Could you give me some advice??

@myjack (132)
China
February 25, 2007 12:24am CST
My mother is a very kind person,I know that she loves me vety much,but she always verbalizes to me ,sometimes it annoyed me a lot.however,I don't want to tell that directly to her,maybe it will hurt her.So could you give me some advices to solve this problem properly?
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@catcai (1056)
• Philippines
25 Feb 07
I know its kinda embarrasing specially when you reach a certain age but you know what? cherish it as much as you can, there are other people who would die for a mom's affection, besides, your mom wont always be with you forever so she's just making sure that while she can, she makes an effort to let you know how much she loves you even if you get into fights with her sometimes and even if she scolds you. Maybe you could try telling it to her when your with her alone, in a nice and soft spoken kind of way and explain to her that it bothers you sometimes and that you dont want to hurt her feelings dont forget to tell her that you love her too and thank her for everything. Well, best of luck to you =)
@myjack (132)
• China
25 Feb 07
Thanks for your suggestions,I will try as you said...
@ILANEDRI (1921)
• Israel
25 Feb 07
There are a lot of ways to talk about it with her, and not to hurt her feeling. Take her to a talk, and tell her how you about it. Tell her that you don't like her doing it, and it bothers you. I am sure that she will understand, and won't get offended, because she is your mother, and she only wants the bext for you!
@Sailor (1160)
• United States
25 Feb 07
I'm not sure what you mean be verbalize to you. If you mean that when she tells you things she breaks it down so that you completely understand everything she wants or expects from you, then what she is doing is good and is teaching you a life skill. In life many people don't know how to express themselves and ask for exactly what the want. You Mom is teaching you by her actions how to communicate with people. If you mean something different, feel free to ask.
@Fishish (696)
• India
25 Feb 07
i think yout should just let her be and let her continue with it and try to change your aytitude. it is a comon problem whic kids face. or else u could try to tell her this when u know that she is ready to listen . try to makew her see your point. also tell her that as a parent she has to change as u grow, if she does not she might haev problems in an older age, like she might not be readyt to accept te ways of others as people tend to become selective and stubborn in old age.
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
I guess by all means you need to tell your mother how you really feel about things...well, if you're afraid to tell her straight, you can get a card for her and tell her there what you feel and that would somehow invite your mom to talk to you further so you could talk things over...I hope that one helps...
• China
6 Oct 07
All the mums in the world are all the same. That's not your problem. That's a lot of children's problem. My mum also verbalizes to me, and I sometimes think it's terrible. But maybe it's happiness to them. They have a lot of experiences and want to tell us, but unfortunately we like to try it ourselves even if it fails. Don't worry. When you have a child, you will understand your mum. And it's your turn to verbalize to your baby.
• China
25 Feb 07
well,it's similar to my mama.i know it very well that she loved me but we still have quarral.for istance,i'll fly to Kunming alone tomorrow.mama helped me buy ticket and pack up.i hated she preparing everying for me and i expect i can manage all.