Is it ok to get married to a lady five older than you?

Uganda
February 27, 2007 1:04am CST
In my culture, its bad omen to get married to a woman much older than you. Whats your opinion, is it OK or is it bad omen? How is it in your culture? What should be the perfect age difference between married couples? Is five and above OK?
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@wrdsofwisdm (1070)
• United States
27 Feb 07
It depends on the maturity level of the younger man. If you have enough in common and are truly in love, 5 years should not make a difference.
@vivekk20 (185)
• India
27 Feb 07
i dont know from which country you are. this is a good topic for debate and it will take long enough to discuss this topic. basically this depends upon person to person, it is our brain who likes and dislikes. if yuo are in love with a older female then you can go ahead. age does not matter if the difference is not too big , otherwise there will be a great difference in thinking and life style which may interfere the relationship.
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• Uganda
27 Feb 07
Thanks vivekk for the response.My country is uganda.one of the reasons why marrying a lady much older than the man is considered bad in my country is indeed the difference in thinking,reasoning,tastes and preferences etc... Another one is failure to bear children. In my culture one is not considered man enough if he does not bear children.It widely believed here that a much older woman will make a young blind not think about children.
@twils2 (1812)
• United States
27 Feb 07
Hi, My wife is 12 years older than I am and we have been married for 9 years now and we are very happy. I wouldnt consider it bad luck if you two love each other why would five years stop you.
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@philabox (287)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 07
Married basic is love much each other. Its free to get your sopul mate friend...
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• Indonesia
27 Feb 07
Dear Bro Bmawanda Love doesn't have any relation with Bad omen. Trust me. if you really love her why do u bother thinking about bad omen? is your love not big enough to take any risk lies in front of you? Have faith in your love brother. according to chinese people like me. the best age differences is the man should be 4 years older than the woman. because they say it is balance like 4 legged table. once again please think about your love. is your love big enough? or your ego is bigger than your love? i hope that you'll have a brighter future with her all the best for you regards Kei
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• Philippines
27 Feb 07
it is very ok!...if you love her, then age doesnt matter anymore!...age is not important in marriage!...the more importan is the feelings and emotions towards that person!...
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• Philippines
27 Feb 07
I am a female, but I will respond to this discussion just the same. I don't believe in omens, especially this one about marrying a woman older than you. The success of a marriagelies in the compatibility of the 2 partners. It doesn't matter who is older. What's important is that both persons love and understand each other well. They must also be ready to commit their life fully for each other.
@jeanvill (654)
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
will in my culture theres nothing wrong with the age as long as you in love to each other and ready to have a family theres no big deal for us here...
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
27 Feb 07
Where I live, it's more common for younger women to marry older men, but the reverse is happening more often these days. I don't think there's anything wrong with it either way, as long as the two people involved are happy. I don't think there is a perfect age difference. I know people who are the same age that are happy together, and I also know people who are ten or more years apart that are happy. It all depends on the maturity levels and personalities of the people involved. My husband and I are pretty close in age (4 years difference) compared to a lot of the other people I dated before him. When I was very young I dated people older than me, and it was a bad decision, because it led me into some situations I wasn't ready for. However, I think once you're an adult it doesn't make as big a difference.