telling you what to do with your kids
By itsjustmeb
@itsjustmeb (1212)
Canada
February 26, 2007 11:16pm CST
I am involved in a couple of parenting groups out here...and today was speaking with one of the workers about my daughters delayed vaccinations. When I mentioned that we have delayed her vaccinations until we can speak to someone about her last reaction (her four month shots caused both of her little legs to turn dark purple!), she said I should go look up pictures about what the diseases look like, that the vaccines protect against.
Now...I went to them for support not to be told what to do. I am not putting my daughter in danger by not vaccinating her until we find out for sure what caused her legs to go purple. I mean wouldn't that scare you?
What do you say to these people? Can you politely say "im sorry, but until we discover what caused the reaction, we'd rather take our chances with the world" or just smile and nod?
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5 responses
@dreamingmyth (594)
• United States
27 Feb 07
boundries! i think you may want to politely set boundries with them. i could see if they made a suggestion but to tell you what to do is just not right! id set them aside and say "look i understand you only want to help, but i dont like it very much when im told what to do." "im open to suggestions though" or something like that.. that way they know that telling you what to do is overstepping boundries.
and i do hope ur able to find out what made your daughters legs turn purple soon! i think that would scare me to no end!
@mama_of_two (268)
• United States
27 Feb 07
I agree with dreamingmyth. Setting boundaries with certain people, especially people in parenting groups, is the best thing for you to do. No one has a right to tell you what to do with your children, and you have a concern with shots is very important. You don't ever know what these shots can do to them, especially in this sense.
@6in12years (305)
• United States
7 May 07
You'll always have people telling you how to take care of your children. I took my 6th baby to the store and a lady stopped me to tell me he needed socks (in 80 degrees). My experience is that the best/easiest reaction is to smile and nod. Occasionally if I'm in the mood to debate I'll list the reasons I do things differently.
@mama_of_two (268)
• United States
27 Feb 07
I would be polite to them and tell them the truth. Who are they to judge you for what you do with your children? There are many mothers and fathers who do not believe in getting their babies vaccinated at this time of their life.
Now, as far as these vaccinations go, I can totally understand not wanting to do this. My 4 month old daughter had her 4 month checkup on the 13th, and one of her shots gave her a bruise on her leg, which didn't happen the last time. I do sometimes question whether or not these are good for her at this time of her life, but then I feel that I need to so she doesn't get sick with something that can be prevented through these shots.
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
27 Feb 07
You need to tell them plainly why you are waiting. I mean, it's nice to have someone there for support, but you aren't there to have people to tell you what to do. Just tell them why you are waiting.
@sebab315 (108)
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
it's best that you be honest with what you really feel and say you arent taking any chances.
