How do you say good-bye:(

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Canada
February 21, 2007 11:18pm CST
Saturday I lost my Mother, I never had a chance to say good-bye to tell her how much I really admired her. She died suddenly, without warning and I am at a loss. How do you cope in situation like this? Does the feelings ever go away? How do you morn a loved one?
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@Island_Geko (3760)
• Canada
22 Feb 07
I lost my mother 22 years ago and I miss her every day, but i know she is watching out for me and she is around me guiding me. I never really got to say good-bye to her aswell for I was only a child and my relatives tried to protect me. I have very few images left in my memory of her but I have have moments I remeber and hold onto. I also have photos and she comes to me in my dreams. It will be hard but as everyone is saying you have friends and we are here to help.
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@ajinomoto23 (1057)
• Philippines
22 Feb 07
Do not worry her soul will always visit you. She comes in spirit form. You have to sharpen your psychic consciousness to be able to feel her presence. I lost my grandmother, but there are days I know she is with me. Make your to overcome your grief. Sorrow will dry our bones.
• Canada
22 Feb 07
Thanks, it is hard since she went suddenly. I have been meaning to visit her but have put if off for other trips and to get my divorce settle. I think guilt is one thing that I will have to learn to over come for even I was there I could not have seen this happen.
• Canada
22 Feb 07
Thanks, it is hard since she went suddenly. I have been meaning to visit her but have put if off for other trips and to get my divorce settle. I think guilt is one thing that I will have to learn to over come for even I was there I could not have seen this happen.
@xelissa (777)
• New Zealand
22 Feb 07
She's your mother and she has known, cared, nurtured and supported you from day one. It's not easy and I am hugely sorry for loss. It takes time, whether its 2 years or 20 years, your love for her is huge I can see and your grief in loosing your mother will take a huge amount of time to get over. Ask for help, do not cope with this on your own, friends will always be there on the sidelines cheering you on, you can get through this!
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• Canada
22 Feb 07
thanks for the support. It is muchly appreciated and it will be a while before it hit full.
@lonewolfnan (4367)
• Canada
22 Feb 07
I am so sorry to hear of your loss and added on to everything else you have recently been going thru,my heart and prayers are with you. Losing someone as important in your life as your mother is very hard and not something you can get over right away.Please allow yourself time to mourn the loss in whatever way you feel necessary.This process takes a different amount of time for each person.The pain with it does not really go away as much as you find new ways of coping with it.The hole left in your heart is slowly replaced with memories that every once in awhile will come back and make you misty again. Again,my condolences to you and hope with time and understanding you will be able to move on with the acceptence and then life. Take care please.
• Canada
22 Feb 07
Thanks again Lone, it has been a long road. I am in the middle of moving and I am selling off 80% of my belongings so I can make my divorce easier, aswell as my move. I have a place that will be able to help me with my disablility and my daily mental struggles but I just need a break from all the nasty curve balls and unplanned negativity.
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
22 Feb 07
I think the best thing to do for now is pray, pray to thank what your mom has done for you and for giving you a chance to live your life. I hope that your mind would be more at peace, and accept her untimely departing. It would really be a hard process for you, but I do pray that you recover from it fast enough to move on with your life!;)
• Canada
22 Feb 07
First off, I am sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you're going through, except to say anytime you need a shoulder,.. remember you do have friends! I'm always certain she always knew how much you really appreciated her in everyway and everything she has done for you. I still call, and tell my mother everyday how much of a positive role model she has been to me. I think the best way to cope with a loss is too not look at it as a loss, but more of a gain! What I mean is that she left the power of her spirit behind. A spirit that maybe only you have witnessed, and you should embrace this energy that she has given you. Embrace, combine her spirit with yours, and maybe influence, or inspire someone to do something positive. I don't think the feelings go away,.. they'll always stay with you, because she IS, and will always be apart of who you are!