How do I get my 3 year old son to stop throwing tantrums

United States
February 21, 2007 11:32am CST
My son is 3 and will throw himself on the ground if hey doesnt get his way.NO is his favorite word right now. I want to avoid spanking him but i've tried everything please help!
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• United States
22 Feb 07
No girl I hate to say this but I really think that throwing trantrums is just something all little kids do. But that doesn't mean you can't do anything to help them through it.It's a hard time for them too.They are still just learning their way, their roll and how far can they get away with stuff.They will grow out of it with help maybe a little faster.In your way of dicsipline try being repetitive in his punishments on a daily basis. Routine discipline that lets him know ok if I do x them this is what's going to happen to me. You'll get it all moms go through this stuff. At least you took the time to actually asks for other people's opinion for other people's ideas and thoughts. Good sign of a truely caring parent who looks for answers.
• United States
22 Feb 07
i agree
• United States
22 Feb 07
First of all, try to remember that temper tantrums are a completely normal part of a childs development. I know they are difficult, I've been there! Tantrums are a childs way of venting anger or frustration. They are not able to communicate as well as adults can. They may feel a whole range of emotions, but only know that it FEELS good to let it out my crying, screaming or tossing themselves onto the floor. Honestly, the very BEST thing you can do is totally ignore it. You may think that trying to avoid it by tiptoeing around their life will remedy the situation, but it will eventually backfire. When he throws a fit, walk out of the room. Keep yourself busy with other things. If he tries talking about it amidst the tears, just tell him "No, I am not listening until you can stop crying." The more attention you give him, the more it feeds into the issue. Spanking CAN take care of things, or it may not. Not all children learn from spankings. Some will repeat the same action they were punished for just minutes after being let out of time out after a spanking. You really have to carefully tailor discipline to your own child.
@Seawaves (106)
• United States
21 Feb 07
ignore her and put her in a time out for using such a way and after that talk to him that there is other way to explain what he wants other than that and if he disagree with you and continue using the same way try to take from him something that he really likes ex:a favorite toy or whatever you him likes it a lot and don't argue a lot with him. good luck in that
@crowfan (67)
• United States
21 Feb 07
try to ignore the tantrums and dont give in if you do give in they know got you and they scream to get whatever it takes
@cherhost (1073)
• United States
21 Feb 07
Well when you figure the secret out let me know. I am dealing with that too. But here is what I do. I just ignore her. She does not get away with anything. If I take something away from her and she does that I just walk away with the object. Soon she will come to me and hug me. But every kid is different. Good luck
• Canada
21 Feb 07
My mother is a professional when it comes to childcare. She raised my sister and I, and ran a nursery school for 15 years. Mom has always said that children only do that to get attention. When you give them attention, they keep doing it. They don't care whether it's negative attention or positive attention, they just want attention. Mom's suggestion (and I back this up because it makes sense) is to IGNORE HIM! Or better yet, encourage him!!! -My, what strong lungs you have! -What powerful fists you have to pound the floor like that. Earthquake! ...stuff like that. The object? DON'T TAKE THE BAIT!!! Let him think you're ENJOYING his tantrum, and eventually he'll get the message. If parents think you're crazy, tell them what I told you. REVERSED PSYCHOLOGY!
• United States
21 Feb 07
im not sure what you have tried so far, but he needs to know that if he throws these tantrums there will be an unpleasant consequence! my son ends himself up in time out for throwing tantrums. sometimes i even take his toys away (especially if he is throwing them).. i stay stern with him and tell him that such behaviour is not acceptable and that he needs to knock it off, because it wont be tolerated! be sure to stay persistant, dont let it slide at all! soon he should learn that his poor behaviour isnt helping his cause one bit and should then stop throwing tantrums. best of luck to you!
• Canada
21 Feb 07
Have you tried ignoring him when he has the temper tantrum , some people say this is the best way to handle it . My three year old has started throwing tantrums also but what she does is stands there and just screams . We always tell her to go to her room and when she is ready to talk to us calmly she can come out . She usually goes to her room and destroys it by ripping apart her bed (she even takes the mattress off ) and just making a big mess . Not sure that this is a better way though , as I end up with a big mess to clean after . I think what I am going to do is start making her clean the mess she makes in there when she is mad . Wish I could be of more help , best of luck !!
• United States
21 Feb 07
I don't think there's any way to really stop them. My daughter is 3 as well, and throws MAJOR tantrums when she doesn't get her way. We've since taken EVERY toy she owns away, she also looses tv time and computer time when she doesn't listen and starts throwing tantrums. We've implemented a chore chart as well. Behavior is one of the things on the chart as well. For each star she gets to bring one toy back upstairs from out of the basement. For each black mark (chore not done, bad behaviour) she gets a toy or a privilage taken away. So far its working.