It amazes me that people are ignorant enough to be prejudiced and bigoted.

@kbkbooks (7030)
Canada
February 19, 2007 6:28pm CST
My husband is amazingly bigoted. He actually thinks Archie Bunker is cool. In the region where I live there is a lot of unrest between French speakers and English speakers. They actually call each other stupid and other interesting names. I am ashamed to say that my husband, my mother in law, and other people I know are actually part of these groups. I grew up in the Boston area right around the same time that school segregation and bussing was a big deal. My dad marched in Boston with Martin Luther King. I went to Africa as an exchange student where as a white girl I was actually part of the minority. The thing is, in Kenya, I found that I was well accepted and everyone treated everyone as real equals in that society. What is the matter with people? What is the matter with North America? A human being is a human being. We all have the same color blood and bodily waste. We all have the same potential, but some are not raised with the same levels of opportunity.
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@TeaCup (230)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I'm pretty much speechless. I can't believe that some of your family is like that, and you are not-which I am glad to hear. I agree, people are people and color means nothing. Bigots exsist all over the world, but I guess it's more dominant in America. It's sad people like that exsist in the world, all we can do is promote equality by being a good example and hope it spreads like a virus.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
21 Feb 07
I think the reason North America is more prone to bigotry is because it is such a melting pot for cultures all over the world.
@haissam (93)
• Pakistan
20 Feb 07
It happens due to some suffrings , complex, thougt s we shou;d try behave like human first of all we will have to be come good human after that we b able to b come good nationals of any country and even good follower of any religon. What other r wearin eating how they r living wht r thair moral values we must respact each other rather than saying am doing right u r doing wrong. I suggest we should not raise finger to any one and i hope other will not raise thair fingers to me
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
21 Feb 07
I agree respect is the key.
• United States
20 Feb 07
My mother's boyfriend is the same way, he is a major bigot. He will use the "N" word in front of all of my friends who happen to be Latino, Asian, and Black. My friends know that I am not that way, but they tell me they cannot stand to be around him. Thanks to him, my friends will not come and see me at all anymore.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
21 Feb 07
Where I am living, people use the N word all the time and don't consider it a sign of prejudice. I don't agree.
• United States
20 Feb 07
You should be proud of your Dad for marching with Martin Luther King. He was setting a great example. Prejudice and bigotry are caused by ignorance and fear of the unknown. Bigots are displaying their ignorance, and it's a good thing there are people like you to educate them. Keep up the good work!
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
21 Feb 07
Thanks perry. You make me proud of my dad, even though I already was. But he did raise a pretty smart kid, didn't he?
@avs189 (1031)
• India
20 Feb 07
I would just comment that all five fingers of your hand arent the same....its like the difference between rich and poor which cannot be eliminated ever...once u try to draw a thin line between the two u would defenitely get to know whats the best for your carrier...
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
21 Feb 07
That is the best analogy. thanks.
• Switzerland
20 Feb 07
It is true. There are lots of people around the world who would behave like that. But, it is not their mistake. It is just due to the environment they are brought up in, and the perceptions, which result in this type of behavior. Please try to talk to them and convince them about the equality of all races. As you said, all of us are the same.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
I think the only thing that really changes minds is experience.
@cjkicks (156)
• United States
20 Feb 07
My Father taught me about people and how to treat them. For his day I think he was the most accepting man I have ever known. One thing he told me years ago has stuck with me my whole life. We were talking about WWII and I asked him about his friends, he told me the whole company were his friends. He brought out a picture of his company at the time and there were quite a few different ethnic groups that were part of his company. I asked him if they were his friends too. He looked at me and said "of course they were. They are the same people that I fought with shoulder to shoulder. They bled if they got shot and they cried when someone was killed. But most of all they were people that could be counted on to save your life. If you are in a trench and the guy next to you isn't someone you can trust you are probably going to die and it doesn't matter where they are from or what color they are.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
Hugs for you cj and purple ribbons for your Dad!!
@billNted (39)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I live in Georgia, so I get to see the same redneck stuff all of the time. Dixie flags flown high down in the south... Anyways, I am like you. My mother raised me to treat all individuals the same and it hurts me to see so many people not accepted due to the color of their skin. The world could be a great place, "if we could just give peace a chance." Unfortunately their are certain cancers in our society that press towards war and hatred and have been since the beginning of man. Kind of makes me wonder why we are all here, if all we are going to do is hate/kill and prosper.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
Display of prejudice is a terrible thing. I am glad you have your head on straight.
@Joey322 (272)
• United States
20 Feb 07
isn't it amazing how people can divide themselves and BELIEVE they are better than someone else just b/c of color, class or creed?? my husband and i had a fast courtship and were married only 4 months after we met. we have so much love for each other, but we are still learning things about each other and i just found out a few weeks ago, that he, well, he doesn't hate gay people, but he feels that it's wrong and doesn't agree with that lifestyle. i, on the other hand, have gay friends and i embrace any lifestyle in which someone finds happiness. i COMPLETELY understand where you're coming from....it's a tough thing to deal with. i must admit, that instead of trying to change the world, though, i just try to affect the people around me. if freinds are discussing soemthing i don't agree with, i speak up. maybe, just maybe, if we affect enough people, the world will change. OR we can throw our hands up in the air and admit that it's the human condition to seperate ourselves and identify a group of people as "it" in the big game of "tag". i think this is why Marx's theory of communism never survived in reality, b/c people will always want to be better, not the same, as their neighbors. for example...we just bought a new mini-van. it's about 2 months later and our neighbors, who can't really afford it, just bought a new truck. i don't get it???take care.
@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
Keeping up with the Joneses.
@XxAngelxX (2835)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
YAY! Well said! It sounds as though you've lead a very interesting life. It drives me nuts when I hear people making prejudiced comments based on race or nationality. No one hates someone because they have brown hair, so I just don't understand why so many people hate others from different cultures. The color of your skin or where you come from is not something we can change, it's just who we are and as a whole people do need to learn to stop being so judgemental.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
Hahaha. No one hates someone because they have brown hair, you say...But there ARE blonde jokes galore and they get ridiculed and belittled. Isn't that the same thing? I don't like blonde jokes and cultural or racist jokes. I usually change the wording to say idiot or something like that so I am not picking on anyone in particular. It's true though, no one ever assumed I was dumb because I have brown hair.
@naty1941 (2336)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I am from Puerto Rico and married a White American Navy man when I was 19. I was shocked when we moved to Florida and my mother-in-law did not accept me. She was snobbish and always saying remarks (put downs) related to my culture. I was not raised thinking one race is better than another race. Also, when I moved to Florida we had black and white restrooms and I would shock everyone by going into the black restrooms. My skin color is light olive, with green eyes and to all appearances I look American. Black women would tell me that I belonged in the white bathrooms. I didn't pay any attention because being a Puerto Rican I was not considered white in USA at that time.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
This is interesting. My mom is Japanese and my parents were married in 1959. They were both raised to hate each other's race during WWII. Then they were raising my sister and I in Northeast US where racism was at its peak. Some times people would ask my Dad, a minister, how did he feel about mixed marriage. He would just about laugh in their faces and tell them he was in one. Since people were then concentrating on skin colour more than general appearance (as for an oriental), they didn't consider my mom of a different race until it was pointed out to them. To me, this also shows that society changes it's standards based on the present time.
@hotsauz8 (97)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I will be 100% honest when I say stereotypes exist because they hold true 90% of the time. That's why they're called stereotypes. Unfortunately, many have a negative connotation, and much of the time people hold true to the said stereotypes. It's how the world is.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
Many times people grow up into stereotypes acting a certain way because the stereotypes tell them that they are expected to act that way!!
@LittleMel (14059)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
I know what you mean. I live in Ontario and have several friends from Quebec who moved out of there because they don't feel comfortable. The things is they have to speak English in Ontario or else it's hard to get a job here. With your family background, I understand how big an issue racism is for you. You're right this happens mostly in Quebec, that's bad since I really love to go to Montreal. Some people could go very extreme to different language and skin. There is no way we can pick where we were born and to whom, it's ridiculous especially now in the era of advanced technology that such people still exist.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
I am blessed to have a wonderful strong background and also to be now bilingual in Quebec. I enjoy speaking French and I also find that when I speak French many people who are trying to learn English will admire my skill. The thing is, I admire them as well for their skill in my language and their efforts. You can't just assume that people don't want to learn. Everyone needs a chance.
• Canada
20 Feb 07
So you think your husband's bigoted because he thinks Archie bunker is cool? That'd be prejudiced right there. In North America, the minority has made a name for themselves both through segregation and through crime, which is most likely why they get this bad reaction.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
I don't think that because he thinks Archie Bunker is cool. I was just using that as a comment to introduce the subject. However, it does show his basic thoughts, don't you think? It maybe be true that certain people have made themselves a reputation through their behavior, but then their behavior is fueled by anger brought on by bigotry, and it's a vicious circle.
@7nicole1 (1634)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
I agree with you and its very sad that some people stillbelieve in thing like you have mentioned. Your right we are all human beings and should be treated as equals but that will never happen because alot of people believe they are always better then others. Im glad to hear though that you havnet taken after your father with his beliefs. It sounds like you got a good head on your shoulders and should go far in life with the attitude you have developed. good luck.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
Thanks so much. At my age I am more concerned about my kids going through life with these good sort of attitudes. Wouldn't the world be a nicer place if everyone was that way?
• Canada
20 Feb 07
Unfortunately, it's not just North America. This thing happens in many other countries too. We just don't always hear about it. My mother is racist. She automatically associates black people with "trouble." I once dated a guy from Hong Kong at School, took him home to meet my family one night and mom wouldn't even let him in the door. We were 14 years old! We do all have the same potential, and of course we don't all have the same levels of opportunity, but some people think that having different colour skin means you're lower on the totem pole. It's a pretty sad situation for this day and age, but I don't think it's going to end any time soon. Some people are just too afraid of change.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
How very sad. I dated boys of other faiths, and my Dad was a minister! I know I was really blessed to be raised in such a liberal and open state of mind. There is nothing that shows ignorance in this world more than prejudice. Would you believe there is a actually a store in my town that won't hire you if you speak your French with an English accent. Talk about ignorant.
• United States
20 Feb 07
I never realized the extent of prejudice until I came to the States but I raised my daughter never to be a bigot and judge anyone for race, religion or nationality. As fate would have it she married a man who was raised to hate blacks and over the years due to her influence he became less and less prejudiced. Much to his father's disgust now my daughter and my-son-in-law have two biracial grandchildren. Papa as he is called adores both of these children who I have to admit are the most beautiful children I have ever seen. Sadly my-son-on law's father has never seen these two beautiful children and my daughter is still not welcome in his home for, as he says, corrupting his son.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
That is a bittersweet story. I don't see my influence changing my husband. His own children and his ex wife are not prejudiced but his parents are. It's almost as if it's genetic. How scary is that?
@KrisNY (7609)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I blame alot of the predudice and racism on your upbringing.. I know alot of people who are racist or bigots- I am not one!! I met there parents and they are just as bad... I am teaching my daughter to be nice to everyone-- Noone is better than anyone else.. Color of your skin is just that color--- We all bleed red-- we're all humans with feelings! It drives me crazy! I'm amazed that you married a man that way from the way you were brought up.. It's just different to me-- But they say you can't help who you fall in love with- I hope if you had children that you taught them well.. Not your hubby... If he is bigoted... Good luck to you- and great discussion!
@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
My children are from my first marriage and I have brought them up bilingual and tolerant. My hubby's parents brought him up the way he is now and I see it in his mother too. Sometimes it's just a way of not wanting to understand and I have tried to change that...but it just can't be done. I love him for the rest of his heart. I am sure there are parts of me he doesn't like too. That's just part of life.
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• United States
20 Feb 07
I personally don't believe that any ONE race, relgion or lifestyle is THE one, nor is any one more important or better than another. BUT I do believe that there are DEFINITE differences amongst races, religions, etc. and instead of everyone being worried about being PC (politically correct) they need to embrace these differences! Being white doesn't make me any MORE of a person any more then it makes me any LESS of one. I am a person, as we all are and what is in my HEART and SOUL is what counts. Unfortunately some people cannot tolerate differences and think that they are the only right ones. I was born and raised in a very prejudiced lifestyle, oddly enough the same people who raised me that way now have "found God" and aren't nearly as racist as they once were. But my problem is that I find issue with those that use race as an EXCUSE, whether it is FOR or AGAINST the person involved. There are poor whites, just as poor blacks, there are ignorant whites, just as ignorant orientals, etc. We are all so very different and our race, ethnicity and roots are all something to be celebrated as different! Ok, soap box down and put away now! LOL I do understand your frustration though, as I have a sister that thinks nothing of screaming out the N word at any point in time or place. Or calling her kids f'g Jews, don't even ask me what the heck that is supposed to mean, when they're doing something she doesn't like. I feel so bad for her boys too as they're being raised to think it's normal to talk like her.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
You're so cool girlfriend. Keep your soapbox handy. You're good at it.
@smacksman (6076)
20 Feb 07
I'm due to visit Canada for the first time this year and stay with relations and friends. I don't speak french so thanks for the warning. I read in the papers that the two groups of Canadians get violent. Is it a safe country to visit?
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
There's really not so much like violence outright because of the language differences. It is alot of fear and lack of knowledge. The thing is people expect to be treated badly for not speaking french but it often happens that french people feel scared of the english too. You will find that if you speak out, you will often find someone who will understand you or try to find someone to help you. Also remember this is more in Quebec than any of the other provinces.