Divorce... One ever half hour

@Marie2473 (8523)
Sweden
February 21, 2007 12:01pm CST
I read an interesting article in a swedish magazine : http://www.aftonbladet.se/vss/karleksex/story/0,2789,1002112,00.html that one couple get divorced here every half hour adn that it occurs mostly in the "big" citys. This sounds horrible, one every half hour, that means more or less 50 a day!!! Why so people get divorced? I belive that it is because people decide to get married to soon and that it is so easy to get married. I have heard so many times: - Well if it doesn´t work out, we can always get divorced... What an attitude :-) I would hope that when and if I get married it will be for life =) What´s your opinion about this?
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@kpbhuvana (392)
• India
22 Feb 07
i too feel that marriage is for life. The bond of marriage is understanding and living united. I think the cause of divorce is "People before marriage would see only the good things between then and after marriage they tend to see the real character of each people.As every individual has their own plus and minus , they have to start living by adjusting things when it goes wrong.
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@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
24 Feb 07
Thanx alot for your comment!
• Portugal
22 Feb 07
I have a girlfriend that I love very much and in about a year we will marry. It's not about just marrying, it's about the love and the commitment we are sharing. Today most people just look for some fun, and not about long time commitment.
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@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
24 Feb 07
i do wish you all the best and that u will have a long happy life together =)
@vangie79 (198)
• Philippines
22 Feb 07
Marriage is sacred. Here in our country (Philippines) marriage is not like an instant noodle than can easily cook and eat. I mean, don't enter into a marriage which you are not yet ready nor prepared. We don't have "DIVORCE" here but we have an "ANNULMENT". Annulment is not as easy to get a divorce. Filipino's are very family orriented, we fixed all problems as much as possible to stay together. If i will enter into a marriage i hope that we'll stay forever...
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@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
24 Feb 07
I do belive that the choise of divorce should be there, i just wish that people wouldn´t take it so lightly!
@shilpaum (1753)
• India
22 Feb 07
Yeah, many times people be in marriage without taking their own time to think over that. Without getting ready for that. Its not easy to keep this commitment for the whole life. But, we should know, we will not get all the things we want in one partner. Infact we too don't have all the things what our partner wants. Many times divorce is not due to the relationshiop of couple, but because of family background. Its easy to marry but difficult to meet the demands of members of family, of which we r part...just because of marriage.
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@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
24 Feb 07
thanx alot for your comment!
@Jazzy168 (11)
• Indonesia
22 Feb 07
Before you set mind on divorced, possible you have to again remember one matter, that is: why you set mind on married. Then contemplate again, from two mentioned, sure there is one wrong, married or divorce. If according to you married was wrong decision, immediately improve, repair the mentioned. But if according to you divorce is wrong decision, immediately cancel intention divorce of you.
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@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
23 Feb 07
Thanx for your comment!
@hestee (250)
• Nigeria
24 Feb 07
Where i come from marriage takes place between both families and the ties are stronger.You are encouraged to try and resolve your differences and both families do help with advise and counselling with real life examples of similar situations given and the offending party called to order. It helps a lot when you know that help is just a stone throw away.Divorce (no matter who is at fault) is seen as a failure on the part of both parties.
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@Augustta (1860)
• Poland
18 Apr 07
Being the one which i am divorced from almost 2 years i have to admit that the age can be a reason. When you are young and fall in love you think is forever and all partener faults will be changed someday...the big mistake which someone can make ever! Open your eyes !!!How it is now with faults and qualitys so will be in time..just add some faults at those from begining... nothing to complain,i had a good marriage as long as was there some love feeling...
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@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
21 Apr 07
Good that u had a good marriage for as long as it lasted...
@cherriemae (3375)
• Philippines
28 Mar 07
Why they decide of getting marry then in that instant they end on divorced? I cant believe those people. I cant imagine myself marrying a person i love and in that instant that we dont want this marriage anymore, then we divorce.I live in the country that marriage is not a play, and we have the patients to let the marriage will work whenever we have trials. And in our country divorced is not yet legal..
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@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
29 Mar 07
I do belive that it should be legal for sure, that the choise should be available, however not to be used so lightly!
@edigital (2711)
• United States
24 Feb 07
It is a fearful city of divorce. I think there marriage is considered as playing of a game with spouse. They get marriage easy way and kick it out easy way and have no love in heart just play marriage marriage game. If there is kids they are also learning this game and will do it in their life. It is very rude to child.
@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
24 Feb 07
Thanx alot for your comment.
@shywolf (4529)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I think that it's really sad, the rate of divorce nowadays. I think that people should not rush into marriage. It's not really looked down upon by most for the couple to live together first, in this day and age, and I think that it's a good idea. You may think that you're hopelessly in love, but if you haven't tried cohabiting then you really don't know if you're capable of living together without driving each other crazy, lol! I also wish that more couples would get marriage counselling before they decide to take as drastic of an action as getting divorced. If people were slower to marry and tried harder to patch things up before just giving up, I feel that the divorce rate would be much better.
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@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
24 Feb 07
I agree that people do rush into it and they also rush out of it too easy. I now live with my bf and have for almost a year - still no plans of marriage. I am sure i will marry him one day, i just wanna be 100% sure =)
@carol79 (201)
• Philippines
22 Feb 07
It is just plain sad and disgusting. I mean some people in the States most of all changes their spouse like they change their dress. Its true they abuse their capability just to divorce just like that and become irresponsible with themselves. Its like everyone's trying to play around. All marriages have their up's and down's, its how you handle it both as a couple. If both would have egos as high as Mt. Everest then ofcourse nothing would be solved. Gone were the traditional days of long term relations.
@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
23 Feb 07
I agree, people take it tooo easy these days. I do not understand why marry if u will give uop as soon as you hit a rock.
@Krisss (1231)
• Australia
22 Feb 07
Divorce happens because people are human, we change, we grow, we are different to each other and no one ever really knows the complexitys of another persons heart. I married for life, unfortunately my exhusband only kept that commitment for 22 years and decided he had changed and wanted something different in his life. It is not an easy option and I wouldn't criticise anyone for making it because we have not walked in their shoes.
@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
23 Feb 07
I am definately not saying that divorce is wrong. my parents are divorced although they have found their way back.. but the figures are a bit scary - that so many marriages don´t work out, and i do belive that people might be giving up to easy these days!
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
22 Feb 07
Yes you will find in any big country that people get divorced more quickly in the suburban cities than in rural areas, It does sound horrible the amount of divorces there though one every half an hour. Yes this is the attitude that if the marriage does not work out that they can get a divorce quickly,. Of course we all would love to have a marriage that would last a lifetime.
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@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
23 Feb 07
the thing is that sweden is not a very big country. we only have about 9 million people here =)
@lauriefnp (5113)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I was just talking about this issue in another discussion about gay marriage. Why shouldn't gays be allowed to be legally married? At least they are fighting for the right and really appreciate what it means. Too many people today do think of marriage as a "disposable" union. When things get rough, it is far too easy to bail out. People make the decision to get married quickly oftentimes, with this thought in mind. I'm with you. If I ever do decide to marry, it will be forever.
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@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
23 Feb 07
I will also marry forever and I will also belive in my marriage - beeing sure that he ´s the one ...
@Rexy_leigh (1189)
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
Wow! this sounds pitiable. I know that divorce is legal in the US and some other countries outside Philippines but I can't imagine around 50 couples getting divorced in a day. It seems that they're changing their spouses as often as they change their clothes. Well, they might have their own reasons why they need to go to court and have their marriage dissolved. However, I just wish those couples doing this are giving this thing some second thoughts as matters like like this are pretty significant in our lives. Like you, I also hope that if am gonna get married that would be for real and for a lifetime. :)
@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
23 Feb 07
Thanx for your comment - it does sound alot - 50 a day!!!
@sweetlady10 (3620)
• United States
21 Feb 07
bride and groom - bride and groom tie the not
This is pathetic. Why people are becoming so careless about the things related with life day by day. Some people just don't give importance to anything in life. For some people marriage is like any other day today task of life. They think just experience it, if I don't like it I always can go for a divorce. So, they never take their marriage seriously. I am married and it is one time for me. I can't think of leaving my hubby. I believe some people are still there for whom marriage is a life long phenomenon.
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@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
21 Feb 07
I agree with you, when I get married it will be for life, or atleast that´s the attitude i will have enering the marriage!!!