Advice on situation

United States
February 22, 2007 3:31pm CST
On December 23 the girl I was seeing asked if I could help her do some christmas shopping for her family and she would pay me in a couple days. I always try to go above and beyond to help anyone I can so I did. Well I had $1,500 in my checking account, and we ended up writing around $3,000 in checks, but I thought no problem I'll be getting paid back before all these checks go through. Well here it got to Febuary 4th and still no money, find out she's been seeing this other guy that I thought was a friend and useing me to get to see him. She would say she wanted to hang out with him while I was at work or ask if we could stop by his work sometimes just to say hi. She doesnt have a car and he lost his license, so I was being used so she could go she him and be with him. So yeah I ended up having to break up with her.The bad part is a bunch of my friends warned me about her and told me not to go out with her but I didn't listen. I was advised not to talk to her anymore eithier even though sometimes when she calls my cell I still do, just because I feel like it'd be mean not to answer and I hate being mean or rude. I was pretty much blinded by love and now am stuck with bad checks and creditors and not enough funds to cover it all which could get me into some legal trouble soon. My job at Wal*Mart helps but cant handle it much longer with more and more being late and comeing due at one time. I've tried large debt loans, but my credit score is to messed up. Some people have said to sue her, but I dont like the idea of sueing anyone no matter what. This nation is to sue happy as it is. Any advice?
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@Giggles88 (542)
• United States
22 Feb 07
If I were you I would talk to her and try to calmly explain that she needs to pay you back otherwise you're going to have to take legal action. You shouldn't be having to suffer through all this because of her. So talk to her first and give her a couple weeks or so to pay you back if she doesn't then talk to an attorney.
• United States
22 Feb 07
I understand what you guys are saying, but I don't know if I have the heart enough to do that. I don't even really care to talk to her about it. She knows because she kept saying that she was going to pay it this day and that day but something always "miraculously" came up on her end. She kept doing this until I broke up with her. Now she just calls everday saying she just wanted to see how I was and that she misses me and loves me, yet shes still dateing the other guy. I asked my senior pastor to watch her and matt(the other guy)while in church and to tell me if he thinks something is going on after the service. He told me something is def going on between them. He said I need to get away from her and not answer my phone when she calls.
@eaforeman6 (8983)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I would speak with an attorney about it. I would also speak clearly to her about the situation that this has put you in. I think its a shame that someone would take advantage of help like this. I would also send a letter in writing , a bill and also make a copy to keep for yourself. I am sorry that this happened to you.I think you should have proof that she was aware she owed the money. I would send it by certified mail also where she has to sign for it. She will not be able to deny receiving it later.