out. But I never regret having her in my life. Its is sweet and one of a kind. And if you ever find the one you love cherish every moment, good or bad. Thanks for your reply.
@ebo_bro (190)
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
Im in my late 20s and never had an intimate relationship with a girl. I didnt want to be single, its just I rather not have a girl just for the sake of the fear of loneliness. I want it to be because of love. I did find THE GIRL, she simple just not want me. being single for me is a way of life. it have it pros and cons. Remember this my friend, yes im alone but not lonely. And I knew lots of people in a relationship but its them who are lonely. But please dont plan it. If that perfect match of yours did pass your way. give your every best effort to at least for him or her to look on your direction :)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
That's a good point there. Having to be honeslty loved but not to love someone just for the sake of being lonely. I agree with you ebo_bro.
@bmohan (10)
• India
19 Feb 07
hey just think how a person can be able to remain single without any other person. its really boring man. and according to me no one can be able to lead their life without any other person. there should be someone to share our feelings na? without any patner life is really boring.
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
Man, that thought comes to my mind whenever I see my brother and sister with their family. During new year and christmas my brother visits us at home but my sister, we are living under one roof with our parents. Seeing them gigling with her husband, they joke about anything, talk about everything and playing with their little angels. I think its really fate for them to be with each other. And as for me, I'm not really closing the doors for possibilities that I might find someone someday. Just preparing myself if fate chooses me to be single.
@Opteron (1845)
• Italy
19 Feb 07
My greatest fear in the life could be to be alone for the rest of my life! I want to have a family in the future. I have tried to be alone for years and years (even if I am still a boy and I live with my family) and it's thirsty! I think it would be so thirsty to come back at home and find none to talk with...none to love. I think that people saying it's great to remain single is only thinking in the sort time...but a whole life is very difficult to live alone! Think when you get older and older....and none is near you to comfort and love you. I think life has no sense if you are alone!
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
Same here. Felt the same way too and thought of the circumstances that goes with it being as a single person. Been 8 years single and I'm not proud of it. Sometimes you meet someone that you really liked but she's taken and there are instances that you find someone that are single but doesn't like you at all ^_^ sometimes I frustrate myself thinking that I'll still find my other half in life.
@cheerldr (594)
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
It's fun, really! I get to meet my friends whenever I want and I now do things I can't do when I'm committed. I really enjoyed the single life but sometimes, it;s saddening. Coz you long for someone who would say "iloveyou" to and someone who would check on you. But if I were to choose, i want to be committed and have a stable relationship than being single for the rest of my life.
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
Hope someday you'll find the right person you will cherish for the rest of your life. Thanks cheerldr for your response.
@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
19 Feb 07
I am in my 40s and I am single. I had relationships in the past but never got married. In fact, I felt emotionally burdened when I was with a guy. Maybe it's my personality, I try to always please other people and that stresses me up alot. At the end of the day, I think being single frees me from alot of unnecessary problems that are related to being in a relationship. If I am lonely, it is up to me to join social gatherings like the church or community clubs and sign up for courses which are of interest to me. It doesn't mean that if I get married, I will be happier or less lonely.
• Malaysia
20 Feb 07
I will turn to 30 next year but I still haven't found my future husband or into a serious relationship. My past experienced been cheated made me think more than 100 times before I start to trust any man. Sometimes, I feel I wanna remain single for the rest of my life. But sometimes I need a life partner whom I love and who loves me too. And I wanna have kids who will take care of me in my old age. My time is fulfill with my offline and online jobs, so I'm not really feel lonely though.