Teen problems

United States
February 26, 2007 1:36pm CST
I have a 16 year old boy who is not very quiet when he is "spending time" with himself, if you get my drift. How do I address this? Should I? I know that this is nornal, but I really don't want to know when he does it. Please Help.
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• United States
27 Feb 07
Maybe your husband should suggest that he listen to music or something during that time so that it's no so obvious. Other than that I have no suggestions. I would have said have his TV (if he has one in his room) on but who knows what he'd turn on LOL. :)
• United States
27 Feb 07
there is a problem, no husband. there is only 2 moms with no male influence.
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• United States
2 Mar 07
Humm...that does pose a problem. Sorry... Does none include no Grandpas?
• United States
11 Mar 07
I have two daughters, no sons, but I'm a godfather to a teenage boy. We talk openly about almost anything. I think bluntness is the only way to really get the message across. If you show him that you're not upset that he's doing that, just with the noise, I really believe that he'll probably get embarrassed and maybe angry for a bit, but he'll appreciate it in the long run. Good luck!
• United States
27 Feb 07
yah pretty much hint around how easy sound travels in the house. hopefully he will get the hint....maybe suggest he listen to his stereo when he is "alone"? to muffle it if there is no way to hide it at all. i mean if sound travels really easily i would rather hear music than a kid doing his business.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
26 Feb 07
I think I'd address it casually and hope he got the drift. Like if he has his stereo on, you could casually mention how much sound from his room travels through the house. Or say gosh are you sick, I could hear you coughing in your room all the way out in the kitchen or whatever. If he does it in the bathroom then you could come up with similar situations to let him know his "voice" carries without having to directly tell him what you can hear him doing. Hopefully he'll get the hint without causing too much embarrassment on either side. If not just mention it in passing with some understanding humor and walk away. A lot of teenage issues are best handled by letting them know that you know without actually saying that you know.
@fatragu (677)
• United States
3 Mar 07
My husband says that the father or father figure in his life needs to talk to him about it because it will be less embarassing coming from someone that knows what he is going through then from someone that doesn't have that body part.