Mostly for the Women, but Guys I would like to hear what you think about us too

@estarga (1188)
United States
February 19, 2007 10:27am CST
Ladies, why are we always in competition with each other? Why do we "HATE" on each other the way we do? I am now a stay at home mom and I do not interact with other females as much anymore but I remember being in a callcenter with the majority of women and there was always someone talking about the other. Spreading gossip about another and just generally never having anything good to say about another. I found that since I was the type to go to work be cordial and stay out of all their workplace gossip, there was more of a reason for them to talk about me. I promise I was never mean or rude I simply stayed to myself. I have this one "friend" whom it seems like she is always in competition with me. I got married so she got married. I purchased a house she said she purchased a house (I later found out that she did not she was renting), it doesn't stop there either, our daughters are near the same age (which is the only reason we still associate) and If I say my daughter is reading at a 3rd grade level she will say her daughter is reading at a 5th, so now I say nothing. To me its the "crabs in a barrel" mentality and it really burns me sometimes. Why are some women like this? Do you have any friends like this? I give a plus for all quality responses.
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• United States
19 Feb 07
I don't understand it either. I mean woman will go after their friends men, or snag them just as soon as they're broken up. I don't understand it. What happened to having our fellow sisters backs? I've said it before - Woman are vicious! I don't have that current situation (although I had a cousin similar to that around growing up) but I've got friends I wouldn't leave around my hubby knowing full well that he wouldn't cheat on me and ESPICALLY with them. And that is a shame! I wouldn't want to put my hubby in an uncomfortable position - or to have him tempted! LOL! Men (usually) are the complete oppisite. Always having their friends back everything. Our brains must be wired wrong! LOL...maybe it's society though. I mean we're always competing with one another from a very early age...*pondering*
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@estarga (1188)
• United States
23 Feb 07
That is exactly how I feel about it. I trust my husband too, but I most surely do not trust them women. The thing is it makes me sad that I have to feel that way.
@mjgarcia (725)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I have a sister like that. She is so insecure that she feels she has to outdo everyone. She's the best, the brightest and the most talented. (so is her daughter, of course) She's so busy trying to prove it to everyone that sometimes its hard to remember that she really is a great person on her own. I can only handle her in limited doses. Its sad, when we were younger - we were really close.
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@ladygator (3469)
• United States
20 Feb 07
Ah yes, the "friends" Nope I dont have any of those anymore. I used to but now I really have NO time for them. I cant stand some catty women. But they are here on the puter to, so be careful about some groups. I had to leave on when my son was born cuz I could not stand this one girl. Me along with all the other ladies in the group so maybe she is alone now in the group by herself, LOL.
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@missinghim (1339)
• United States
27 Feb 07
I've never had many gf in my life. I can be friendly with those that I HAVE to deal with on a regular basis (co-workers, etc), but never would I consider them my true friends. I don't compete with anyone, there is only one me, but I do notice that I'm often hated on by females (especially if their man is around & trust me... I don't want your man because I'm dealing with enough when it comes to my own man). I've never been a particularly jealous type of person, so if i see another woman doing good... then I'm happy for her. I don't deal with the gossip, nor do I deal with any pettiness (my main focus is on my child and my man & I don't have enough time to worry about what "Suzie" is doing). I don't surround myself with people that are like that (too unhealthy).
@ahalapia (946)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I am not sure what or why we do what we do, I know what you say is true, I would bet on another woman "stabbing me in the back" so to speak before I woud bet on a man doing it, woman seem to always be in competition with one another. I know I have one friend that is never happy if I have gotten something she feels she should have got she will tell me about it. I am also a stay at home mom, and in a way I am glad that I don't have to deal with most of that anymore.