i'm so very frustrated right now, about ttc
By serialmommy
@serialmommy (639)
United States
February 22, 2007 12:50pm CST
OK, I have a lot of online friends through a couple of different message boards that I belong to. And it seems like so many of them are becoming pregnant. This is great news for them, and I'm happy for them, I really really am, however my husband and I have been ttc (trying to conceive) for 6 months now and NOTHING. I'm very frustrated, because I'm reading that most of these women weren't even trying, it was an accident, something that wasn't planned. And I'll admit it, I'm jealous. I want to be pregnant so badly, however, it's just not happening. This is the longest I've ever tried to become pregnant. And it seems like it's been forever. Yes, I understand some couples try for years and nothing happens. However, I have been told that I'm a fertile person (I have 5 kids already) and to be trying this long makes me begin to think that something seriously bad is going on with me. And it hurts. My husband and I would like one more child, a little girl would be great, and if we were to have a little boy, I think we might even try for another. However, it's just not happening. I'm so sad and upset and frustrated and jealous. When you are trying for pregnancy, or even really anything, do you feel that way when others that you care about get what it was that you were trying for? How do you deal with it? Me, I'm just going to keep it in and vent to our family therapist.
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@ryleesmama (560)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I am sorry to hear this. I am not ttc but I thought I would ask you if you have tried Natural Family Planning? It is used for both trying to not get pregnant and also trying to get pregnant. It usually works to help a couple get pregnant. A good website to get involved with this is www.ccli.org then go and search foe a teacher near you. Good luck.
@serialmommy (639)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I've tried that. The temping and all of that. It just makes it worse. I don't sleep soundly, so my temp is never a steady pattern, and tracking that closely seems to make my cycles so unpredictable! I'm just tired and worn out right now. There are so many things up in the air around here, and I just wish some of them would just get settled already, and being pg is one of them.
@sj_chaudhry (1537)
• Canada
22 Feb 07
my brother's wif eis facing sam eproblem as you... but believe me when you stop tinking about it then it will ease your nerves and this si afact that when you're not planning or thinking about aythng then that thing happen to you naturally...
if you worried about your ehalth then visit your doctor. take prenatals as sometimes deficiency of anything is also hinderence in concieving... also take balance diet and stay away from any bad thought and worries... stay happy and enjoy your best time among family....you will see miracal changes and will come up with great news soon....
wish you good luck...
@serialmommy (639)
• United States
23 Feb 07
It's rather hard to NOT think of it. I've had that advice before. Also, I can't visit the doc. I don't have insurance. While I'm pregnant I'd be covered by the state health plan for kids, but not while I'm not. My husband has insurance through work, however for an entire family it costs $117 a week and we just can't afford that. And avoiding stress around here like avoiding red lights, it just doesn't happen. I have a rather high needs child (he's 8, and a terror) and to say that he is a pleasent child is like calling the sky green, it just isn't true in the least little bit.
@mkmissey76 (498)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I truely understand what you are going through. In March of last year I had had my 3rd miscarriage and this one was ectopic. They had to remove my left tube which was the only one left. I have had a total of 31 surgeries since my only child was born 14 years ago(im 30) the last one ending in a total hysteroctomy. It hurts so bad know ing that I will never have children again. make me fell not jellious but inveious of them for it just happening to them..
so i know what your going through. Good luck and best of wishes to you and your family..
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@Lavender_Breeze (373)
• United States
8 Jun 08
I do understand how you feel. My husband and I have been trying for 15 months now. 4 women at work are pregnant. I joined a 'Trying to Conceive' group on a site when we first began, and every one of them got pregnant. Not me. In fact, all but one of them have already had their babies.
Take heart in the fact that it can take a normal healthy couple up to a year and beyond to conceive. About 80% are successful by 1 year.
As for how I deal with it, well, I just roll with the punches and my husband and I are each other's support system.
I hope you get your wish soon!
