How polite should we be with our dear ones when their behaviour really hurts?

February 27, 2007 12:40am CST
I am confused to deal with this situation. How polite should we be with our dear ones when their behaviour really hurts? When I don’t let my ego come in between the relationship and be polite and more understandable all the time, the other person just behaves in their own way. Suppose we try to be honest and tell them directly then they feel hurt and if you don’t, your self respect hurts. Please guide me.
3 responses
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
There are diplomatic ways of telling people you love that their behavior is inappropriate. I suggest the following: 1. do not use a condescending tone of voice 2. explain how his/her behavior affects you. Don't just say you hate their behavior or that they are wrong. 3. Suggest a means by which they can alter their behavior without scarificing their identity/individuality Sometimes, we forget to be kinder to people near and dear to us. We reserve our best behavior for others. But that is not the way it should be.
• India
27 Feb 07
thanks for the response. the first three ways i have tried so as to try the 4th point you said. but it will apply to only some people not all. will try that again may be it will help.
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
if it really hurts then tell them nicely, sit down and talk about it. if you will just keep quiet then that hurting behavior they have will never be corrected. if they hurt you they can also hurt other people. if you cant tell them straight then write a letter then explain it there the hurting behavior you relly want to correct. theres no harm on trying, atleast you tried.
@dubaimt (273)
• United Arab Emirates
28 Feb 07
i am a very frank person and i tell it to them if their behavior is unacceptable. we were brought that way.