When You Are Hurting??? Do you retaliate?

i think its human nature to want to retaliate when you are hurting. We react like an enraged beast when we are in pain and often lash out either verbally or physically. On cool reflection, it does little good to react this way. I dont think any individual can feel exactly the same as another. What may hurt one person may well not hurt another therefore I think giving him a taste of his own medicine would not help in the long run, but it would certainly make you feel beter, blessed be

It's really very difficult to be hurt and when we're hurt, our instinct of self-preservation reacts and wants to retaliate immediately but it's very difficult to be doing things that may make us regret later on. So whatever we feel at that moment, we should control ourselves. We should have strong self-disicipline.

I agree with Ekarena that it does no good to retaliate in the same way as someone else because not everyone has the same emotional processes. When I've been caused pain - I've talked myself through it - I have cried over it on the odd occassion because it is a form of release. When I'm hurting - instead of retaliating in an abrupt manner - I will 'talk' myself through what I could have done, consider the possible reactions of the other person, and go through the hurt in this manner. I have retaliated once - and it didn't feel as if the other person understood where I was coming from. The retaliation was unlike something I would do - but I thought it would make a point ... it did and it didn't.