A friend who has tones of my stuff..

February 19, 2007 5:23am CST
I have a friend whom I used to be very close too. Over that time she borrowed countless things. From books to PS2 games. She also owes me money for prints of my photography that she bought. We haven’t been getting on too well but I wish to remain civil as I’m leaving for Uni soon anyway and don’t want to create any more friction in my group of friends. However I would like my stuff back. I wouldn’t go around to her house as her Mums boyfriend is violent and I understand that my friend has probably forgotten that she even has all my things. What do you think I should do?
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@WebMann (4732)
• Canada
19 Feb 07
I have a friend like that and I ended up just letting her keep it all. I would never loan anything to her ever again as she doesn't respect other people property and treats it like she treats her own stuff. I just look at it as a lesson learned. :) Or you could just tell her that you are moving and would like to get the stuff back before you leave, please and thank you.
19 Feb 07
That's a really good idea. I think you were in exactly the same situation as i am.
@rosie_123 (6118)
19 Feb 07
When I was at Uni. I lost tons of stuff over the years, just from lending it to people who either "forgot" to return it, or got it into a bad state so it was unusable anyway:-(( I was upset about it of course, but I tended to just shrug it off, and put it down to experience. As a result I never lend stuff out to anyone now - probably sounds harsh, but that is just the way I am. If there is any chance of violence involved, I would just say stay right out of it, cut your losses, and just make sure you don't lend your stuff out in future.
19 Feb 07
Oh no, if I don't go over there i'm fine. He won't hunt me down or anything lol. Very good advice though, thank you!
19 Feb 07
Well if you lent her the money then she doesn't own them as it's you money and she hasn't paid for anything as such so legally it's yours. If i wasn't getting one with a friend in this situation i would ask for the things back and if not take action as some friends only want our stuff. for a few things i wouldn't bother, i'd just cut my loses. ask her politely and go from there. if she says no and you really want whats yours then get it back by taking legal action, although as a friend you might not want to take this road. it's yours, they belong to you =) Goodluck ~Joey