What would you do?

United States
February 19, 2007 1:10pm CST
It's late and you are riding on public transportations, a bus, subway or train. There are not many others riding at this time so you are able to sit where ever you chose. You make your way to the back of the car and sit down, you notice an elderly woman sitting alone towards the middle of the car. There is a stop to allow for boarding and you notice that three young men board and take the set directly across from the elderly woman. The young men begin to harass the old woman and you can see that is afraid. What would you do? Do you offer assistance to the woman, do you turn away and pretend you don't see? Do you hope that someone else will intervene?
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
19 Feb 07
interesting dilema. I would certainly attract attention from the driver and explain to them what was happening but you have to be so careful with the young male ego
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• United States
19 Feb 07
I agree the young male ego can be hazardous to their health and everyone around them. I think getting the drivers attention is a good I deal. Thank you for responding.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
I would intervene and stop the men from what they are doing. If they would not stop, I would get the attention of the driver. I will inform him on what's happening at the back and tell him that he should stop those men from harassing the old lady. I hate people who does not respect elderlies. They deserve a beating. ^__^
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20 Feb 07
I would get the drivers attention also, interveening is not an option, Im a teenager, i know what we are like... I wouldnt try anything lol
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@inked4life (4224)
• United States
19 Feb 07
I would definitely intervene and hope that another passenger would back me up. I'd rather take a beating that sit idly by and watch some elderly lady get harassed.
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• Philippines
20 Feb 07
good to know there are a still people like you who would intervene and help help out. there are a few good men around...
• United States
19 Feb 07
Thank you for that, I would hope that others would assist as well.
@misskatonic (3723)
• United States
19 Feb 07
I'd move and sit next to the elderly woman. If just having a six foot tall chick all in black leather and covered in tattoos and piercings wielding a big wooden stick didn't make them shut up, I'd open my mouth and tell them to f*ck off. Worst came to worst, I'd go and speak to the bus driver. There's absolutely no reason why anyone should be harassed on public transport. Or why anyone should allow it to stand.
• United States
19 Feb 07
Yeah it might make them think twice and I agree with you on the harassment, should happen. I'm always wanted to date someone taller than me, I'm 5'10, to bad you are so far away and I'm so old. *Laughing* Thanks for responding. :)
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
20 Feb 07
I have superhero syndrome (and scars to prove it) so I would definitely try to help the old woman. Of course I would try to get the driver's attention and if that didn't work, try to get another passenger to back me up. But if that failed, I would still go sit by the old women and try to get them to lay off her. I may not be intimidating like MissK there, but I'd do my best. =p
• United States
20 Feb 07
I am scared..truly, I really am. *snicker*=p Really I believe that most people would try and find a way to help if at all possible. I am like you in that I am a defender of those weaker than myself and I have had to pick myself up more than once because of it. Thank you for responding.
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• United States
20 Feb 07
you go girl! *laughing* remind me never to piss you off. =p
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• United States
19 Feb 07
I would walk up and sit next to her and start talking to her. I guarantee they would stop it. If not, I think I could handle the taunting better than an elderly lady could.
• United States
19 Feb 07
I'm with you I would rather it be me that an elderly person. Thank you for responding.
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
19 Feb 07
Since I am a female, I would be scared but I would probably get up and ask the elsderly woman if she would like to come back to the back of the bus and sit by me. I would ignore the mens taunts and calmly help her back with me. If the folowed I would get up and ask the bus driver to do something. If it were a train or subway, I would try to ignore them as long as they did no more than talk. If they abused us (physically) in anyway I would push the emergency button as soon as I could. Really thats about all you can do.
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• United States
19 Feb 07
All good ideas, thank you for responding. :)
• United States
23 Feb 07
If it were me, I would assist the women. I certainly would want someone to get involved if I were the one being harassed.
@babyhar (1335)
• Canada
21 Feb 07
I believe that I could not just turn a blind eye to something like this. I have to big of a heart and too much compassion for people in general to let something like this happen to someone else especially someone who is an elderly person. I don't care for disrespectful people and in a situation like this there is nothing but that being passed on to this elderly person by these young men. I think that elderly people should be respected for their contributions to society and what they have done for humanity in general. To have some young men pick on an elderly woman just because there's no one around on a bus late at night doesn't seem right. I know that if I was in the same situation I would want someone to step in and say something in my defense if there was a gang of young kids picking on me. I guess by putting myself in their shoes, I know that I would being doing some good by trying to stop these men from taunting this old lady. Possibly if I didn't do something to help her, this situation could have terrible results. I would actually think that the operator of the bus would also say something. If not that the least he could do would be pull this bus over and ask the men to come up to the front of the bus. I'd like him to tell the men that if they did not cease their taunting of the elderly lady they would be thrown off the bus and their passes would be revoked. I'm sure if what I said didn't stop them, that what the operator said would make them reconsider their behavior. I don't think I could honestly see myself just sitting there and letting this all happen, that's for sure! I have too big of a heart that cares about people to just not do anything. I would want to help this woman out however I could and I'm sure if I was actually faced with this sort of a situation I would act like I had said I would. My conscience would get the better of me if I had just sat there the entire time & let all of that just happen. In conclusion, I believe I'm the type of person that would go ahead and take action and do something to help this elderly woman who was in trouble. I would say something or try to get someone else to help stop these men from taunting this elderly woman and just leave her alone. Thanks for allowing me to share! xx
@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
20 Feb 07
In this case I would probably hope somebody intervenes really soon! Cause I don't really want to get involved as for I am also a woman... but if nobody does, I don't think I can tolerate seeing her harassed by those men and woould probably go up to her and do something about it, I may be scared but then I would hope for the best! ahaha
@quispy (572)
• United States
19 Feb 07
I would definitely intervene. I am a woman, but I could not sit back and watch this happen. I'd start off with a few words to the young men and take the woman up to the front of the bus with me, sit right behind the driver. If it a subway or train, not sure where we would move to, but I most certainly would get that lady out of harms way. Also, I would hope that someone would do the same if it were my parents!
• United States
19 Feb 07
Thank you for that, I think the elderly are left to suffer far to often it is nice to know that their are those out there that are willing to help. Thank you for responding.
• United States
20 Feb 07
I would go up and sit next to the woman and start a conversation and if the boys persisted i would tell them to stop!
• United States
20 Feb 07
The train that I ride has an emergency intercom that you can use to contact the conductor of the train. Since I'm one to avoid major conflict (and I'd probably be just as scared as the old lady) I would probably stand up and go stand by the emergency intercom, hoping to get the guys' attention that way. If that didn't work, I would pre-dial 911 on my cell phone and hit send if things got violent in some way. I doubt I would say anything directly to the guys. I might take the seat next to woman. The problem is that I'm a woman as well, and while I'm younger, I would be just as afraid as her.
@SKLC_PT (1234)
19 Feb 07
I'd get my cellphone in my hand and get it ready for an emergency call and head towards the elderly lady and sit next to or near her, maybe alert the driver is possible, I'd ask the people to leave her alone maybe say that it's my neighbor or something if I needed to I'd hit the call button to the emergency number. Hopefully I'd have the courage to do this and nothing would go wrong. I'd try to be discrete about my phone.
• United States
19 Feb 07
Smart and thinking it out is always good...good ideas. Thank you for responding.
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• India
20 Feb 07
wow tats nice situaton to imagine,not been in such situaton but i wud surely ask them to push off or at the least i wud call officials.....
@jimotman (633)
• Indonesia
20 Feb 07
I really would hope someone brave to intervene, but if there are no one else in the car, I'll try to help the woman, and ask the driver to stop the car and also help the woman, or scream to people on the street to help.
@sharon613 (2321)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I would first try and find the conductor and tell him what is going on and see if he can intervine. If not I would have to.
• United States
20 Feb 07
that is a good question..i would get the attention of the driver and let him know what was happening..but now a days u have to be careful because u never know the intentions of others.. u hear it all the time about a good samiterian who was either hurt or killed by intervening..
• India
20 Feb 07
i will certainly intervane and try to attract attention of other passengers
• United States
20 Feb 07
Knowing my own personality, I wouldn't back down or sit idly by while someone picks on another weaker person. I would intervene and probably get my butt kicked, but I'd go down swinging. I'd also attract as much attention as possible so that others would be compelled to assist or at the very least take notice. But that's me. I won't leave for someone else what I won't do myself.
• Brazil
20 Feb 07
First of all we need to be careful since we don't know who or what the young mans are pretending so first i'd tell to the driver or another official if there was 1 in the vehicle, If there was no other options i may interview and if the young mans don't like what can i do, If they jump in me i would need to answer violently too so it would be bad, so first i'd try respectably ask to they stop.. If no first option would happen xD.