To read or not to read?! or Thou shall not read.. at all?!

Philippines
February 23, 2007 3:33am CST
Just yesterday afternoon i've met a lovely couple on their late 30's. The woman is a gemologist, based from her hubby's choice of clothing, he's a well accomplished too i guess. On a middle of discussion about the furniture they are buying, the lady's P800i beeped, telling her she has a new text message. When her hubby is about to read the message, the lady said in a local dialect "ikaw ah pinapaki-ilaman mo text ko ah" ( telling her hubby that why are you going to read my text msg ). im just surprised knowing that they're married and all, why such a small thing like a text message matters. should'nt they be open to one another? to think they're married already? or there will be things in one's married life that will still or will always be un-invaded?
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@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
Ha!ha!ha! I can relate not that I have the same cellphone mine is P910i lol! Sometimes even couples needs a bit space of privacy to ensure you trust one another. But this cellphone issue had really made a great impact to every couple that's why my husband and I share the same cellphone o di ba? When he is onboard for 2 months they are not allowed to use cellphone that is why we have to own 1 cellphone and when he went home we shared the same mobile phone and we have no things to argue about for we both read all the messages that coming in. Husband and wife should really have a bit of privacy so that they can breath in but when someone really doesnt want to read his message he or she is keeping something that triggers the wife or husband to sneak on it and sometimes make a real argument that leads to a serious fight I really do agree with you couple should be open to each other and that harmony in the relationship arises.
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• Philippines
24 Feb 07
Sosyal ka bel!! nde kita mareach!! heheheh... i agree to the set up you guys have. aside from saving extra money instead of buying another phone for the sake of one's privacy rather share it diba..for me its not only the trust that matters. how can you be trust worthy when just a simple text message no matter how private it is, you can'nt even share it to your hubby.. its openness followed by trust.
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
pinay k pla...i think theres nothing wrong to that..if you love your partner you have to trust him/her as you trust yourself.your so chismosa in that lovely couple...ehehehe
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• Philippines
24 Feb 07
yesh i'm a pinaypay.. LOLX!! hiyeee.. so as maribel. im not being chismosa naman its just that they were just few "inches" away from me so i over heard what they were discussing..my point here is if you trust your parter enough no matter how private the message would be, still it wont matter if he/she gets to read it right? my mom and dad do that.. my dad is too lazy to erase his daily text messages to the point that he can no longer recieve an incoming text. my mom does all the deleting of the unwanted text messages... the vacuum cleaner she is.. LOL hope my mom wont get to read this.. hehehe
@ESKARENA1 (18304)
23 Feb 07
my husband and i have been married for 17 years and we have two children, we dont do text messages but we would never open each others post as we both feel each person should be entitled to a certain amount of privacy. I dont think there is anything wrong with this but i do think it depends a lot on how much you trust your partner blessed be
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• Philippines
24 Feb 07
i guess the real player here is amount of trust you have for one another. as long as you trust your partner, come what email nor text messages or what have you come along.. still at the end of the day, you still sleep in one bed.. one house.