A relationship problem,,, a wierd situation with my girlfriend?!?!

India
February 23, 2007 3:58pm CST
I have a friendship with one of my old classmates... we have been friends for more than 10 years now... she is a girl... recently i made her meet my girlfriend... and i had to leave my girlfriend with her for sometime as i had to rush out for some work/../... on returning,,, i saw my girlfriend a bit disturbed,,, on asking ... My GF said... "you should have been a BF with your that friend and not me, because my friend said that she understands me more than her{MY GF}... my friend also told some of the things to my girlfriend that never occured in our life... i wonder what is actually going on in her mind...is she jealous to see me happy with my girlfriend... or is she just playing some mind games... one thing that i can be sure about is that she had never behaved like that, atleast not untill that i am aware of... did any of you guys experience anything of this sort,,, any solutions to get outta this
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9 responses
• Switzerland
23 Feb 07
Maybe she does like you. Since you both know each other for a long time, she might have liked you and did not express it. Or, it might be the case that she is just jealous and wants to ruin your happiness. The best thing you can do is to talk to her and try to find out what does she want. Only after that you can arrive at a conclusion.
• India
23 Feb 07
Is that really possible!!! thats kinda wierd i believe,, can someone not express their feeling for 10 full years ... we had been very close and intimate ,,,, but never that way... i might think that she is jealous of my happiness... we have competed in most platforms... and i have been more succesfull then her... may be that is the reason...
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• Switzerland
24 Feb 07
Anything is possible my friend. I would suggest not to conclude anything as of now, and talk to her first and then decide.
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@MrsSgtB (289)
• United States
24 Feb 07
I would say the friend has feelings for you more than a friendship and seeing you with another girl probably makes her jealous inside. Maybe knowing you for so long she feels like she has the upper hand and trully knows who you are so she uses it against your now gf.
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• Canada
24 Feb 07
Definitely your friend is jealous. Without a shadow of a doubt there. There would be no other reason for her to go spouting lies about what has happened in your lives to your girlfriend and I would be very angry about that if I were in your shoes. I think you need to sit with your friend and have a chat with her about why she said those things to your girlfriend. You need to let her know that you are upset with her and that although you value her friendship, you won't tolerate that kind of behavior from her. Hopefully if you nip it in the bud now, it won't happen again. If you don't say anything however, your friend might think that she can keep getting away with telling lies and will continue to do so, and eventually it'll destroy your relationship not only with her, but with your girlfriend too. I hope you get this sorted quickly.
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• Turkey
24 Feb 07
ur friend is absolutely jealous dude.these kinda girls are around,they neither want to date with u nor want you to be with another girl,they are nothing but trouble
@em1040 (160)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
i think ur friend likes you and shes jealous of your girlfriend. i know its hard for you to know the real score. what if your friend really likes you and how will you react if she told you that? maybe she just think of your gf as a competition for your affection/attention. has she been acting like that before when u introduced your other gf?
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• India
24 Feb 07
as i said, i have never seen her doing anything of that sort!!! never even imagined her acting like that!! if that would've been the case... i would have never left my gf with my friend at the first place
@x1x2x3 (152)
• India
23 Feb 07
Definitely your friend has said something wrong to ur GF. It may be possible that ur friend likes u and she cannot see u with another girl. Girls have this tendency. They are bit more possessive. The best way to come out of this is talk to ur GF. talk to her as much as u can. Win back her confidence.
• India
23 Feb 07
Are you serious? i mean we were friends for 10 full years now... i have shared about my feelings about different girls for all this years ... she was one of my best buds... is that really possible!!!... i think thats kinda almost impossible to believe,,,
• United States
24 Feb 07
It certainly sounds like your friend might prefer to take the friendship to another level and saying things to your girlfriend may be her way of trying to come between the 2 of you so she can have you. Another thing, seeing you with another girl to which you are commited may have stirred up some feelings in her that even she didn't realize she had. What i have a problem with is, I feel she should respect your girlfriend and not start saying things to her that hurt her. Even if those things were true, they would be in your past, you have chosen to be with someone else and it is wrong for her to try and step between the two of you. Do you and your present girlfriend have a strong and loving relationship? Can you see your future to be a good one without her? Would you be willing to give either up, the relationship with your girlfriend and your friendship with your friend? If you love your girlfriend and want the relationship to last, I think i would be telling the friend that while you treasure the friendship you have had for all of these years and do not want to lose it, you also don't want to lose the woman you love and there has to be a compromise.
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• India
25 Feb 07
Yes, I think this is quite a general problems with girls... I don't have any GF yet, but yes such things happened to me also. Like I have few female friends and some of them knows each other. So, many a times I found a situation where one of my female friend talk with others and tried to make her jealous about her relationship with me. I am very much open in my relationship with anyone at all. I am quite a honest guy and ignore such backbitting sort of things. I believe in one thing only, "If you are pure at your soul, you don't have to worry about someone knocking your door at midnight" You just have to be faithful to your partner and if he/she knows about yourself and your past life and all, I don't think such kind of situations will trouble your BF/GF.
@MySpot (2602)
• United States
24 Feb 07
She lied to her? She had to have known that your girlfriend was disturbed if it was so immediately obvious to you.... doesn't sound like a very good friend to me!
@capriage (29)
• United States
24 Feb 07
get her a boyfriend dude if you care about your friend .. obviously she wud get jealous . talking to a friend and sharing things with her is something else.. she might not get jealous then .. she might be trying to listen to you all the time so she could prove to you that she is your best friend .. but actually making her confront your girlfriend can be hard for her . she can become jealous .. not necessarily because she loves but just because even best friends gets jealous when they know their best friend is bieng shared by someone else as well ... you can try it on you as well .. get her a boyfriend .. let her spend sometime with him .. and then just suppose at that time you do not have any girl friend .. you will get jealous with her boyfriend..... its not ur friends fault ..its just her fear that she might loose a best friend ...