Is my husband a transvestite?

February 26, 2007 4:01pm CST
I have been happily married for 7 years. My husband is a loving, caring man and we have 2 wonderful children. He has always been well dressed and taken pride in his appearance. Last year I started a beauty therapy course which include facials, make up, manicure and pedicures. I asked my husband if I could practise on him and whilst being a bit reluctant eventually agreed. At first this was fine I would make him up or paint his nails and then take it all off again. Then he said he wanted to leave it on for the evening just for a laugh with the kids. I didnt think it was anything to worry about. Two days ago I went shopping with my friend for the afternoon but this was cut short as she was not feeling too good. When I got home I found my husband with make up on his face and painting his nails. He said he just wanted to see if he could do it. Should i be worried?
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@hezoid (2148)
27 Feb 07
He's probably just curious, like i imagine a lot of men are. I think men secretly covert our female possessions, like make up, toiletries, jewellery, clothes etc. If you think about it most stuff like that for men just doesn't exist or is really boring, so be probably just wnated to see what it was like, and have a bit of fun. I wouldn't worry about it unless he starts doing it behind your back a lot and makes a habit of it!
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27 Feb 07
You are probably right. I hope it was just curiosity but it was just such a shock to find him putting make up on himself. I guess only time will tell but I cant help but worry about it.
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@thyst07 (2091)
• United States
26 Feb 07
I don't think you should be too worried, unless it's a recurrent activity. Men get curious about all the weird stuff we do- makeup, fingernail polish, pantyhose, waxing, the works. It's all completely foreign and alien to them. Some of them give into their curiosity and decide to find out about all this stuff hands-on. If nothing else, you could always appreciate the fact that your husband probably has a better idea of what you go through each morning to look good...
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26 Feb 07
I never thought of it that way - thank you. I just hope you are right and that this will be a one off.
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@twils2 (1812)
• United States
11 Mar 07
As a crossdresser, I guess I just dont see what would be wrong if he did enjoy it. Do you think he would love you any less, would you love him any less. I serously doubt he would ever want to do these kind of things full time and it doesnt really hurt anyone. Take it from someone that knows, putting on make-up, doing your nails, maybe wearing girls clothing doesnt make you gay. You might even be willing to tease him next time you go shopping and ask him if he would like his own make-up or what color of nail polish he likes. I've been happily married for ten years and my wife knows all about me. She doesnt really understand it but she knows that I love her and would do nothing to embaress her in public. So no, I dont think you have anything to worry about.
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16 Mar 07
Thank you for your comment. In many ways I agree with you and admire your honesty. I just never thought of it being something he would have done. Just to let everyone know - I am pretty sure he hasnt done it again.
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@chertsy (3804)
• United States
26 Feb 07
I wouldn't worry til, he wants to try on wigs and see if he can wear your clothes. My husband on the other hand doesn't like clear nail polish on his toes. Just don't laugh at him or be like OMG what are you doing. Especially don't say hold on I have to get the camera. LOL, I have a picture of my husband wearing my daughter's princess crown. Honestly, I wouldn't be to worried, but I would ask why he decided to do it once you left the house. Also you can joke by saying, if your going to start to wear makeup, buy your own, lol. To break the ice, I guess you would say without hurting his feelings.
26 Feb 07
he said he didnt plan to do it at all. He went into the bedroom to put his wallet away and saw my make up and just thought he would try it. Although he said he wouldnt have done it if i had been home because of what i would think. he said he was just trying it to see if he could do it.
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@palpalsky (900)
• United States
18 Mar 07
well the only answer for this thing is with your husband . so i think you can have one to one talk with them and ask him very nicely about this ..remember you are the person you have to work on situation and you have to support your husband ..well dont worry ..talking will help to finf solution
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@jhartana (1085)
• Australia
27 Feb 07
You don't have to worry about your husband. He was just curious to try women's stuff and I don't see nothing wrong. He was meant to be joking on you, so don't take it seriously.
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• United States
27 Feb 07
Well.... as long as he doesn't go out in public and doesnt do it on a normal basis I wouldnt be too worried about it.
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• United States
27 Feb 07
I don't think you should be worried. He might just enjoy the feeling and attention that comes from pampering the self, what so many women do, and because he got that through your testing on him maybe he wanted to try and recreate a feeling it evoked in him.
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@kittles (156)
27 Feb 07
He's probably just curious I remember my ex boyfriend told me when he was younger he used to try on his mother and sister's make up and paint his nails- but he had no desire to be female or anything, he just liked doing it (It was actually quite useful I used to ask him to put on nail polish on my right hand and he was very good at it lol)
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