How did having kids change your marriage?

@GuateMom (1411)
Canada
February 26, 2007 9:20pm CST
My son is 14 months old and my relationship with my husband has changed drastically since his birth. We are very focused on our son and don´t seem to pay much attention to each other. Between work and child care, we are exhausted at night and just watch a bit of tv before crashing. How did kids change your life and what did you do to reconnect with your spouse?
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@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
27 Feb 07
When we had our son, CJ, it happened the same way for us and we're still in a slump. CJ is almost 9...lol We love each other dearly but our son comes first, to me, anyway and I'm sure it's the same for my hubby. When we found out CJ had Autism at 2 1/2, then it really got a bit hectic. We wouldn't change anything and we do make time for each other on occasion; not very often but when we do we reconnect a bit of what we used to have.
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@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
27 Feb 07
This is so very true; Bless you and yours
@mememama (3077)
• United States
27 Feb 07
It's definately changed our marriage in many ways. We make sure that if we have a problem, we get it out there in the open, otherwise we'll never talk. We cook dinner together or clean up together. Once a week, we'll rent a movie and watch it once our son is asleep. I get up with him in the morning and we drink coffee together. It is very important to stay connected to your spouse, it's hard but you got to find time, even if it's just for a few minutes here and there.
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@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
27 Feb 07
Hmmm, wonder if I can get my guy to clean up with me! :) I agree, though, it´s important to find a few minutes to get together. Exhaustion is a big factor in our lives, though.
@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
5 Mar 07
I know its hard to find time after you have kids but I have a something you might find interesting. My husband and went out all the time before we hed kids. Now we have three. We have what we call date night. At least twice a month we go out by ourselves. It is wonderful for just those few hours to have a conversation with my husband that doesn't include don't forget milk.
@Newbie11 (197)
• United States
28 Feb 07
Yeah child after marriage changes the relationship.After my son was born my husband and me both got very attracted towards him.All our time was spent to watch every moment of him.We also had the same experience at night. Now he has grown up and everything is fine again.we have time again for each other.Nights are lovely again.Its a phase of life.So donot worry.
@xavier_sh (222)
• Nepal
27 Feb 07
actually birth of my son have increased love and understanding between us. though we are focused most of the time for baby but it brings us clsoe to each other. at lazer tome we sit together and talk to him his speech less talking makes us happy. try to enjoy ur life with ur baby donot feel as if he has made both of u far from each other.
@xavier_sh (222)
• Nepal
27 Feb 07
actually birth of my son have increased love and understanding between us. though we are focused most of the time for baby but it brings us clsoe to each other. at lazer tome we sit together and talk to him his speech less talking makes us happy. try to enjoy ur life with ur baby donot feel as if he has made both of u far from each other..
@mary94 (7)
• United States
27 Feb 07
well, great. Kids are great to strengtning the tighs and making the relationship even stronger. this is natural.