Does anyone here having a speical child? How do you care for them?

Philippines
February 23, 2007 9:52pm CST
As moms, it's so painful for us having a special child. But, i am very fortunate that my daughter is a normal kid, without body deformities.. I pity those moms who have kids like a special one because i'm sure that it's difficult to take care of this kids but i know parents will do anything for their kids no matter what they kids are...
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@sacmom (14338)
• United States
24 Feb 07
My oldest is autistic. He will be 10 in June. It can be very difficult to take care of him at times, though I am blessed that he is physically healthy. I know it could be worse and try to remember that when he's driving me nuts. After all, don't all kids, "normal" or not, drive their parents nuts at one point or another? I know I did! LOL
• Philippines
25 Feb 07
I know it's difficult, but i'm pretty sure that your the best mom for your child..Take good care of him..God Bless!! :)
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• United States
24 Feb 07
I have a cousin who has many brain tumors. He has the mind of a 1 year old due to it. Because i was exposed to someone with a defect, i grew up really comfortable with them, and throughout school volunteered to help with kids my own age with downs syndrome. I learned sign language and made some very very special friends who taught me alot about what is importaint in life.
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• Philippines
25 Feb 07
Thats good for you, being exposed to those who have defects,being their friend and learning their language..Sorry for what had happened to your cousin,i know it's not easy to have that kind of child...thanks for the response.. :)
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@catcai (1057)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
I have a special brother, he's autistic and he's 25 years old, you care for them just as you would care for a normal child, with all the love and support you can provide with an added bonus of a little more understanding. That's mostly a misconcepcion for those with special children- they treat them EXTRA special as in spoil them, but they shouldn't do that, at the best of their efforts they should at last make the child feel he is normal in a way that he has to figure out or do some things independently and on his own.
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
i agree with you girl..even they are special, sometimes they know what's happening around and thus treating them extra special, as u said, it makes them spoil..thanks!
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@sagarss (260)
• India
24 Feb 07
Well my uncle is a specail child,But grown up now,At the age of 41 ,i agree to what u say,I was 12 yrs with him ,to tell u it was no easy task to take care of him,he used to hit my grand mum and grandad when he felt like ,I really pity him and my grandmom
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• Philippines
24 Feb 07
ohh..sorry for that..but i know God has a purpose why he makes your uncle a special one..thanks for the response..
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• United States
25 Feb 07
My 5 yr old is autistic. Life with him is okay and the stresses parents deal with are those from the community. I can handle anything Caleb presents me with but what I have a hard time dealing with is people staring, muttering under their breath and offering advice when they have no clue of the problem. I started a website after he was diagnosed called http://www.thescarletletter.org there is an article called "Why the Scarlet Letter" and I explain the social stigma and how it hurts and stresses the family. I had really hoped to go somewhere with that site but I don't have much free time. Maybe one day I can pick up where I left off to shed some light on what daily life is like for a family with an autistic child.
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@anij34 (317)
• United States
24 Feb 07
I "pity" people like you who are ignorant. Why would you "pity" someone because their child is "special" or has disabilities....thats just so ignorant. Do you realize that the people in the world that have these awesome children are far more blessed as parents than we are who have "normal kids". What do I mean? They get all the pitiful stares and comments, they don't understand what the big deal is, its everyday life for their family. They have learned how to love in a way that the rest of us have no idea about. Acceptance and love are even deeper with families that experience special needs kids.
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• Abbotsford, Wisconsin
28 Apr 07
I am not the Mother of One, but I am an Auntie of an Autistic Nephew I often watch all the time. Now its been kind of hard as he is going through the voice changes, and entering highschool after appearing like a 5 year old most of his life. I am glad to watch him grow into a nice young man, but it is very challenging at times to help others understand his Autism... Usually him and I stay home alot he plays with the TV, and I play with the computer and we take turns sharing stories with eachother about what we just saw :) .. I think the rest of my family does not realise how smart he is.. Not they are all blown away to realise he speaks Spanish better than he does English...Most of my family struggles with Spanish, and I think he loves to watch my family struggling as then he realises he is not the only one struggling with communication, and he'll help you. I help mom with special needs foster children, as well... Yep, At first the Special Needs things is hard to deal with, but after you get to understand the illness they have, and learn how to help them, It is not as tough, and you learn to adjust and be tolerance of the issues you have to deal with you normally do not in other children. I care for them as a friend and Auntie and as a Sister. I am glad I am not the mother, as a Special needs or not a Special needs, I do not think I would make a good mother. I tend to want to do my own thing to much. Take care, - DNatureofDTrain