How to get on well with everybody in a big family?

@yueliu (1623)
China
February 27, 2007 4:14am CST
When you are in a big family, you have many sisters,brothers,uncles,aunts…. It's a trouble thing to get well with everyone. I do find it is difficult.If I say something one is happy but others may unhappy.what's more it is difficult to satisfy everybody. How could you do to pleasent all your family?
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@NatureBoy (493)
• Singapore
27 Feb 07
Well, first of all learn to make general comments. Never talk bad about anyone of your siblings in front of other siblings. Make merry with them. Joke around as you would with your best friends. You are not really out to make everybody happy, just learn to make yourself happy. And in turn, use your laughter to make the whole family happy. This way you bring joy to everyone and by then, i'm sure all will be well.
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@yueliu (1623)
• China
28 Feb 07
thank u~
@azriel (2108)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
I try not to please everybody, otherwise I will just be a doormat. You don't really have to go around pleasing everybody, whether in your own household or outside. And if you try to think about what everybody else is thinking, it will just drive you crazy. Just be yourself, people are generally more forgiving if they can see that you have your own personality. Not everyone is the same.
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@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
27 Feb 07
Well I would try not to spend to much time with the ones that made me unhappy. I know at family get togethers you can't avoid them but try to spend most of your time with the nice ones.
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@mythmoh (3986)
• United States
27 Feb 07
as far as possible try to be polite and have smile always.dont complain about one to the other.try to remember all the important dates like their Bday etc and wish or gift them.dont forget anyone's.exhibit your care and kindness and have control over your temper.it wouldn't be possible to satisfy all.but you wont get any trouble if you show your positive side.there is one proverb "if you sow.,sow shall you reap".so sow kindness and reap happiness.
• United States
27 Feb 07
Keep your mouth shut and have no opionion. And always say:"you are probably right".
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@yanjiaren (9050)
27 Feb 07
one thing i have found is to lay low and just keep smiling lol..you can never make everyone happy all the time..i learnt that the hard way..make sure you have a retreat corner to go to when things get a bit too hot and spicy..that helps you to recharge..just always show patience as keeping the higher gtound you win the battle lol..
@aksingh (20)
• India
6 Mar 07
Well If a few years back if you have asked me the same question. I would have said that it is impossible . But my opinion has surely changed after my brothers wife joined our family .She has really achieved it . It is beacuse some attributes of her that very few posses.First she is very good with kids... That make there parents automatically happy . She never gossips.She says what she thinks . She knows to respect the elders and has a hostile nature . She has lot to speak about . With that she is modern and really maintains a good balance . God Please Bless her with all my hapiness! . She truly desrves it !
@allwin (297)
• India
6 Mar 07
itz all bout priority.. i have relationship n religion as my first priority so i give a lot of importance to family.. i don't mind bout my future or what i earn .. but i prioritize relationship...