How can you be honest and not hurt someone?

@reaperz (1268)
United States
February 19, 2007 1:07pm CST
I find this really hard to do... How can you be honest but not hurt someone's feelings?
4 responses
@ygkchaitu (388)
• India
19 Feb 07
Being honest to oneself is being true to oneself but when it comes to being honest to others would mean not just being true but being just to them. That is one should not hurt them. Well that is pretty hard to me as well but as time came on i learnt to be honest and not hurt anyone. I just say i have to meet some one if i have to go away from that place instead of saying the same to the person. So adopt an imaginative person or situation to be honest and not hurt them.
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
yess... that is hard to do.. i would even say its impossible.. cos it hurts to know the truth... lots of sayig about honesty. and personally, i know its hard... i guess, someone just needs to be as tough as he/she could.. but WTF even if u try to be tough outside, it will still hurt inside... i dont know what to tell you... but i guess, whatever it is that u need to be honest about, just go for it. one-time pain is more endurable and is easier to get over with instead of having to keep on hurting her/him by doing some petty lies...
@crickethear (1421)
• United States
19 Feb 07
You would need to give information about what you want to say to the person? Is it something they really need to know, or just to get out frustration. I know people who say they are honest, and constantly give slams. When you comment on it, they reply, " I was just being honest". If you are doing it to save them from self harm, find. But if it is to tell them they don't look good........Then keep it to yourself.
@mssnow (9482)
• United States
19 Feb 07
Some times its hard. Sometimes you can be tactful. But not always. If someone asks you, if you like the shirt they are wearing and you absolutely hate it. Then you can say" Do you like it because your the one wearing it, so if you like it then I like it". Your not really lying your being tactful telling them that if they like something then that pleases you.