February 22, 2007 7:18pm CST
I find a wisdom that says: “To be loved, first be lovable.” Here starts the trouble. What are the criteria to be rightly, justly, legitimately lovable?
23 Feb 07
I am sure most people would say be caring, be nice, smile etc. But my father had a way of putting such things into short sentences that stuck with you for life. On being lovable these were the lovely sentences he had preached me: 1. BE ASSERTIVE - beware there is a very thin line between being assertive and rude, be assertive not rude. 2. BE EMPHATATIC - think from the other person's shoes, people don't need your sympathy, they just need you to understand their perspective. 3. Do onto others what you would want others to do onto you. 4. DON'T DO onto others what you would NOT want others to do onto you.
23 Feb 07
To be lovable, you have to learn to love yourself first. LOve of self means taking good care of yourself. You feed yourself well, keep clean, get sufficient knowledge by having sufficient education, everything else akin to making yourself feel good and look good. If you have sufficient love for yourself this will exude a feeling of friendliness. One who is friendly, is a happy and contented person. Almost everybody will like you and love to have you for a friend. There maybe some around who will want to have you at a level above that.
23 Feb 07
The saying I know is "To be loved, you must first love yourself.", which, I suppose is a similar thing. If you feel you are giving your best to other people, in a loving way, not despising any for the way they are, or what they do or believe in, then you are a loveable person. Hence, people will love you back for what you are. I only wish more people in this world could find their inner selves and make themselves loveable, instead of having to fight to be the best and most powerful at everything. The world would be a far more peaceful place, believe me. Brightest Blessings.