Does anyone else think it's weird when "older" people refer to their "boyfriend"

United States
February 27, 2007 8:42am CST
or "girlfriend"? I'm talking elderly old, not my age old! LOL I have a lady friend in her 70's and everyone talks about her and her "boyfriend". I crack up every time. AT 70 something I just don't think of anyone having a "boyfriend" or "girlfriend". I'm not sure why and I know it's stupid because I think it's fine to call them that at other ages but when they reach elderly it just sounds strange to me.
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@eminyone (113)
• United States
27 Feb 07
i think it is great that older people are still dating. i hope that when i am in my 70's i am still getting around. i agree that it is wiierd to think about. i guess it is because we dont think of elderly people dating, its like a young thing. i work with this woman that was about 65 and she had a 40 yeaar old boyfriend, she didnt look her age at all and she told me she was actually ashamed to tell anyone about her boyfriend. she is very prim and propper, christian. she said she didnt want people to think bad of her. i told her i was proud of her she is a very beautiful, loving person and she deserved to be with someone, even if he was 20-30 years younger than her. he even went and help her buy her car.
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• United States
27 Feb 07
LOL.. I think it's great too and I'm certain I'll be one who's dating when I'm that age as I don't think I will EVER desire to marry again. I just think it's so "weird" when they call them boyfriends and such. I love that they are still active enough to have a boyfriend or girlfriend though!
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@beaniegdi (1966)
27 Feb 07
Sometimes people say that in fun as it is not usual to date in your 70's. It is great that she still has a love life. My grandma was in a nursing home and she had 2 of them on t he go and they had a bit of a fight because one of the gys was jealous because the other was in my grandmas room. this is in the heart of yorkshire and these are all genteel types. My grans was in her 80s
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@eminyone (113)
• United States
27 Feb 07
i think that is good to find love in the home! i think everyone needs someone maybe even 2 someones, but its better than being alone.
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@myrith (1830)
• Canada
27 Feb 07
well they are still alive, why not. There is no limit on what you can say even if others think it's inappropriate.
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• United States
27 Feb 07
Oh I applaud them for going for it and having a romantic life... it just makes me laugh to hear them referred to as a "boy" friend. LOL
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
27 Feb 07
Hahahahahaha elderly old, not my age old, you are too funny. Yes, it does sound weird when they use the term boyfriend/girfriend I guess because we associate that with young people only.
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• United States
27 Feb 07
LOL.. what can I say? I'm just being honest. I've reached the point where "kids" think of me as old.... I'm sure! Although all the teens tell me when I say I'm an old lady that I'm nuts, I'm not old at all. I try to remind them that being immature and "old" is ok! LOL
@rx4life (1932)
• United States
27 Feb 07
I work in an area that has a large population of retired folks in independent living homes and it seems the largest portion are over 75...I find it very endearing when I see "love blooming" among the residents...Recently I was talking to a lady in her early 80's about her medication and she said " My boy-toy will pick up the other prescription after he works out at the gym"....I thought I'd fall over...she coyly smiled at my surprised look and added "Just because we are closing in on the final years of our lives doesn't mean we stop living..."...I responded that I was not surprised that she would have a man in her life..but rather that she would refer to him as her boy-toy...she laughed and said..." oh, my great grandaughter gave him that moniker the 2nd time she met him...I guess it's because he adores me and even started going to the gym so he can look good for me"!!!! We had a good laugh...but I must admit...I thought that was the strangest reference to an over 80 yo companion I ever heard!!!!!
• United States
27 Feb 07
LMAO.... now THAT sounds like me as I tend to date men much younger! LOL.... Oh that moment would have been priceless!
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@rx4life (1932)
• United States
28 Feb 07
Truly priceless... I wrote it in my journal..and everytime I see her I'm sure I will giggle inside!!!
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@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
28 Feb 07
You can always say my matte or partner, but it doesnt sound good anyway. However boyfriend is just a name refering the status and you should be in any status you want in any stage of your life, dont see anything wrong on it.
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• United States
28 Feb 07
Oh, I'm not knocking them HAVING one by any means! I love that at an older age people still have romance! It just makes me chuckle at the use of the word. Seems weird!
@zotopec (307)
• Pakistan
27 Feb 07
You are more of a role-bound person. When someone gets in on the years way deep, you think they are only fit to be called granny or grandpa or something like that. But I think it is quite romantic because a human is a human in the first place and other roles come after that. Age does not matter that much, after all, a fort aged still remains a fort inhabited or uninhabited, whatever.
• United States
28 Feb 07
Oh it's great that they have the romance. I just laugh at the word when they use it. LOL
@Joey322 (272)
• United States
27 Feb 07
i know what you mean, but i think it's cute. at first i thought it was kind of weird, but the more i started stepping outside of my own "box" and looking at it from their perspective...well, we're the ones making them old, aren't we?? they are only as old as they feel and i think it's sweet that they are still spicing their lives up with bf & gfs:) we could always try to change the trend and refer to older people's gf and bfs as their "buddies". like: jenny and her buddy went to the store the other day. that's not quite as creepy! take care:)
• United States
27 Feb 07
LOL... I agree it's great by any terms. I hope I'm still romantic at that age!
@shywolf (4520)
• United States
27 Feb 07
Aw, I think that it's cute! I don't see anything wrong with it at all. I do understand where you're coming from, it does seem like a slightly more 'youthful' word than for someone in their 70's-80's to be using, but at 31 I would definitely still call someone my boyfriend if I had someone that I were dating. I don't know what I would call someone if I were that much older, but the word boyfriend is just so much easier to come up with in a pinch, since it's so widely used.
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• United States
27 Feb 07
Well I do think all the more power to them but it is a weird term to hear at that age! LOL
• United States
27 Feb 07
Personally, I have not come across this yet. But I have come across this: I work at a lawfirm and there is an elderly man who just moved out of Michigan to stay in a nursing home naer his sons. Well, before he left his wife filed for divorce. I tell you, this man is 93 years old. So, I thought that was odd that at that old they are getting divorced. It's rather a sad story, but still weird to me. Also, I can't recall if it was a friend of mine's story, or a news story, but I recall hearing about a 75 year old couple getting married. So, here's a question to you: What's weirder an "older" person saying her "boyfriend" or saying her "fiance". Yeah, that would be weird! But they're only human, they can be in love too :), there's no age on love.
• United States
27 Feb 07
LOL... well it would be a different thing to hear indeed!
@imadriscoll (2230)
• United States
27 Feb 07
Yes, I have always thought this weird too. I guess that we make assumptions that at their age they have grandchildren who are probably beginning to have boyfriend/girlfriends and it places them in the same "stage" of life. I always wonder how they became girlfriend/boyfriend ... like did she have her BFF at the nursing home slip him a note in the lunch line that said something like, "Do you like Bertha? Check Yes or No." It's kind of nice knowing that it still happens at that age, people live a lot longer then they used to and some of these people could still get married and celebrate their 20th anniversary! Can you imagine? One woman could be married to her first husband for 40-50 years, widow, get married to her boyfriend and be married for another 20 years??
• United States
27 Feb 07
LOL... what a picture in my mind! Bunch of grey haired women sitting around singing Bertha and Jerry sittin' in a tree... LOL
@sharon613 (2323)
• United States
28 Feb 07
It sounds strange to me as well; Here in Florida, practically all the elderly who are living with a so called partner call one another there boyfriend/girlfriend.
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• Romania
28 Feb 07
It depends.For us it is surely strange because we have a different mentality about these things.For them,those words might seem very normal to be pronounced at that age.It depends.
• Oman
28 Feb 07
I think its kinda cute. It can be funny at times but then what else would you call them manfriend and ladyfriend. That sounds like something else completely. I guess the dictionary still has to come up with a term for it because 20-30 years back you never found so many old people having girlfriends or boyfriends. Anyway I think its great that they can find love and companionship at that age. Old age can be very lonely and its nice to have someone your age who you can share memories with especially since their children seem to be so involved in their own lives and dont have that much time for them.
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• Philippines
28 Feb 07
i do not think it's weird, it's natural, the difference only is their age, but when it comes to heart, even you are 70 or older, they have the right to have boyfriend or girlfriend. good day
@yorb24 (2181)
• United States
28 Feb 07
Yeah it does sound weird. It's hard not to giggle when someone much older says boyfriend or girlfriend. I do think it's cute though. Having a boyfriend or girlfriend at such an old age lol.
@Poison_Girl (4163)
• United States
28 Feb 07
Yeah, I find it funny, too! Glad I'm not the only one. I actually think it's kinda funny even when they're... well... pretty much older than me. Like someone in their 40s even. Yeah, I know it's a bit silly for us to think it's kinda funny, but oh well. What can you do??
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@sigma77 (5385)
• United States
28 Feb 07
It doesn't bother me. We will all be there someday. Age really has nothing to do with anything. It is the state of mind and how a person thinks that makes all the difference. Not what others say or think.
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• United States
28 Feb 07
I think it is cute! My grandma, in her eighties has a "boyfriend" twenty five years after being a widow! She oddly enough does not refer to him as her her boyfriend...but as her "friend" which is even stranger lol. Whatevery you call it, it is a companion. And if they are happy then you tell your neighbor---"You Go Girl". Hahaha
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@pendragon (3352)
• United States
27 Feb 07
I think it's cute, and I'm glad that they have someone to keep them young at heart! :)
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@COLLIS2 (479)
• United States
27 Feb 07
Most definitely. I actually prefer them to say significant other or something like that or even spouse. It just seems that people this past their prime in life should definitely at least be able to make some sort of commitment that goes beyond high school years.